A Letter to My 20 year Old Self
20 was such an important age for me. It felt like life was happening right then and there. I kind of felt that I was the center of the universe and that the earth revolves round me :). And those days still stay the most happening & important part of my life. As I double myself (I will be 40 this November) ; in this short and sweet letter to my 20 year old self, I so wish to write that –
You are both right and wrong.
When it comes to desirability, it is better to have our own self as a reference point, than some twisted standard evolved by the society. In any case, men want desirable women and sometimes men. And women want desirable men, and sometimes women. And it is all fine. But a twisted understanding of desirability and what falls under ‘highly desirable’ is what is not fine.
Have you noticed the extent to which we human beings go to avoid doing what needs to be done? 🙂
‘How to quit smoking’, ‘How to overcome laziness’, ‘How to control my anger’, ‘How to overcome my Mobile phone / television addiction’ to even ‘How do I bring an end to my Nail Biting habit’ – some of the questions which I regularly end up answering as a part of my work. I thought to bury it all in a blog post by straight answering ‘How to get rid of any of your bad habits’.
- Spot & Catch the early signs of a good stock in the Stock market. Those who caught the early signs of Infosys or Asian Paints or Titan early – became micro Jhunjhunwalas . Someone who invested INR 10,000 in 1990 into HDFC is sitting on 71 crores today. Reason- he hunched right the early signs of the growing Home loan industry in the growing India. Plus also he had the patience to stay put with his decision. It is difficult to do but not impossible.
India is perhaps the only country where the largest numbers of people first become Engineers / MBAs and then decide ‘What they want to be in their lives’. We usually pick up trends / road most travelled because — it is safe, tested & gives us an illusory feeling of ‘belonging to the mainland’. This motivational TEDx video from SIBM, Bangalore is an attempt to share my story of having done a PG in Fashion from NIFT, New Delhi & then going on to become a Motivational Speaker & a Corporate Trainer.
I turn 35 in a few days. It is a confusing age. Something within you tells you that you have grown up. Still there is that another something within you that doesn’t want you to give up so soon —on your ‘single, flirty’ ways about life. As I look back at the last decade, I find a lot of satisfaction. God has kept me special and especially lucky. Could create whatever a guy seeks in his early life. Here are 10 reasons why I do not want to be rich; my take on money and happiness in life.