So many of us are living two lives. One- on Internet and the other — ‘whatever remains from it’.

Between my 15-25 ; I used to have some 4/ 5 real good friends; who I used to spend so much ‘REAL’ time with. My energies used to get invested in impressing and having good times with those 4/5 people only.

That left me with so much time to think about my real self and about my parents too. Today an average youth has to sound ‘COOL’ & ‘MACHO’ to a minimum of 300 friends in the virtual world. Kitnaa energy lagtaa hai naa ? Sachi mein …So — the per capita attention that they are able to give to each friend becomes in decimals. And still advertisers want us to believe the truth in —‘Har aek friend Jarrori hota hai’ … 🙂  . Jaan le lo !

In the last 10+ years- Internet is the most wonderful thing that people have harnessed and tried to benefit from. Trust me — it is ROCKING. I reserve travel / hotel tickets online in minutes. Organizations have changed the way they advertise. A tweet from the CEO of COKE Intl’ – “Five years ago, social media was 3% of our total media spend. Today it is more than 20% & growing”. Companies are realizing that they better meet their customer where it exists most of the time i.e. online; rather than spending money on —‘where the customer hardly exists e.g. newspaper advts, hoardings etc’.

Online world is available 24*7. It makes the weakest of the guys feel ‘innately powerful’ ; as he can do anything there, express himself freely. For those who have understood this trick — ‘Business has become simpler to do’. 99% of my business comes from my website (CLICK HERE)/ Social Media. Internet / FB (CLICK HERE to visit my Official Page on FB) have amplified my reach to the youth. You are reading this post because of internet; else you might have had to travel to an auditorium in your city to listen to me/ anyone.

But unfortunately all these pluses bring with them some ‘Vish Kanyaa’ type side effects for the users especially the youth.

Pataa nahin chaltaa ; lekin jaise hi din hai dhaltaa- jeevan ka purpose -internet mein hai badaltaa aur hardly koi hai jo hai-‘sambhaltaa’.

The quantum of time that we spend on FB- if we were to do even :- ‘25% of that with our parents poking them with our love — ‘Gazab ho jaayegaa’ . If we put even 1/3rd of our FB passion in trying to reach God — trust me — ‘Shankar bhagwaan khud aake Friend request bhejengay’.

I feel pity at reading some of the FB statues of people.  

–                   A girl had put / dispalyed a pic of ‘Pakoras’ that she had cooked and 5 boys in her friend list wrote comments as if they are seeing the pictures of ‘not Pakoras’ ; but something else.

–                   A friend of mine on FB updated — ‘Life sucks’ … 11 friends had liked it. They forgot —‘He is speaking about Life’.

–                   My new hair cut, My new Bike (Bua’s gift), My i-Phone, my new Dress , My Puppy (She barks in English)- Khuch bhi update daal dete hain.

–                   “I lost my wedding Ring!!..Comments aate hain —“Oohh My God!! Howw?? Hope u r fyn sweety” / “Do lemme know when u find it..”

–                   Some put philosophical updates —‘Life gives us two option — something , something…’ . I am sure — such people are either in the middle of their exams or just do not implement in their lives- ‘what they wrote’. Such statuses attract fewer likes and seeing that — they themselves go ahead and LIKE it after a few hours. How CHEAP!! Haaawww Ji !

–                   Lastly- the ultimate one : ‘FRIENDS , I AM DELETING MY ACCOUNT …………. BYE FOREVER TC’ . (Shaheed Bhagat Singh waali feeling aayi naa ? )

FB has come to become that ‘Report Card’ of our school days where gets done a splendid display of ‘whatever good we do’. If we do not do good- ‘we end up displaying-  ‘How cool we are’. Sab khuch wahaan pe:-

–                   ‘Neend nahin Aa Rahi’

–                   Ladkiyon ka khaas — “ I aM vErY hApPy tOdAy!!..” (Kya hai yeh jumbled paheli??)

