This blog post is for every girl / guy who is between 18 & 30 years of age. It is also very much for those who are 30+ but refuse to accept that they have grown. Keeping the child alive within you doesn’t always mean ‘you do whatever you want to do’! Here’s Vicky Loner’s (not Vicky Donor) guide on overcoming sex addiction on your own. Yes, I am NOT GOING TO mince words in this one, and YES, I am going to be sarcastic! Disclaimer: – Just not for people < 18.

Pyaar! Ishq! Mohabbat! Had this been it, we would have still had hope. But, the least talked about part of this story — ‘SEX’ -plays the role of an undercover mafia in the lives of the youth today; exercising too much control over what they think & how they look at their lives, careers, focuses & relationships. No it is not a blog on ‘sex education’ or about ‘how bad sex is’ & I’m definitely not going to write / advice ‘not to have it’. Why would anyone say that! We were all born out of it.

But what I want to share is — what happens NEXT. All this pertains to too much sex / sex thoughts with too many people.

P.S : This post is just not about your physical intimacies with your spouse. This is about overcoming sex addiction. Most married people are like Havells wires. They rarely catch fire & hardly have ‘SEX’ 🙂

As a part of my work as a Motivational Speaker; I regularly get to TALK at the Corporate Boardrooms / Top College campuses across India. My 3 very good friends strongly advised me not to publish this blog post. They believe— ‘I have an image to protect’. Writing on a topic as this might damage the way ‘people look at me’. My stand on this- ‘This Blog is answering a secret need with a majority of youth who are mired by their obsessions and compulsions’. Without sounding paternalistic- someone needs to get the RIGHT ways into their heads.

Scary but -every 7 out of 10 emails that I receive have issues which emanate from this aspect. Interacting with India’s best youth- this is all LEARNT while hearing & reading thousands of stories from young people. Below is the summary of what I understand about overcoming sex addiction, getting rid of those compulsive thoughts and creating a free-er life. Some of you may say, “there is nothing wrong with it” and would wish to continue you your life as it is. I implore you to read on!

Why is there a HOLLOW feeling at the end of ‘Too many Sex thoughts & wanton Sex’? :

Are you being too EASY?

Sex, sexy thoughts, sexting, sex drive — all these have become more exciting & enticing in these years than ever before because we are spoilt with choices. We have a race to win and we have technology at our beck & call. A situation like this is v regular these days — “you met someone online through a mutual friend & you started talking & chatting. You found the person to be really charming and instant likeliness happened (I fail to understand how this happens really) and you start chatting more. Talking and chatting, walking and chatting, eating and chatting, sleeping and chatting, basically, living and chatting.

You come home from college / office and you are really tired. But there is an incomplete conversation from yesterday that is nagging you more than your mom has ever nagged you for that overflowing beard or unkempt wardrobe or your way of life in general. And slowly, the fingers hit the touchpad and all ABCDs of life get screwed for the next hour or two. Assignments go to hell, deadlines become dead. And the thing that suffers max is — GOALS in life. By the time the guy drops his drops (Vicky wasted donor); both are too exhausted to do any really productive work. And hence the end to what could have been a really glorious 1-2 hours of super focus & productivity; now lying wasted.

Here’s how to Get Rid of Bad Habits, the Practical Way

Technology Overdose?

The role of technology in this very sexy story of life is scary too. Skype, WhatsApp, Facebook messenger, sms, Gtalk, this that — and life falls flat; when youth give in to temptations so easily. You couldn’t resist sending something you would otherwise never in your dreams let your grandmom see, to the person at the other end of the communication line in a moment of extreme frenzy.  Although rare- but it is quite possible that without your knowledge the person taped it all, made it available online — and before you can even blink, you are a commodity for people.

Account hacks and then blackmails, clandestine shootings etc are so much like a next door thing these days! Trust me- they happen. Ladies- your MAN whom you trust more than yourself is doing all this (in a majority of the confessions that reach me). Most guys say- ‘they are NOT like MOST Guys’  🙂

Why ONLY men? Today’s women too have become bolder, meaner & ruthless about their needs & I do regularly hear crying men too. While I am glad they are becoming more confident and vocal, my concern remains the same – is addiction a good thing to have?

Have you ever thought, such Sexting Could Be Dangerous? 

Is that the price you are ready to pay for this temptation called ‘sex’ which is actually nothing but — releasing your useless pent up energy with a wrong person? The temptation- which got accumulated because you had too much free time in life & no apparent goal? Result of most these sexcapades : ‘Mother sister unification (Maa- Behan Aek’) of your private lives.

People are more interested these days in the private lives of others that they keep logging into FB accounts and stalking people and checking out their check ins and tags. Poor social servants!

