to see them as ‘Package Deals’…

People are like mobile phones. Some have a great camera but poor battery life; some are great at music but are average at processing speeds, some look sleek but are v expensive. Ditto with people! All we need to understand is that you JUST need to be bothered about that feature in a particular person which is important to you. You need not confuse your mindset with a feature that is not pertinent to your usage. Accept people as ‘package deals’& that’s about it.

If the cumulative positives of a person outweigh the negatives — it is OK. After all you are not to marry every him / her. The day you accept that people are different and that they must be perceived as ‘package deals’; your half people problems shall go away.

A Haryanvi sold a buffalo to a Punjabi. After a week or so the Punjabi frustratingly returns to Haryanvi and says — ‘Re Jaat ! Thaari bhains kaani hai’ (Dear Haryanvi ! Your buffalo has an eye issue).

To this the Haryanvi answers:-

‘Re sardar ! Tanney Bhains se Doodh kaadna hai ya Aaankh matakaa karna se’ (Are you to milk the buffalo or romance it in her eyes’?)

This is WHAT we forget. We need be bothered about ONLY what we should be concerned about. Majority junta today wastes a big part of their time thinking about ‘people issues’ in their lives. Why is my friend like that, why is she so aggressive, why is he so careless, he is just not caring, he is two timing his girlfriend or she is wasting her time on him etc etc . Why should you THINK all this & become inelegant at your people management skills???

I have this brilliant uncle in my family who is ever helpful to all and sundry. He would even go out of the way; killing his own private times to help folks around. He has a few sundry problems too about his personality. He seeks attention from people around, he is short tempered etc. People definitely acknowledge him for his goodness but people; you know- they are ever ready to form / pass an opinion about others. ‘Ramesh is good but….’ 🙂

You can never make everyone happy. Khuch bhi kar lo ! The world is always ready to ‘make an opinion about you / critic you’. Will you let your Goals / Dreams / Uniqueness diffuse down for someone else’s thoughts? This is what I learnt looking at the life of Ramesh Uncle.

It is a long life. It doesn’t matter if a few people do not like you. Do not let it affect your confidence. Lakhs might like you later. Personally experienced!

Today decide to carry with you ONLY that which ADDS to your confidence. Baaki ‘Subtract’ maaro !  

In fact the whole concept of ‘har aek friend zaroori hota hai’ is useless.

‘Har aek friend Zaroori NAHIN hota hai’
Aur naa hee  
‘Jo tera hai wo Mera HOTA hai’…

Asli zindagi mein ‘Badi se badi mehfil mein bhi Insaan akela hee hota hai aur sirf apna haunslaa hee sirf apna hota hai…’

When you have many friends, you end up discussing them and you are also likely to make more social mistakes.

See the equation is simple:

Fewer friends, Fewer Relatives = Fewer issues in Life, More peace and Higher Focus.  You ability to focus on your potential grows. More value unlocking is likely to happen then out of you. And trust me ‘this is THE state to be in’. Growth just HAPPENS then. Personally experienced!

Don’t worry about people. When you are making ‘smart progress’ in your life – the best people will automatically happen to you.  It is only when you make ‘Quiet kind of a progress’; that people get impressed the most. I have seen that people who usually do not seek attention; end up getting the MOST attention in the long run.

One ability which can really set you apart from others is ‘your ability to avoid controversies in your life’. Some people just ATTRACT controversies especially small, petty people issues. Is not your life much bigger and more worth than that? E.g. If you do not like someone’s face, IQ, maturity, personality etc — then please keep your opinions with YOU only. When you publicize someone’s oddities or make faces at them or prove to them that they are inferior- it is then that you attract social controversies. I know it is very attracting to do gossip, to discuss people but then be ready for loosing your mental peace in barter.

Definitely be good to others but your agenda here is not to please people & remember -their agenda is also not to please you. You simply need to get your damn job DONE & while in the process if you please or displease people; LET IT BE.

Instead of trying to upgrade the people around; work on upgrading YOURSELF.

Remember: ‘people are package deals’ & the best deal of your life could be your enhanced ability to progressively reduce your distractions.

Keep rising & shining!

Akash Gautam
www.akashgautam.com

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  • TOEFL Classes in Pune.

    Love The facts You Shared. just Like Haryanvi Example is Best Suitable To Explain & Har ek Friend.

    You Are awesome Man

  • Sandeep Singh

    Sir, very few things leave an everlasting impression on your mind. This blog / page is definitely one of them 🙂 Thanks for the timely reminders / blogs. Still remember your tweet 3 – 4 yrs ago: The day you accept ppl. are different : our ppl. issues will go away. Such wonderful thoughts do resonate from time to time whenever such situation occurs.