–                   One thing which has an uncanny resemblance with almost everyone’s profile is: a photo album called ‘My 20th Birthday’. Pics with face covered all over, with chocolate cake, 2 stupid girls, one sardar friend , one bouquet kept on the table of a restaurant & what not !

–                   Another thing which is very prominent from our great ‘North India side’- a photo album with cover pics of ‘mehngi waali angreji’ whiskey bottles kept there in line. All drunk guys posing in front of them and then expecting – girls will like it and write AWWWWW!!!

–                   Our Shimla Trip (where you are seen standing with ur horrible looking friend ) and are expecting LIKES on that

–                   A just married lady posted a pic ‘Me and my Hubby’ on a beach in Mauritius. She is wearing a 3 piece bikini but is also wearing a Chudda, Sindhoor and Mangalsutra along with the 3 piece bikini. Hubby is in his ‘Dixcy Scott (Emergency window waala underwear)’. And relatives commenting —“ Bless ya”..

–                   And Yes ! when the college trip went to Goa — Rahul, Sandeep, Nishant, Mayur ,Maddy, Nilaya, Pandit and Aashish post a pic in their underwears ; trying to look cool and stylish as if they are posing for the ‘Male edition of Kingfisher Calendar for 2012’. Friends commenting — “Mast Pic Bhai !! “. Girls commenting —“MaCho!!”

–         A well-known fact: Elephants trumpet, eagles scream, cats meow an girls ‘AWWWW’. They have this supernatural instincts to ‘Awwww’, they can awww on any damn status, any damn situation. On an average, a normal girl ‘awwww’s’ 25 times a day!!

Kitnaa energy lagaate hai naa hum FB pe. By God !! Qatal, Zehar type energy. Every comment needs to be answered. If someone praises us- we have to LIKE that comment. We so much try to be funny there to sound ‘YO ! BABY’ type of a man. Aur agar koi galat likh jaaye hamaare baarey mein- ‘uski to ….(whatever)’. Hum uski deewar mein jaake gandagi machayengay.

Isn’t all of this so superficial for the only and beautiful life that we have. Isn’t your MIND the worst thing that you can squander on your FB friend list? So much effort we put in to ‘be perceived in a ‘hero/ heroine’ way on FB. Trust me — it is a WASTE. We are not here to be ‘LIKED’ by maximum people. We’ll be so boring then – Buddy ! It will be so useless spending your years – so much on the basis of ‘praise’ & ‘criticism’ of people around you. You will begin to get a lot of attention in life only when you stop to desperately seek it. The surest way to be unhappy is to LINK life with Internet happiness.

The genesis of this internet addiction is our failure to engage our mind with ‘What it should do’. Our mind picks up the ‘EASY’. At our homes; we see lesser love between parents, busyness of parents, siblings too busy themselves in their own lives: All of it leaving us with no option but to get acceptance in the virtual world. This world is open 24*7 and this world makes us feel powerful; as it allows us an easy expression of our views / feelings. The ‘LIKES’ pamper our egos and this gradually becomes a habit.

Usually FB / Internet get us into the habit of ‘we giving our BEST to the world’. This over a longer run leads your mind into a ‘indescribable exhaustion mode’. You will feel useless ; over a period of time.

We end up carrying in our minds- the negative energies of so many people on internet . Their issues, their uselessness, their oddities, their comments on us etc. “Woh ladki mere baare me kya soch rahi hogi??” / “ Usne mera Update LIKE kiya; Kya iska matlab yeh hai ki who mujhe LIKE karti hai??” . We have become a bigger social worker than Mother Teresa because we think more about our friends than we think about our own lives.

Do the following:-

1)           Keep 6/7 days in a month; when you will just not touch Internet. I promise — it will just not lead to constipation or piles. Personally Experienced!.

2)           Do utility internet. E.g. — do not update ur status unnecessarily. First make one. Before posting a status — ask yourself- ‘How much useless emotion is a part of the words/ pic I am posting’.

3)           Be more worried about —‘what is happening to your Life’s picture’ than your ‘Display Picture’.