Lust is not equal to Love

I’m sure it is very romantic when someone you just met (or haven’t met) flirts with you like you have known each other for years and no nothing beyond each other. But what after that? Flirting is dangerous as it begins on the base of lust and 9.9 times out of 10 — it will definitely lead to any of Love, complications, mischiefs, heartbreaks and even complete disarray of the present normal self. Really? Are people that stupid these days to believe that a person loves you without knowing you or they are that stupid to actually fall for someone without knowing them?

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(Image courtesy: Google Images)

It is OK if your friend has a sex life and you do not have. You could have a GOAL today and tomorrow thousands may love to chase you because of your ‘Awesomeness’. It doesn’t have to be like a Hindi movie always. What I’m trying to say is — if you have it, great! Don’t center your life on it. If you don’t have it, don’t crib. Create a good life for yourself & it will come along!

What I mean is – Sex need not be a taboo in your life. You should be able to discuss it openly if you want to. But it should definitely also not be the SCREENSAVER of your life!

If you don’t believe me, hear the logic behind why being a sex addict is living on a lower plane in your life: Sadhguru On How to Handle Sexuality.

Too Soon?

I have had so many people come and talk to me about their estranged relationships; maximum of which were about — we got physical and then we broke up and now I can’t concentrate on life ahead! A lot of men use the bait of love to lust it out. Mostly what happens is — women get sexed up, and then axed up .It is so so easy to give in. Isn’t it?

May be you thought it is okay to do it once even if you don’t have enough love & you resolve that you won’t do it again. Let me tell you — it doesn’t happen that way. People get used to bodies. Rather, we think no one is watching. But the mind watches it all and personalizes the track of your focus engine accordingly. And you start believing that sex is the only way to relieve your stress. This continues and you start getting obsessed with sex and the likely thoughts. People may argue still, ‘What’s wrong with this need?’.

The answer lies here – If you thought ‘FUCK’ and ‘FOCUS’ could happen at the same time because fuck is a very natural thing & you can always train your mind to focus, you are WRONG. It just happens in Hollywood movies and sitcoms. Let me tell you what happens in real life simultaneously when you fuck (on line or in real). Those few minutes may be heaven but then, something dies and goes to hell after that; as both get busy in finding their clothes and rushing away to catch up with breath & life.

The most wasted time in the lives of the youth today is between 10 pm and 2 am. Just imagine- ‘If you could USE this time for your extreme focus towards your Life’. Imagine !!

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(Image Courtesy: Google Images)

Got too much free time?

Technically, sex is natural because it helps us relieve our extra energies. So, if you are too much obsessed with it, either you have too much free time or you are eating too much. That is when obsessions and addictions come up. It is born out of desire. Between two people in love, it is a way of merging with one another, of enjoying the togetherness. But if it is the only way to do that, it is bound to become mechanical and routine like after a while. That is when people start looking for attractive new things and start finding their relationships to be boring.

On the other hand, having things other than sex in your relationship might not only help you achieve your goals together but also make the ‘love making’ part more enjoyable. A common Goal / a common focus or a hobby goes a long way to emotionally bind people in relationships. Because if YOU completely lose yourself in a relationship ONLY; then who’s going to find YOU if & when the relationship is lost?  And overcoming this sex obsession is not an uphill task really. People struggle when they try to repress it. And they fail miserably. Neither too much indulgence nor too much abeyance will help. Rather, thought equilibrium is needed.

Three things can benefit tremendously: Meditation, Fitness & a good portfolio of Goals. Lazy people mess up more. If in spite of your best efforts you are not able to derive maximum value out of your 10 pm to 2 am routine- please sleep between 10-11 pm. Wake up at 5 am. Those early hours of the morning will get you a notorious confidence about life. A confidence which will get you those extra very productive early hours at a time when the majority world is sleeping. And I am sure — you would not want to have SEXY thoughts at 5 am. Even Emran Haashmi sleeps at that time 🙂

Be Awesome in Your Own Life

It is not about ‘just sleeping around’. It is about waking up to life. Sex is healthy, meditative and amazing when it happens at the right time and with the right person & most importantly ‘when you are ready’. A relationship that began with lust is likely to come down minutes after the erection subsides. And then girls say- ‘You do not love me anymore’. It is much better being SINGLE than remaining a useless secret in someone’s life. Become ‘AWESOME’ in your own life & get into the other person’s mind first before getting into his / her legs.

Overcoming sex addiction, or any addiction for that matter – is about will power. And will power comes from your deep realization that it is now or never. Here’s something that can help you build a Himalayan Will Power for Success. 

Shine on! May the ‘FORCE’ always be with you. I have loved writing about my trysts with and lessons from all relationships around. Do go through the blog posts, in case you would like to read more.

