Bahut huaa ab taq ! She died. We do not even know her name. Guess it was the rape on the ‘Image of my modern India; a country which is more pseudo than real’. Her rape came to light but there would be thousands of other; which did not on the pretext of social ignominy. Dear Indian MAN: Women want us to KNOW this:-

It is not about the NATION. It is about YOU. She lives in a country where she does not trust courts, laws, law makers. She requests each and every man to take care of his own self. The best service that we can render to the nation is to ‘keep care of our self in the right way’. So, the next time ‘the spur of the moment’ precipitates a wild instinct in your body to attack her like a dog- REMEMBER- you’ll kill her and your own conscience for those few minutes of excited & forced pleasure.

The politicians ONLY know to PROTEST by walking out of the Parliament & NOT by walking INTO it to change the system. They will not take strong actions to wipe the TEARS but rather use a TEAR gas. They are just not doing much & their populist, patriarchal & parochial outlook will worsen our Republic as Rape-ublic.  They do not have the balls to CHANGE the system. They can only accuse each other or condone or condemn. Dear Indian MAN — Please: ‘You CHANGE’. Do not just pass by when a lady is being mocked at around you.

And if you don’t know what patriarchy means (I wish you paid more attention at school): HERE IT IS!


The son of the President of our country says ‘women who are dented and painted & women who go to discos invite rape’. Dear GAANDU- your thoughts will find no buyer even at / . Even if you spray all Axe deodorants on yourself; no normal women will want to even touch you; with a mindset as yours. Accept that the world has changed. The world has moved much ahead from your patriarchal ways. I suggest you to read Vicky Loner to clear away the Junk from your thoughts!

Dear Indian Man- So many of you seem to have taken the classical sex position (men above) too much to your psyche. Please correct your psyche.

Dear Indian Man- We are still waiting for the time when majority elders will bless their children with ‘May God Bless you with a daughter’. These elders allude & sometimes even force us to abort the girl child & then worship somebody else’s in Navratras. And you are not doing much to change their attitude. As a Motivational Speaker, I am trying to bring change, one counsel session at a time. What are you doing?

Dear Indian Man – Women may be slightly bodily less strong than you are but yes — they do have patience to labor a child and bear menstrual cycles every month. We do not HAVE.

Everything around us- Bollywood, TV Advts., Media, Item songs portray women as glorified sex objects. We do not expect any of them to CHANGE. But -Dear Indian Man — You CHANGE. (Read more about Sexism in Bollywood).

Dear Indian Man — the ladies are learning & taking time to be as great a cook as your moms are. Do not COMPARE them. Give them a hand. You should know how to feed your own self too! And if you can’t, at least give them some time. Your moms are great but they are our moms & should not be confused with your GFs/ Wives. Get the whole damn patriarchy & dominance out please.

Dear men- ‘Women are sick of your Touchy Touchy attitude’. Before you write RIP —the Delhi Girl, you must RIP (Rest Indian Patriarchy) system.

One person can make a difference & that is you — the Indian MAN. Be a MAN !

Akash Gautam


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  • Ayesha

    I wonder how many girls will be raped and killed before this male demon dominated society and the so called Indian Law takes any justified action !

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Ayesha!

      Hope we help make this world a better place with small changes in the way we live our everyday ….

  • tuhina

    akash sir .. thanks for writing this to dear Indian men. This post must get max readers … max number of dear Indian men.

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Tuhina 🙂

  • Kshitiz Singh Chauhan

    Outrageous, but effective. Will hit hard on male chauvinist pigs!!!

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Kshitiz !

      Outrage with the right energy and direction is what we all need ..

  • Pooja Sharma

    no words. I so want every Indian men to read this.

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Pooja …

      Help me make this post reach out to the men !

  • Be the change, you want to see in the world..!!

    • AkashGautam

      Right you are Ashish!

      Hope we help make this world a better place with small changes in the way we live our everyday ….

  • shalini

    Very well written sir. .

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Shalini !

      Hope we help make this world a better place with small changes in the way we live our everyday ….

  • himanshu

    Dear indian men,start respecting women…coz life is not just about sex or sensex..neither money nor a few moments of sexual pleasure completes’s that woman who gives you life and another woman makes it worth living..completes it..don’t just take the responsibility of protecting that woman who ties a thread on ur wrist..but every woman who works hard to stand out in this biased society…

    • very true……….We are not just a body to be used….and if this time the bloody culprits didn’t understood………we will surely make them understand…

    • AkashGautam

      Brilliant words Himanshu!

      If only some men realize that no woman deserves to be tormented like that – whoever she be!