4)           Use internet in slots e.g. three / four slots of 30 mins each spread across the 24 hrs (This is what I do). I have to do this much — because this world is my office.

5)           Reduce to minimum- the ‘swaad / chaskaa’ part from your FB/ Interneting.

6)           You do not have to immediately see the sms / email / tweet beep on your mobile phone — within seconds of its buzzing. It is not the itch of the fungal infection in your groin — that requires an emergent scratch.

7)           Stop making a desperate attempt to ‘Impress people’; when on Internet. You’ll see that when you stop doing this — ‘MAGIC’ will begin to happen in your life. Personally experienced!

So much of ‘onlining’ depletes the genuine energy of our soul/ spirit. Rejuvenate it by :-

1)           Having an outdoor hobby. It will ‘FIT’ you up. It will balance you up. Spend a minimum of 24 days in a month in spending a minimum of one hour daily on that ‘outdoor’ hobby.

2)           Jabardasti spending quality offline time with ur real life friends. But then do not go and update about that on FB (e.g. Me, Chadha & Romeo at CCD )

3)           Having a good ‘Reading Habit’. Read at least 3- 4 books every month (which are not e-books). Par jyaada photo waali kitaab nahin (You know what I mean 🙂 )

4)           Converting the ‘Compulsive FB / Mobile phone syndrome’ into a ‘Constructive /Necessary / Important only FB / Mobile phoning’.

5)           Having a GOAL in your life ; which you can die for. Once this happens — everything else will fall in place- be it discipline or FB or people issues. When you are making ‘smart progress’ in your life – the best people will automatically happen to you.  Personally Experienced!

All this might look difficult to do; in the beginning. But trust me- if you do a ‘jabardasti waala Focus’ for a few weeks only — you shall surmount your addictions of the virtual world. JUST DO IT ! You just CANNOT be doing ORDINARY stuff and be expecting Extra-Ordinary Results . Add some DARE + MADness to your Life & see the Change.

If it is 1) Not on the road of your Goal or 2) is not making you a good human – ‘IT IS NOT WORTH IT‘.  Get a firmer hold of the LOGIC and stop expecting MAGIC.

Your mobile / Laptop ; I agree is an educated instrument and offers you everything cool- FB/ Twitter/ Youtube etc etc… Your life too ; like your mobile is offering you so much- A chance to be ‘the best that you can be’. Choice is yours —‘You wish to pick up your mobile or your Life’.

Everyone else is on his/ her mobile / laptop. You can make a statement by being ‘with your own LIFE’ …

One Life – so many good things to do / achieve— Rise & Shine !

NEXT :You do some social work : Help your Friend who is suffering from FB groin infection by SHARING this blogpost with him / her. You can SHARE it by pressing the SHARE button below (FaceBook/ Twitter)’. You CAN then make a difference to your friend’s life.  

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Akash Gautam is a Motivational Speaker & Corporate Trainer in India. Hundreds of Top Corporates like Google, CIPLA, Vodafone, McKinsey & Co., Maruti, HDFC, RIL, M&M & premier colleges like IIMs, IITs, SRCC etc go to him whenever they need a refreshing, big bang impact. Write to usWrite to us to know how he can transform your Team.

  • Shaivalini

    Sir, great write up …and so funny specially “awww” part….each and every bit about facebook status updates is true…..thank u for guiding us …..really very very helpful…..:)

  • makes a lot of sense.. a real lot here. esp 4 d teen lot..this has to go down into my bones though m not xactly an addict type…
    one disagreement..alll girls don’t haawwwww all d tym;)…
    certainly not my clan..:)

    • Anonymous

      What do u do ? 🙂

    • Sanjiv

      its not hawwwwww ,infact its awwwwww!!

    • Charmi sahni

      trueee

  • zubair ahmad

    awesome akkash! Thanks for building us

  • saurabh

    you’ve done it again sir..an eye opener..