 

Akash Gautam

(Disclaimer: The pic of ‘Vicky Donor’ used above has been taken from the internet & has been re-done. The original rights are reserved with the producers of the movie.)

About Author

Akash Gautam is a Motivational Speaker & Corporate Trainer in India. Hundreds of Top Corporates like Google, CIPLA, Vodafone, McKinsey & Co., Maruti, HDFC, RIL, M&M & premier colleges like IIMs, IITs, SRCC etc go to him whenever they need a refreshing, big bang impact. Write to usWrite to us to know how he can transform your Team.

  • rohit

    osom….before reading was giving a thought to sex and life only….thank you

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Rohit 🙂

  • Ashish Garg

    really awesome sir… Thanks for sharing 🙂

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Ashish 🙂

      Glad I could contribute!

  • Shikha Dugar

    Sir, thank u for giving the right words to the feelings and thoughts of many people who think that this is right… But fail to overcome their emotions and needs…. Seriously it adds up to ur blog on “lovepal bill”.. 🙂 hats off to u sir!!

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Shikha 🙂

      Glad you said that!

  • it is gonna b very useful sir… thanx

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Rohit 🙂

      Glad I could contribute!

  • I always love reading your blog. Truly inspiring for today’s generation

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Shwets 🙂

  • xyz

    very very very very useful sir…..
    you gave an answer to my so many questions all unanswered……
    Thank u very much

    The idea of writing this blog was not at all bad..it really helps

    • AkashGautam

      Thank you ji 🙂

  • Shikha

    Thoughts have been conveyed in such a manner that anyone could understand it. Now its time to put things at place and focus on what we want from our lives rather than wasting time.

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Shikha 🙂

      Glad I could contribute !

  • Akansha

    I completely agree wid ur post.. Ive made my life AWESME as u described it. Vry inspiring. Loved it.

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Akansha 🙂

      Glad I could contribute!

  • pramod

    it eally helped sir.. awesome

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Pramod 🙂

  • nice thought sir,on which every youth must ponder.Thank you for sharing this with us!

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Kushagra 🙂

      Glad I could contribute !

  • akanksha

    impressive as always 🙂 i wish i had that writing skills .. amazing. luved it ..
    for some of my frnds .. it will be very useful ..

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Akanksha 🙂

      Thanks for the kind words. Glad I could contribute!

  • Everyone urges for this kind of advice when they are in a post sexTing phase …Thanks for reading this generation’s mind .. After this post, hopefully there won’t be such pathetic phases in lives. “No need to stay LONLY.. stay LOVELY “

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Surya 🙂

  • Naman Goyal

    one word:- Awesome n true…actually this thing struck in my mind today when i was travelling from college to home…n thought to read a blog on the same matter…but as i checked my mail…blog is in front of me…

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Naman 🙂

      When we seek answers really, the answers find us before we find them !

      Best Wishes

      Akash

  • tuhina

    fab post sir … it will help us all to find the priorities to focus on … 🙂

    • AkashGautam

      Tuhina 🙂 .. Thanks !

  • Kadambari

    dis blog is simply awsm akash sir..thanq so much 4 sharing 🙂

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Kadambari 🙂

      Glad I could contribute …

  • this post will helps people to focus on FOCUS rather than the sex and auxiliary things…thanks sir for this post

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks for the kind words Anant 🙂

  • himanshu khurana

    respect sir!! indeed an eye opener for many…for a clear vision of life:)

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Himanshu 🙂

  • Robbin

    Awesome Post Sir…. you exactly hit d nail…thank you so much.

  • Robbin

    Awesome Post Sir…. you exactly hit d nail…thank you so much.

    • AkashGautam

      Thank you Robbin!

  • Himanshu Prasad

    indeed a wise piece of advise sir…b’coz many of the youngsters suffer from the problem…know it is wrong but are not able to overcome it…really thanks for sharing such a much needed eye opener.

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Himanshu 🙂

  • Ankita tejee

    Heya Akash !! awesome blog on Sex, i have a very good friend of mine who is so obsessed with sleeping around that he can go down to any limits for Sex..since he is a foreigner and is presently in India,its really hard for him to get a girl to sleep around with because indian girls are not so easy to be laid..i will trying sharing this post of yours with him, hope it helps. he is quite talented and hardworking guy with ambitions but this habit of his drains him out with no motivation left to work on his goals and which ultimately results in complaining about life once things go out of control.hope the sooner he understands it better his future would be.

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Ankita!

      Thanks for the kind words. Please do share it with him and as many more as you can. A little more inspiration – and we all will nail it !

      Best Wishes

      Akash

  • Devendra Tomar

    Really very good and valuable, Again nice work Akash:-)

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Devendra!