    • abslty ryt himanshu…

  • Jasmine

    True… Men have to change.. forget about the damn laws.. they have never aided the AAM janta.. but the common MEN.. when would they change.. why can’t they accept that we women have souls too.. not just bodies to ravage as per their own will..

    • AkashGautam

      Right you are Jasmine …

      The change has to be brought by us; bit by bit; day by day …

      Hope we help make this world a better place with small changes in the way we live our everyday ….

  • Himanshu Arora

    Its time to spread these words around. A time to introspect.

  • nikky

    dear men stop passing comments whenever you see a girl walking in short pants..we dont give a damn when we see you aroung on the streets..

    • AkashGautam

      Nikki ! Absolutely right 🙂

      Brilliant comment 😀

    • kaal bhairava

      thats write …..if we can walk in jst undies at a beach why grls cant do the same in bikinis…its not the cloths that make a difference its the character which does…

    • Jatin Kalra

      HATS OFF NIKKY ..!!!!! Full Respect… :))

  • Debbrata Hazra

    Why don’t these fucking rapers go to the brothels & fulfill there utter desire to fuck som1, atleast they r ready to get ravished…

    • its ‘rapists’ though!

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Debbrata …

      I don’t believe that’s a solution to this problem at all … What you have said happens everywhere & rapes happen too!

  • we do matter………stop this utter nonsense of eve teasing and …disgusting comments on every ..passing girl………….don’t you have soul……which teaches us right and wrong….. how come you guys never understand this fact that girls are not toys….they are humans and they have their own self respect……stop being dogs..have some dignity as humans…



  • Rupan Chhabra

    The day Indian men start respecting women , India would be well on course to become a developed nation .There would then be no need for our so called political leaders to give any mission statements like ” India Shining ” , ” Incredible India ” etc. Sadkein , imaaratein bahut ban gayi , achcha insaan kab banna shuru honge ?

    • AkashGautam

      I agree Rupan,

      Hope we help make this world a better place with small changes in the way we live our everyday ….

  • mona

    this article is so articulative for a woman !! i can really feel while going through the article…dear INDIAN MEN – change ur views..if u love ur sister/ daughter than please think d same before surrendering to ur damn carnal instincts..its always better to jerk off rather than savaging someone’s body and morality…jerk off ur stuff..jerk off ur stereotype thoughts and spare woman from being ur prey !!
    RIP – Rest Indian Pruriency !!!

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Mona!

      Brilliant words … Mindsets need to change from the grassroots level for any change to happen on the bigger front. Right you are!

      Hope we help make this world a better place!

  • Patriarchy and power are being constantly exercised with pressure on the “womankind” of our society…merely protests do not work..people…and men have to change theirr mindset strong law can make an evil mind moralyy conscious and upright…may Damini rest in peace and the “damini” of enlightenment she has sparked changes the social mindset of our hippocratic nation..

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Laveena! Right you are … Help all of us spread the word!

  • Raj

    its a tough world indeed for women .. hopefully, it will change in the near future … god bless …

  • Manu Bajpai

    Strongly written Akash sir. Sharing it.
    Girls, next time a boy touches you without permission ,instead of slapping give as hard a kick you can to his balls.That GAANDU will remember that pain forever and never dare again.

    • AkashGautam

      Manu 🙂

      Hope we help make this world a better place!

  • Hi Akash liked your writing again and even i do strongly believe that if anything can change this scenario its the society we people and most important our male counterparts. Such people should not be ignored the moment their behavior comes into light, it happens many times that we are mute spectators just because things are not happening to us but then we definitely need to think over again and get to action so that its not one of us tomorrow. There are small things which i feel all of us can take care of , teach our siblings & kids, stop our friends and take initiative.

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Sumitra!

      Right you are …

      Hope we help make this world a better place!

  • palak

    hats off to akash! deep & pure thought…
    Grow up Indians!

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Palak 🙂

      Hope we help make this world a better place!

  • Hey Akash, what a wonderful post!! Why is it so difficult I wonder for the common man on the street to be able to treat a woman with just simple respect? Why?

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Lakshmi!

      Maybe the reason is – men were never explicitly told that it is wrong. Plus – bollywood made it look really cool when a guy didn’t have enough respect for women on the streets.

      One other reason could be – this is the only way some men feel like ‘men’ having failed at being men at the right places!

      Hope you are doing well 🙂


  • Surbhi

    wonderful! Hope this message reaches every Indian man!

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Surbhi! Thanks … Do help me spread the word!

      Hope we help make this world a better place!

  • jain

    Plz all the males n females too respect girls

  • shreya

    i just hope sir,ur voice make a difference!!!!!!!

