My work gets me a chance to meet many genres of people. ‘We just DO NOT want to be HAPPY. We want to be MOVING’– is my strangest observation about my fellow voyagers. Even if you are an IIT / IIM working in a corporate or an IAS or a top doctor or a student in a college or even a housewife — I have found my observation to be true with majority junta. ‘We just DO NOT want to be HAPPY. We want to be MOVING.
‘36’. I turned 36. Scary number (wink). Confusing too!
- Neighbour’s 21 year old daughter calls me UNCLE
- Jagjit Singh now; resonates more with the mind than does Yo! Yo! Honey Singh
- Deepak Chopra inspires more than Priyanka Chopra
- 8 yr old son should begin to date soon
- Actresses of my time have started coming in character roles as Bhabi etc on TV
- I am made to drop my favourite ‘torn jeans’ for a formal trouser for my Corporate Events/ Talks
The clear cut difference between my 8 yr old son & 62 yr old Mom is ‘Temple Run’ & ‘Running to Temple’… Only my age is confusing. They are clear!
What is the damn problem with our age then? Why is it that I see majority junta between 18 & 50 ‘Just not happy’?
I took out a few days to think v deep in retrospect about it. Felt too strong to share with you- ‘What i found’:-
We just DO NOT want to be HAPPY. We want to be MOVING.
Our inherent and genetic tendency is to remain ‘Worried’ and ‘never be happy’…Just think of the last time when you were genuinely happy? Now think — ‘For how much time did that time remain’?
We are like a train- a train which just wants to move and wants to keep on passing through the important stations in its journey. It does stop for a while at those Stations (your Goals in life) ; but this train does not have the ability to remain rested there for a while, celebrate the arrival with a 100% moment. It remains just so worried about the next stop.
One reason for that is that we see so many other trains moving around us. We see them reaching faster. So we just zip up. Luckily for our ego massage purpose, we feel very comforted at seeing trains which are slower than us. We pretend that we are happy at the faster speeds of our friend trains but we are actually never.
We just DO NOT want to be HAPPY. We want to be MOVING. If we do not find a reason to be worried we invent the reason. We secretly have come to believe that worry is the fuel of progress.
The ethic of bigger, faster and better precipitates our mind to expend far more energy than we adequately renew. The demands relentlessly keep on rising. Then we over eat, have extra cups of teas, coffees, cigarettes and sometimes alcohol too. These are nothing but our misguided efforts to calm and comfort ourselves. The TV numbs us out instead of renewing.
The discos, the parties, the hip hop of the world hardly make us happy. Our vacations are more fatiguing than renewing.
We sleep with our laptops, ipads, mobile phones, whatsapps, FB. These technologies and Apps have overwhelmed us.
Then when we try to fall asleep — we begin worrying about today’s mistakes and the tomorrow’s demands. We wake up the next morning too tired & then get sucked up into the same incessant routine.
When did YOU last switch off, disengaged fully & took 100% REST?
Have not we LOST our ABILITY to feel ‘RESTED’? & somewhere also the ability to be ‘genuinely happy’ too.
We just DO NOT want to be HAPPY. We want to be MOVING & impress the people around with the speed of our MOVEMENT.
We move from relationships which are not stylish, successful and sexy to those that appear to be that ‘they are’. We love finding faults with people. We just so love it when we are proved superior to someone else. We are so obsessed with our emotions especially the ‘How you made me feel’ syndrome. Those who make us FEEL good / praise us agree with us, ‘gift us’ or ‘Do our works’ are called GOOD by us.
Those who don’t ARE NOT…
Our LOOKS are more important to us than what is inside us. The inside is fatigued and is always living in a state of perpetual anxiety.
Unfortunately we are living in a world where unnecessary things have become our biggest necessities.
So ! What is the way out? What could be a more elegant algorithm to live one’s life on?
I do not know. You have to find one for yourself. Even if I talk about ‘What is helping me in this chaos and noise’; you will ONLY read and forget. Even if you remember — you might not follow because our habits make us so predictable. These confirmed habits of ours shall only bring us back to ‘how we are becoming’.
You owe it to yourself to THINK about this. One life! You definitely need to create environment to let your biggest ideas flow into your mind.
Life is NOT about doing those 20 things RIGHT. It is about doing some 3-4 things right but doing them very RIGHT. Trust me the remaining 16-17 are nothing but JUNK attractions. Majority stuff around is JUNK only. The trick is to simplify life and become progressively so discerning that you begin to ‘Bunk the Junk’. The more we scatter our energies; the less powerful we feel to direct them towards our ‘Real Goals’. Hence the need for DISCIPLINE & extreme Will Power.
Kill your feverishness for some part of the year & THINK closely why ‘YOU just DO NOT want to be HAPPY & just want to be MOVING’.
I am doing the same for myself. My answers are coming as I am enjoying writing more; my first book which is titled ‘Someday I’ll BE a Saturday Night’.
Bull shit ‘36’. I am still an 18 yr old, with an additional work ex of 18 yrs.