  • Vinod

    Thanks…very well written article!!

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Vinod 🙂

  • Pooja

    Thank you so much sir for sharing this post with us 🙂 we ppl YOUTH really need it..!! Definitely we need to focus on our GOALS for become Awesomeness 🙂

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Pooja 🙂

  • shining star

    u aleaz rock 🙂 y i dint meet u wen i was in grads???now time is slipped from my hand:(

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Shining Star 🙂

      Have you heard of ‘Jahan jaago wahin savera’?

      start now. Time is still there!

  • disqus_s7nqhe6hCh

    u r just awesome . simply awesome.. what can i say.. u r amazing.. really.. i want to talk to u in personal after reading this..

    • AkashGautam

      Thank you 🙂

      Some day for sure we will meet!

  • It’s an eye opener….I don’t know why some of your good friends advised you not to publish it….Today’s youth need someone like you…no..no…why someone…it’s you who understand and guide youth the best possible way…Thanks a lot!

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Shatakshi for the nice words 🙂

      Your words put an onus on me to contribute more and better to all of you!

      Akash

  • ruby

    really awesome………..superb

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Ruby 🙂

  • Being 21 and single, I may not have the perquisite thrust for sex, as people for whom this blog is aimed at. But still, what dragged me into it, was the point about the”10pm-2am” slot. I hope this becomes a stimuli for a better utilization of those unproductive hours which I waste on socially indulging platforms.
    P.S. Do I need to say you’re great? 🙂

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Tayyab!

      A little more focus could turn our lives around in unprecedented ways 🙂

      Tried & tested. Best wishes!

      Akash

  • richa

    goin through this post i was thinkng of my secret sex life n how problematic it became n i thnk now i have a sol

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Richa 🙂

      I’m happy to have helped you find answers!

  • Saurabh Tripathi

    Awesome blog!! It will open the eye of indian youth

  • Krish

    An awesome post i read till date regarding sex obsession. Its really an eye opener to many of the young people like me. Thanks a ton for making us to view this wonderful blog sir. You were just osum. .

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Krish!

      Glad I could contribute 🙂

  • mayank agarwal

    It is definitely not going to spoil ur image…rather it will make the youth to think about it…..its very helpful

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Mayank for the inspiration 😀

  • Saurabh

    Akashvani does it everytime…done that again..the true picture..Thank You Akash Sir..:)

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Saurabh 🙂

      Glad I could contribute!

  • tapan gautam

    thnx sir…… this post will be vry usefull for some people……..who think SEX is the life only, but it is not………….

    • AkashGautam

      Thank you Tapan 🙂

      Do share it with your friends who you think need it !

  • Arunima Banerjee

    Awesome post sir, an eye-opener for a lot of us, I’m sure.

    • AkashGautam

      Thank you Arunima 🙂

  • Kausha

    Really Inspiring Blog, Akash… Keep Writing 🙂

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Kausha 🙂

  • Akash

    why do u think dat sex is always good when u have it at d rite time wid d rite person?? I dun think one has to wait fr it. as it is life is too short. if der r two frns and d chemistry is good between dem n dey want to have sex. den wt’s wrng in it?? why shud dey wait till marriage or fr d so-called ‘rite person.’ I guess it’s all cool between two broad minded n less emotional ppl..

    • AkashGautam

      Hi !

      I guess you jumped to the comment section after the ‘right time’ part. Would request you to read it again.. May be then you might better understand, what I’m trying to say!

      you are right though 🙂

  • awsome sir..

  • i didn’t read whole bible but i got sense , thankfully i am single and highly focused for my goal.

  • Rising Star

    Well it was after my first relationship that i realised that my best friend is my right hand 😉

    • AkashGautam

      your best friend is your right hand or your right hand is your best friend?

      Didn’t quite get the point 😉

  • kailash bisht

    Great article ….thank you so much for posting 🙂

    • AkashGautam

      You are welcome Kailash 🙂

      Glad I could contribute!

  • sharma saab

    m suffering from the prob of SEXTING n after reading dis blog…………

    even if it just temporary bt m thinking to leave it.

    plz comtinue wid ur inspirational thoughts…..

    continous guidance or inspiriataional thoughts can shif alot of guys to RIGHT path

    continue wid ur work.

    • AkashGautam

      Sharma saab 🙂

      If you really decide, it won’t remain temporary. All that is needed is a little bit of control over the emotions!

  • Tulika Awasthi

    Great thought !!

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Tulika 🙂

  • Anil Kumar

    owesome..sir……!!!!

  • Anil Kumar

    owesome..sir……!!!!

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Anil 🙂

  • mak

    excellent sir …….i asked many of my friends to read this blog……as i m in tat age group

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Mak 🙂

      Glad I could contribute! Best wishes..