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Shreya! Thanks 🙂

      Hope we help make this world a better place!

  • Dear Indian Man- if you have the BALLS, then make proper use of it. Dont abuse it, and the women around you. Be a real man.
    Real men, DONT rape!

    • AkashGautam

      Mayur 🙂

      Thanks for this one!

  • ronojoy

    I hope this article would bring at least some common sense which us not so common to the Indian men ………..women are not toys with whom you can play around ………….a women brought you to this world so never disrespect one ………

    • AkashGautam

      Very true Ronojoy! Thanks 🙂

      Hope we help make this world a better place!

  • Very true…For a better India for women we need no change in education system, no politician, no law!!!!!!!!!!!!
    we need RIP (Rest Indian Patriarchy) system!!!!!!!!!!!!! nothing else!

    Indian Man, start respecting every woman around you!!!!!

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Arpita 🙂

      Hope we help make this world a better place!

  • ashu

    amazing blog….. words to my feelings

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Ashu 🙂

      Hope we help make this world a better place!

  • supriya

    u said men sometime forced by elders to go abort ,i will like to say please do not blame elders men hardly listen to any one if u educated u should be bold enough to take decision and work according what is right or wrong.

    • AkashGautam

      Hi supriya,

      May be you are right. But this is what the general trend is.

  • parul

    awesum.. 🙂

    absolute ryt 🙂

  • ziyana

    Its been 65 years of freedom but we women are still fighting for our freedom.. and unfortunately our political system will never allow us to be free so we have to bring the change together. So be a man treat all women with respect.

  • Dear Akash,

    Dear Indian Man – There is no better headline for this post because if we do a research we can see that Indian men have always tried to impose his strength over men whether in bed or in parliament..

    As you rightly said women has got the will to withstand menstrual cycle and carry a baby in her womb for 9 months. One more point to note in this instance is that men play a calculated and tactical game by trying to portray that he is her messiah, but in reality in his subconscious he still wants to outsmart her. Indian men think that she is just a baby making factory and this thought has to be changed especially in rural India.

    I am also a motivational speaker and trainer like you, but feel that we together
    can do more along with millions of others. Have started expressing my
    views through my blog as which I feel needs more solid content like

    I heard a speech by Sunitha Krishnan last evening where she said that rather than commenting and lighting candles what concrete steps are we taking as a team to fight these evils. And I would like to ask you how we can together start a movement with your fan base and we will be able to make a substantiate change I believe. Your thoughts on this to take it forward. I also look forward for my fellow country men who visit this site to make your opinion so that we can take this forward.

    Kindly connect with me on linked if you feel that there is some purpose in what I have said..



  • real men
    dnt rape………


    well said!!!

    its high time we introspect ourselves and be the change if you want the world to change.

  • ayushi P

    superb sr…!! each n evy word i really touchng n true… …hw cn ppl worshp n abuse d same gal….?>?? no1 cn ans unless we clear our conscious…..



    The way things are going in Delhi, soon the metro trains will announce- “Agla station… MOLESTATION.”


    International Women’s Day or 15th Beijing World Conference on Women (2010) is always a day for stock-taking and introspection, a landmark in the fight for equality. Yet, international days come and go and so do conferences. In India, assessing progress at the ground level is an extremely difficult task given the diversity of Indian women of different regions, castes, classes, educational levels and occupations. While the women celebrate the coming out of purdahs of various sorts and being
    unshackled in various ways, there is one worrying trend that disturbs and imprisons a majority of Indian women today. Violence or any callous threat is common thread that knits all specimens of female variety together. Violent crime has taken within its fold an infant girl of a few months who was raped by a neighbor and extends to the murder of widows and single women in our metropolitan cities. Not to mention the violation of feminine chastity behind the drape of under construction buildings to fast moving murderous blue lines.

    Here is a thumb rule for whenever you’re involved in an argument: take the safety catch off when you hear them, very reasonably, talk about stoicism, about forbearance and about those with more trouble. Silent acceptance and resignation has been drummed in our gene pool from centuries ago. It makes life easier for all those who appear to wield powers – men over women, upper castes over lower castes, rich over poor. Whichever way our complex society is sliced and diced, this works. But, even a thousand anecdotes cannot wipe away some stains and get rid of hurt itself.

    A very popular and widely propagated view on women is that there is no difference between men and women except their bodies. So, why whine about ‘oppression’ of women, or ‘women’s problem’? Problems are the same for everyone. Simone de Beauvoir, the French feminist and writer-philosopher, answered this way back in a social construct. What she meant was that apart from some major biological differences, there should be no difference in men and women as social beings. However, society has defined a whole set of ideas about what a woman should and should not be. Not only defined, but institutionalized, practiced with
    vehemence and coerced to be followed by everybody, including women themselves. The end result – a hypocritical social system cutting across all civilizations that calls women goddess but treat them as personal or social slaves for merriment, reverie and also to extract sexual ratification (whether feebly or forcefully), as and when demanded.