    Thanks again:)

  • Ankit Mittal

    Great to read….many folks will relate it wid deir lives and will b forced to introspect…..

  • Neha Ghai

    nice 1 akash sir keep up the gud work 🙂 ..

  • Vinkesh Gulati

    Really meaning full Insight Akash Bhai. The Marketing gimmick of “har friend” has created more complications.

  • Shakun Gupta

    Dear Akash Sir,

    First i would like to say you thanks for writing this motivational blog. I am really much motivated with your thoughts, the way you look at inside/outside of particular.

    This blog belongs to many people, including myself also :-). I am totally re-directed now. The way you have written this blog,suddenly i started thinking that Who the hell i am to think about the people unnecessarily, blocking my way to thoughts come in.

    Will follow your words form now on. Thanks a lot for inspiring us

    Keep rising & shining!

    Thanks & Regards,
    Shakun

  • Kaustav

    today i was a lil depressed by similar kind of issue in office. while returning suddenly i read this blog of urs. it refreshed my mind cmpletely. the way u have used the words is unbelievably inspiring. thank u boss. u r truely a social scientist.thank u once again.. 😀

  • Sunil

    Hello Akash Ji,

    I am person who was always available for others and was more into getting attention from people, which I thought was giving me happiness and satisfaction. But I am wrong and have experienced it myself. I haven’t invested in improving upon myself rather thinking life/world can be faced as it comes. Disappointing myself and losing confidence in myself every time I lost a battle, which could be won comfortable if planned or prepared in the right spirit.

    They say it right we realize things only when we hear it from others than by our self.

    Thank you for the blog post.

  • saurabh

    As always guru g,..thought provoking…:)

  • Chetan

    THE BEST PART…

    “In fact the whole concept of ‘har aek friend zaroori hota hai’ is useless.

    ‘Har aek friend Zaroori NAHIN hota hai’
    Aur naa hee
    ‘Jo tera hai wo Mera HOTA hai’…

    Asli zindagi mein ‘Badi se badi mehfil mein bhi Insaan akela hee hota hai aur sirf apna haunslaa hee sirf apna hota hai…’”

  • Akshay

    I was the one who wanted to gain attention,to be in light,to blab about my own chote chote success,to criticise someone in somehow or other manner,showing myself superior ,ending up losing my own peace.
    But it was a WAS not going to be my future.
    Rise n Shine!!!!
    Thnx Sir.
    Perfect answer to all my questions.

  • Nikita

    this post is really inspiring. I’m sure it’ll help lot of people. thanks for writing such refreshing blogs.

  • Abhishek

    Awesome Sir, really practical and makes me feel good.

  • Stuti

    beautifully expressed! Satya vachan! 🙂

  • Rupan Chhabra

    Brilliantly written and actually thought changing for every person who is lost in the daily rigmarole of life’s trivial issues .

  • Surbhi Sharma

    Brilliant!!

  • Yashaswini

    Akash , this particular blog has touched me intellectually. The best line or I would like to call it as thought is “Be good to people but do not please ” Awesome and essential thought “it is 🙂 Keep up the good work

  • Meenal Goyal

    Just a perfect TALENT MANAGEMENT speech 😀

  • dhriti

    Will remember and practice
    it always

  • Rupal

    this blog was answer to my many unformed questions…

  • Rituparna Bhowmik

    Seriously many people need to read this blog and start considerng dffrnt people in deir lives diffrntly!
    thanks akash for sharing sch thoughts.. 🙂 it really does make a differnce!

  • kanika

    Sir I want ask a question from you. How to remove the depression which arises on seeing other people getting success?how to concentrate on owns life rather on others.I am a first year engineering student. I am not able to concentrate on my life and my abilities since last two years.How to remove the thoughts and the previous bad failures experiences from the mind.please do help . I will be very thankful to you f you could mail answer on ID singhalkanika198@gmail.com
    Thanks

    • taz Patel

      Did you get the answer of your question?

  • Juhi

    Superb Blog ,, really i need this suggestion from someone… thank u so much

  • ILA Verma

    “You simply need to get your damn job DONE & while in the process if you please or displease people; LET IT BE.” if i do so.. won’t i be mean??

  • Ash Win Dare

    superb sir!!!!!!!!!

  • Maddy Singh

    Dear Akash Sir,

    I am really thankful that I am getting regular recipe from you how I can make my lifestyle more delicious for myself. Every time when I read your blog it actually make my day.

    Thank you!
    Sant Singh Rathaur

  • Sakshi Kaushik

    Dear Sir….thanks again for this great blog, though sometimes its difficult to do some “things ” u have wrote about , as they demand patience & courage.. but once done , life will be different dn, weneve i feel low i read ur blogs…keep doing it 🙂

  • Dipti

    Such a masterpiece!! Gratitude! 😊😊😊

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