      Akash

  • just awesome … sir you just extract the hidden reality behind every youth and every type of youth

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Arghya 🙂

  • Rohit

    Said it so rightly, “It is much better being SINGLE than remaining a useless secret in someone’s life”… The enticements at times do get the better of the important things in life… Am sure your post will provide some great words of wisdom to CyberGen..!!!

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Rohit 🙂

  • shreya

    as always !!u rock sir….i wish i could write like u n inspire people in near future……keep rocking keep inspiring sir…hats off

  • Rahat Manchanda

    ‘Awesome’ is the only word for you sir,

    really great

  • neethu

    awesome sir,hats off to u

  • meghna agarwal

    very true.

  • veenugabra

    once again an awesum post sir…..ur way of expressing ur thoughts is so mesmerising….i just cant avoid mysellf from being influence…..hats off to u sir……its realy a fab work

  • Jatin Kalra

    Akash this one was the first article i read from your side . I agree completely which you just said , but frankly your article is messed up between ‘sex’ and ‘goals’ .

    Believe me it’s also an integral part of any boy/girl life at the age b/w 16 to 24 (may vary .. :P) , but one has to maintain his control over himself . The word is ‘DISTRACTION’ , It can be various forms one you just specified . One has to control over it , each n everything is necessary but one has to keep in mind “EXCESS OF EVERYTHING IS BAD”

    Now ,coming back to your point i think you must have read the article http://www.hindustantimes.com/Entertainment/SexAndRelationships/Know-types-of-sex-you-have-in-your-twenties/Article1-965697.aspx
    it states most of the difEfrent sex positions performed at the age of 20 and 30. I didn’t say but this article seriously does.I know you might get confused what i am actually doing praising u or criticizing , but my point is raise on issue on which the front end is dependent on..

    i know sir, it’s a bit long comment but i seriously want a reply from your side

  • Jatin

    Akash , this was my article of yours. I strongly agree with your article , regarding goals n ‘sex’ . Frankly i would say that just by calling sex a curse for people falling between teenage ended groups would not make a difference.

    Usually sex has became an integral part of student life who falls in a relationship and the main cause behind it is the anxiety towards it. Now when we came back to the goals , yes they are the one’s which can either make to cliff or kneel down.

    But i strongle say the main word behind is “DISTRACTION”…

    Distraction towards our goal will surely deviate our path. This distraction could be of various types n ‘sex’ is just a part of it. so rather making sex a cause we can rule out the back end cause of it.

    Now, some people who actually attain their something in their life also get indulge into it . I am sure you must have read the article

    http://www.hindustantimes.com/

    now, this article explains people got to know or experiences various types of sex positions in their 20s or late 20s , so thw question arises do they actually falling short of anything by this.

    Here i want to clear that i am not a strong believer of sex or not promoting it ,but yes root cause have to be identified and terminate it by explaining the adverse affects of them

    Sir, i will actually look forward for your comment regarding my points.

    Thank you .. 🙂

  • shilpa goyal

    Hello Sir,
    Loved your blog.Reading your blog has helped my friend understand in minutes what i was arguing for last 3 months. I personally do not follow your blogs. But I believe you doing some good work here. Jai Guru Dev. 🙂

  • Jatin

    Akash , this was my article of yours. I strongly agree with your article , regarding goals n ‘sex’ . Frankly i would say that just by calling sex a curse for people falling between teenage ended groups would not make a difference.

    Usually sex has became an integral part of student life who falls in a relationship and the main cause behind it is the anxiety towards it. Now when we came back to the goals , yes they are the one’s which can either make to cliff or kneel down.

    But i strongle say the main word behind is “DISTRACTION”…

    Distraction towards our goal will surely deviate our path. This distraction could be of various types n ‘sex’ is just a part of it. so rather making sex a cause we can rule out the back end cause of it.

    Now, some people who actually attain their something in their life also get indulge into it . I am sure you must have read the article

    http://www.hindustantimes.com/Entertainment/SexAndRelationships/Know-types-of-sex-you-have-in-your-twenties/Article1-965697.aspx

    now, this article explains people got to know or experiences various types of sex positions in their 20s or late 20s , so thw question arises do they actually falling short of anything by this.

    Here i want to clear that i am not a strong believer of sex or not promoting it ,but yes root cause have to be identified and terminate it by explaining the adverse affects of them

    Sir, i will actually look forward for your comment regarding my points.

    Thank you .. 🙂

  • अजय यादव

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    सादर प्रणाम |
    बहुत ही प्रेरक और आँखे खोलने वाला लेख |

  • Anas Javed

    Sir , you have always inspired me by your writings and this one is no exception.