  • awesome akkash! Thanks for building us BLOCKBUSTER

  • saurabh

    nd the names used..rahul,sandeep etc…sound so real..:)

  • Abhishek

    Good one! Everything is unfortunately true! There is a huge difference between how we grew up and how today’s children are being grown up! I remember I used to watch cartoon, play cricket, interact with friends in our passtime…..n now youngsters are just glued to internet and mobile 24*7!!! Hope dis situation changes for better!

    • Anonymous

      me too hopez 🙂

      • Mr Akash Gautam i am also on d same frequency as u are..nd many of ur thoughts matches with wat i hav written myself in my diary..but u knw wat i thought i am d only onw who can thnk so nd write so ..happy to knw u also hav similar writing skills and seems to hav a fan following too..wish i cud also hav tym and dat mch of addiction to type all my thghts sme day on a blog

  • Sandythinking

    Me, Chadda n Romeo at CCD…haha…fab’ as usual…in fact every thing is fab’ to the core…..really an awesome wake up for the internet MACHO’S:):)

  • Arunimah

    Seems like it has been written for me 🙂 … Thank you Sir !

  • Himadri

    thank u so much sir…this is very very helpful post..& thanks for opening my eye…

  • Himadri

    thank u so much sir…this is very very helpful post..& thanks for opening my eye…

  • ASHISH ABHICHANDANI

    Hope this BLOG will make us understand that our REAL LIFE status is moch more Important than FACEBOOK status.

  • ASHISH ABHICHANDANI

    Hope this BLOG will make us understand that our REAL LIFE status is moch more Important than FACEBOOK status.

  • right lesson at d right time .. FGI ( fb groin infection) z explained superlatively.. it has gt sign and symptom , treatment n prevention 🙂 …. you always inspire us and this time u r givin right direction to d young guns …. 🙂 thank you sir 🙂

  • Deepika Mohanty

    Akaas sir 😉 what an wonderful piece of work…………apne toh jaise muh ki baat chin li…………whatever u have written up here really stand true to all of us (including U though a lil bit he he ) FACEBOOK ADDICTS. but ik baat nhe samjh ayi mujhe sir ji………..tat is in ur DO list no 7……”stop making desperate attempts to IMPRESS PEOPLE……once u dont do it…MAGIC will happen”……………….plz plz plz…do share ur incident with us which led u to say this……………..cos i really want to see myself how much correct i m..by ACTUALLY doing this……….

    and jaldi batana plzzzzzzzzz….waiing for the answer……………and ik aur baat………..v gurls do tat “Awwwwww” thing cos guys like it tat way………….nhe toh there would be li less difference b/w the two farsly classified genders….
    Regards
    Deepika
    one of your realy good student whom u said in her first eng class at CL in CHD- say it “tat u r (tats me here) happy to see me………:) 🙂

    • Anonymous

      Deepika : What u have asked for is a very pertinent question…

      It is for one to experience that ‘If you really wish to impress someone – Just do not put an extra effort to impress him / her’…. This is all what it takes to make a big impact…

      Cultivate a quiet kind of a confidence…

      Dont u see around that people who do not try and seek desperate attention ; usu end up getting the most attention

      Cheers !

      Akash

  • Anubhuti Gupta

    super duper like…..completely agree with each n every point… i wish people take lesson from this and implement the suggestions given by sir in their life.. they will feel the change in them and will start loving life..
    thank you sir for enlightening us…. looking forward to your next post….

    • Anonymous

      Coming soon next : ‘Rishta Wahi – Soch Nayi ‘

  • I so completely feel right now that the Blog is written for me! This is exactly what I need in my LIFE at this point of time. 🙂

    I am v thankful to yu for this Blog. 🙂

    • Anonymous

      🙂 Thanks …

  • Sonalikarora

    awesome as always sir… : ) and each and every part is true…..really a lesson for all of us..

  • great write up ..An eye opener for fb addicts

  • Prabhat

    Nice blog. Nice topics and great points assembled at one place… feels so good to read this. Thanks Master Akash 🙂

  • Pranetaone

    thankyou Akash for this blog post coz mai thak chuki thi apni lil sister ko samjha samjha k ki na kar itni ati n ab ye blog pardkar kuch to samjh me aya he hoga for sure thank you once again thank you….