    The ‘body’ has been brought into the equation for titillation, of prurient
    entertainment and, in a major way, a vehicle for selling stuff. Any stuff, from cement bags to chrome hub caps can see its sales curve shooting up if you introduce a hint of scantily clad woman in it. Throw in power, glamour, domination, success – and you can sell anything to anybody. This is not speculation – just Google ‘women and advertising’ and you’ll know that it is a cornerstone of marketing strategies around the world. There is large body of evidence – stats and all – to show the commodification of women, which is just a part of their general down gradation. You may believe in any path for humanity to be free of hunger, want and disease, from war and violence, and from ignorance and hedonism, but no path can be traversed without woman walking hand in hand, as equal of man.

  • manpreet

    akash sir u ve done ur part but d change will come only if each nd every guy realises his part ….. bringing dis kinda change in d society seems a bit difficult but it isnt impossible …. good work sir ….:)

  • Mahima Nigam

    the blog and the way to convey the message is great. But the question is, is it reaching the right set of people and the system is doing something or not? the simple way would be- The people, the educated one, with strong moral values taking a Stand. To stand against the Wrong, may it be everyday eve-teasing, or harassment or a wrong of any kind. Being bold and fighting for good life doesn’t cost much, all it costs the ‘will’ to do it, and the women being responsible for themselves.
    and yes, If they could recruit people in Delhi police who have some values and ethics of their own, and a little educated and less corrupt, as they just give away Rs 2000 rejecting to file a FIR for a 5 years old victim ( as in the rape case reported today).

  • A read through such happenings sitting back somewhere in the corner of this nation, just quivers intense hatred and bitterness. The urge of distrust levels up every minute we girls step out of home. Isnt’t that a bummer !! It’s fumming inside every second.
    “SYSTEM Change” is required not even a Reform will give hands towards safety of Women in India.

    To: Those lusty eyes of men, Rolling chaired politicians, and every pupil who count women as “Catch, Grab and fulfill that dirty soul of urs” :- Blinds are better than your existence on this Earth. Burn in hell, thats your place or maybe more worse.

  • Anand

    Dear indian men. Oh do they even deserve themselves to be called a men. Or even human beings? Mard wahi jo aurat ko suraksha ka ehsas dilaye na ki suarksha se khilwad kar

  • Pooja Agrawal

    even tough Lawyer M L Sharma was doing his job as defense lawyer of those rapists… still i m shocked to see the lack of HUMANITY factor in his statements … also Lawyer A.P. Singh crossed all the boundaries … I just dont understand that why we still believe in saying ‘Mera Bharat Mahan’ … with people like these lawyers and criminals who have no guilt for what they did I believe that it is very difficult for ‘WE- Half the population of India’ to feel safe….

    though enforcing rigid laws and capital punishments are need of hour .. but I feel that India should also have a ‘ CHOP CHOP SQUARE’ like that of Riyadh… even though Mukesh and his group members have been sentenced to be hanged till death, still their mentality is same as before… they r still not feeling guilty for what they did… on other hand they r asking ‘ WHY ONLY US’ .. this is the level… this documentary indeed exposed the basic mentality of those people… The only way to overcome this mentality is by respecting the women at our home so that coming generations can learn to respect their mother, sisters, wife, daughters and then the whole feminist society, the women of the country….

  • Saurabh Singh

    Great words Akash! The real problem is 98 % of the men will avoid reading this. Just because this hurts them and their attitude. There needs to be change in many spheres of life. The money they spend on a lot of rather worthless projects can be spent in make education till class XII compulsory and subsidized. Education system needs a vast change. I don’t want to hear about a religious text like a Ramayana talking about Sita’s agni pariksha or A Draupadi chid haran in school. A gender neutral learning system for all strata of society must be there.
    Female abortion should be banned and male abortion should be made legal or even rewarded at least as a pilot project for 20 years. ( I, being a male , support male abortions) Our politicians can do so much more than just walking into the parliament. Sirf Nirbhaya Relief fund bananey sey nahi hoga.

  • Shobhit Garg

    Instead of relying on irrelevant government policies we should take ownership as an individual to protect women from dogs. Mentality needs to be changed and this needs to be done on a mass scale.I simply don’t understand why these bastards are given a chance to escape by filing a case, they should be encountered straight away. India needs a big change and it starts from individual.

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