  • Basant Mundhra

    Akash sir..wid every blog of Urs..ur rising n shining in my mind…thanks for sharing yet another nice blog:):)

  • lavanya

    hello sir …thanx for the column it is actually eye opening n i m waiting for coloumn ‘Why relationships fail because of Men’ …

  • AkashGautam

    Hi Jatin !

    Thanks for writing in.

    Never in my article I have mentioned that ‘sex is bad’ or a ‘curse’. It purely deals with the obsession about the same.

    As far as the cause for it goes – I wouldn’t blame anyone. This happens in an age of self discovery. It is like committing a mistake and then learning from it; the mistake being ‘overdoing’ & ‘obsession’.

    Hope I could answer you.

  • Gaurav

    It is not about ‘just sleeping around’. It is about waking up to life. Sex is healthy, meditative and amazing when it happens at the right time and with the right person & most importantly ‘when you are ready’.—Awesome line always to keep in mind.

    This is the best blog of you,in my paradigm….came at the r8 time.This will definitly provide a better approach to achieve my goal…:-) I ws really confused abt this issue…and God drop ur email in my inbox….#3 salute to you sir……:-)

  • Jag Mohan Kothari

    fantastic thoughts sir. really a true one.

  • riya

    I can’t believe this, I think this is ‘serendipity’. This helped me with a clear vision towards my goal. Although, I’m only into texting but i’m gonna put my hours to productive use from now on, to achieve what’s right for me. Thank you!

  • Jitendra

    Loved reading this Blog Sir !!

    Thank you !! 🙂

  • Well this is one of your best posts I have ever read. Hope this will help all of us to understand the importance of goals in your love life . I still remember one of the beautiful line : “Don’t fall in love rise in love.”

    Thanks Akash for presenting the things in a motivational way . Your posts always burn a flame inside me !!!

    Thanks a ton again!

    Regards
    Richa

  • divya jaiswal

    Hello Sir,

    I must say that dis post of urs hve really helped me in understanding myself. i was also indulge in sex relation but after reading this i’ve decided to get my Focus on and not to get F*****……
    Thanks Alot!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Jyoti Santhalia

    I always luk forwrd for ur posts sir..like always ,u rocked this tym as well..U are jst AWSME and i m on the way to become 🙂

  • eminence

    liked the post… best line: “It is much better being SINGLE than remaining a useless secret in someone’s life. “…:)

  • Munish

    Hats off to you sir… I think no one uptil now had this kind of courage to write on tis topic with such a bold attitude…. Always waiting for your useful ideas and thoughts

  • vipul

    When you wrote the following lines,

    “My stand on this- ‘This Blog is answering a secret need with a majority of youth’. Without sounding paternalistic- someone needs to get the RIGHT ways into their heads.”

    I feel so damn obliged to thank you and request you to never stop writing.
    Please take care of yourself and avoid politics (if any).

  • A real eye opening post …. totlay alarming msg for youth ….. Thanks
    @AkashGautam:disqus sir !!

  • thanks for sharing it sir, it would be really helpful to us…
    once again thank you.

  • mukund

    inspired by your blog……akash!!!!
    you changed my thought about this topic…..
    i think every youth of our age should read this blog………!!!

  • hey akash bhyaa i do study mostly at night do believe in waking up early only during exam days and some days before it…..i do feel a bit comfortable studying at night ….what you advice???waiting for reply….i am a student……..and the article is just awesome………

  • Disha

    Sir i attended your Career Launchers workshop today in Chandigarh,and the first thing I did after I reached back home was read your blogs.After reading this one,I can proudly say that I’v become an ardent fan of yours…

  • pallavi

    this one is really gud…one of the best i have read from your blog..

  • Deb

    Aptly said… even that’s why western civilizations could flourish and are most advance in every sphere, despite the fact that prostitution was legal and casual sex is the way of life there… one thing to understand they have the right equilibrium!

  • Ashu

    Good one seem’s helpful for all

  • vikas

    amazing post. kudos to you it takes a lot of gutso write this sort of no holes barred kind of stuff

  • ishu

    sir i was searching for these answers from a long time..i read it yesterday,
    and it hit the core from day 1.awesome and relaxing day it was..

    i owe you something..

  • Vibhu

    Awesome lines sir…..(:

  • silenthawk

    lovely post.I wish you can write a similar kind of post on internet addiction,as i feel it is not doing me any good and so many people around me of my age.

  • Awesome awesome ..kya baat kya bat kya bat.
    love u..
    whatever u try to express or written is 100% true.

  • Neeraj Agarwal

    thnx….

  • neha singh

    awesome blog… this blog will helps us to focus on our goals. thank u sir..:)

  • Rhitobroto Kumar

    I will confess something.Often,such unwanted thoughts come to my mind and at a time when i am doing something important.You remind us that such feelings/thoughts which give us temporary gratification may do more harm than good.

  • shivam

    Why don’t people discuss sex in India, actually there is belief here that putting everything under the carpet helps, may be it did in past but not today because with internet it is impossible to hide anything these days. There is a need for massive awareness about sex in a country which has largest youth population.

  • Garima Juneja

    Every sentence in this blog post is so true. I have been watching most of my friends doing all this stuff and I was like “why don’t they get a life, koi please inhe samjhaao” . Everyone should read this post and get their lives straight before it is too late. Awesome work! 🙂

  • Rahul

    awesome!!

  • Shubham Singh

    I think it was a great idea for you to write about this subject and I am sure your image would be enhanced rather than depleted. I would ask you to keep writing cause your writing helps me focus better on more important things.

    Have a good day! And may the World Bless you!

  • Hooligans

    Very interesting. I am impressed with your keen observation and analysis. In my personal opinion, a person can not run away from social influence, so the way you think and act partially depends on the kind of people you surround yourself with. However, I completely agree with what you are implying in this blog. Good Work!!

  • pompy

    The best & perfect. You picked up the right topic and the solution is pretty simple. Thanks.

  • Siddharth

    Thank you Sir for such an meaningful post. It is so well drafted, bridging gaps between youths and their goals. The best thing that I am taking out from here is to be more productive from 10 to 2 AM, hope this amazing article always reminds me of the same.

    Thank you Sir 🙂

  • Abhishek bhardwaj

    Really awsome sir, appreciable. Personally , i feel pretty much needed, but, My inner voice always denied, and make me waited for the rght time and the rght girl…….. and I ll wait….
    beautifully and bravely presented blog ,sir, it ll surely help many of us.
    It all about priorities in life, do the rght thing at the rght time.
    one life rise and shine.
    radhe radhe.

  • Nihal Kumar

    Thanks for your guidance Sir !!
    Keep Inspiring 🙂

  • preeti

    I am glad that u touch controversial topics with such humour,simple language n unorthodoxy , akash. I m inspired to know that u v not listened to d “frens” who cared more about image than taking step for d right cause.

  • DIVIJ SINGLA

    hlo sir , M DIVIJ from chitkara university , i attended ur lecture , it was just awesome n now i read dis post i guess if i implement dis in my life i cud really change alot ,at first i had no aim in my life but i felt ” KUCH TOH KARNA HAI ” bt now i gotta aim also 🙂 thanxxx alot sir for showing me the right path .

  • Saloni Singh

    the best part was da 10 se 2 baje wali baat! dat holds so true in most of our(youth) cases!

  • hitesh

    hello sir
    dt 10pm to 2am…seriosrly a waste…whtsapp nd fb :/
    thanks for reminding me that a lot of other prodctve things can also be done at that time other than sexting!!!

  • Rohit

    Great Sir! V much needed this kind of reality check. Thanks a lot. You are certainly doing great work for youth! 🙂

  • Kartik Anand

    Sir, everything was great but that 10-2 thing was bullseye! I myself feel that we can do so much in that particular time and instead we waste them and then follows regret and guilt.
    I feel proud that there are people like you who acknowledge these things and then give a right direction to tackle them.
    Dil se Thank you 🙂
    Your fan always,
    Kartik

  • Anshuman

    Sir, till now it’s the best blog i have read ever…loved it completely & it’s also a type of wake up call for everyone who thinks that sex is a only thing that can help them Focus more on their lives…rather it’s just the opposite thing…Will definitely share it with some of my friends…Thank you Sir…It’s a Wake Up Call for Youth Gang…

  • Jay

    And what would you say if my friend is enjoying good sex and is successful in academics?

  • Snehashis

    it was an excellent article sir,a very effective one indeed!! 🙂

  • @myogesh

    ur words were really inspiring and motivating for many……
    i’m 2 suffering from similar situation but from today onwards something needs to be overcomed……thanx sir

  • Manisha Arora

    (y) Thumbs Up !!

  • vishakha

    Akash this is one of the best blogs written by you…seriously the problem you have discussed in there is a very major one..i did share with my friends who were in a utter need for something like this..great job..as always 🙂

  • mukesh agarwal`

    this lekh is really great but the thing which i liked more is your reply to evey post hats off tom you

  • ankit singh

    superbbbbb sir……..

  • Rajesh

    Excellent sir…you are valuable.. This is an eye opener story for me…this is the best solution I find it for my problem…

  • Ajay Gupta

    Really love to read ur blogs sir…loved ths one too..nt nly i read them bt i do try to apply ur wrds in my lfe..thnx…do keep wrtng mre n mre..

  • sanya

    Thank u so much Sir for writing and giving this important information. It is required so much at this crucial time. I will surely follow to focus on my life n its goal. Thank u so much.

  • Aman-399846

    respected sir,After reading your post I got a idea that both the life should be balanced.But now I want a personal advice from your side.
    Sir,l am 21 aged smart boy,never had a girlfriend or any sexual relationship.Sir I am virgin till now.But almost all the girls I met or seen till now in my friend circle are not virgin and the idea that strikes my mind is that,I too also will not get the virgin girl,,this is the fear due to which I feel bad and type of looser about myself.
    Sir now I need your guidance that should I loose my virginity with any girl(means should I leave this shit and enjoy the life with girls) or I should believe the god that he will give me a virgin girl(as I want)…
    Sir I m in a great fix.Please tell me the right way….plz….

  • debanik

    “The most wasted time in the lives of the youth today is between 10 pm and 2 am. ”

    Thats the ugly truth….no way to deny that…

    Very nicely written…
    Definitely worth a read

  • Gaurav Kalia

    worth sharing .. thank u sir 🙂

  • Niharika

    well to acknowledge…man u have a brillint mind……I guess its been the best article I had gone through …u r just took gud …god bless you!!!! 🙂

  • somesh gobhuj

    Thnkuu so much sir.

  • tshery

    thank you sir for your wise words. IN this stage of our life we seriously need this kind of advice or it would be right to say talk. so keep going sir 🙂

  • Roshan Ranjan Chauhan

    Thanks a lot sir for this eye opener blog…..sometime we don’t realize that some pitty and junk stuffs will cost our life in long…
    I will definitely try to use these awesome thought to come out of these junk….
    Keep writing sir so that we can be benefited

  • Khyati Kharod

    U r so inspiring. I will sleep at 10pm now nd will focus on ur words !!! Thank you

  • Ashish Kumar

    thanks a lot sir for ur guidance i think this blog is belong to me totaly and i am trying to resolve it
    Why god i am so lazy

  • rachita

    Something every youth needs 🙂
    Thanks a ton

  • Swati Shrivastava

    Very inspiring, thanku so much sir, I agree I need more focus in my life to achieve my goals ☺☺ this post is very helpful

  • Shubham Singh

    a true guide to us as well d whole masses wich mostly involves d young generation dis is sumthng wich is worth reading then “sonu”monu” janu” babu” ! i have been following you since two years and yes you n ur words have made a lot of “drastic” as well awesum” changes! n will b following and this blog one of d best! be awesum! b career focused rest r by-products of it 🙂 ! keep blogging!keep motivating sir! v all need it! 😀

  • Tushar

    Grandiose .. it’ll be helpful for every youth 🙂

    thanks alot !

  • Amit

    Awesome sirji….I am 23 and still single, always wondered why i dnt have a gf.Now this blog add sm value ,”IT SHOULD BE AT RIGHT TIME &WITH A RIGHT PERSON”..

  • Abhishek Gupta

    Thank you so much for such post. Don’t listen others , you are doing great. This is the biggest problem of youths but no one like talk on this. Really,this article cleared my misunderstanding about relationship. Plz. Sir keep doing this cause we really need such motivational posts to overcome form biggest problem of our young generation….
    Thank you so much.

  • Thank you Akash Sir, for this.

    Few years back I have half read this article, and when I was in dilemma.

    This post caught my attention again.

    And..I re-read this amazing piece of yours.

    I am so grateful to read your writing’s, especially positive feelings about this topic and I thank you for this.

    I strongly agree that three things can benefit tremendously: Meditation, Fitness & a good portfolio of Goals.

    I am on it 🙂

    With respect,

    Bhupinder

  • Azad_Parinda

    I really don’t find anything productive based on a realistic and rational approach out of the article.Sexual desire is as natural a desire as thirst or hunger.But things only gets complicated when we talk too much of it.Just like if we are hungry or thirsty & we talk too much about food or water it will ultimately increases our urge.Instead of that right approach must be to eat food or drink water or just have sex thats it.We cannot fulfill our dreams either if we dont drink or eat.But its not a much talk about topic because both a easily available.Similarly sex is not at all a topic to discuss.Its an act a completely natural god gifted urge .So do it have fun.Than again comeback back and focus on your goals.Believe me you will be more focused ,happy and satisfied. And that will help to incraese your productivity dramatically.😊

  • Er Abhishek Tiwari

    Very nice….sir

  • Sakshi Kaushik

    that 10-2 pm thing has happened wid me…but DIS….made me realize wat to do now. thanks you sir 🙂

  • Harsha

    Well, this is amazing! You write quite well. And you cleared my confusion. Thankyou!

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