    • Anonymous

      Glad ! I could make a connect …

  • Akanksha

    it is WOW sir ….the REAL TRUTH of today’s world ….loved it

  • HOW DO U ALWAYS COME UP WITH SUCH WONDERFUL N RELEVANT TOPICS.?????
    AND UR BRAND OF HUMOUR IS JUST MINDBLASTINGLY YUMMILICIOUSLY AWESUM..!!!!
    AND ALL D GALS DOES “”AAAAWWWWW”” ALWAYS

    • Anonymous

      Wasim ,

      I eat Zandu special Chyawanpraash … 🙂

  • Veenu Gabra

    sir ur article is a real eye opener 2 all dose on FB who always try 2 b ‘all things 2 all people’.gr8 work sir

  • Mahajannn18

    too gud sir.. waitin fr da next 🙂 🙂

  • Ayushi Jain

    tnkew sir giving us a such real n valuable post …

  • Aditi28oct

    gr8 knowledge of lyf n ppl sir,,

    u really rock,,,

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Aditi for the nice words …

  • very Sensible and rational post…much needed .. Fab as usual !

  • Avatsa2006

    awwwwwwwwwwww akash sir..!!!!!!!!!!

    • Anonymous

      Awwwwwww 🙂

  • Perfect shot…A huge sixer…
    This is my blog.Plz read it,may be u find it interesting..
    http://godisgreatbysanyam.blogspot.com/

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !

      Will surely check …

  • Lolzz .. Bang on target …

    I am not ashamed to accept the fact that I can also be classified under one of those verticals … And facebook is even better … Just see what all are the things we update on #twitter .. 😛 😉

    But still I make sure to find some time out for the offline activities .. Being an MBA student helps me in that 😛 😉

    • Anonymous

      Hi ! Harsh ,

      While in a B-School – yes u may be able to. The real test will be the evening ; when you return from your workplace – when u start working 🙂

      Cheers !

      Akash

  • today i ws feelin nervous bt after reading dis blog it grew up my energy..fab as usual..:)

    • Anonymous

      Glad ! I could contribute ….

  • BEST BLOGPOST TILL NOW!!

  • Cutiee Devil

    dou my fb fever is fyn now..it hapnd 2 me in 9th n 10th..evry1 2day hs xperienced it..
    n i lyk dat line,,gurls awww 25 tyms a day..n1 🙂

  • Anubhav

    Wonderful Article Sir…. I will surely share it where it is required and more importantly, for whom it is required… this is exactly what i see all my friends doing and at times, it gets on to one’s nerves…
    Thank You so much …it is a very insightful article and hits exactly where it should…:)

  • Ruchikashrivastavacat

    sir i seriously fail to understand!!!after writing a good 2and half page against facebook addiction you want us to benefit from your page at facebook!!!!!!!

    • Anonymous

      Yes Ruchika ,

      🙂

      The choice ir urs – u wish to or not ; as I try , attempt and adopt the intent of ‘Constructive Facebooking’ on two of my FB Pages… Trying to make the world a more happy and sharp a place.

      e.g. Akash ka Vocab Dhaba is Asia’s biggest community on FB on enhancing Communication Skills. Thousands of people are benefiting from it . Is it bad to use this page when u Fbook. ?

      The LINKS of my two FB Pages are :-

      https://www.facebook.com/akashkavocabdhaba

      https://www.facebook.com/akashspeaks

      Just for info : there is an UNLIKE button on the left hand side of the both the pages ; in case u think — u r not benefiting out of either / both.

      Cheers !

      Akash

  • Ashutosh

    I do bet and betting is my passion! More than 99% of persons who (have/are about to) read this article will forget the actual meaning within less than 86400 seconds(i can’t say 24 hours because that’ll make no hypo sense); other less than 1%(the ones who’ll enchant about this article, ‘oh! that has changed my life and all and all) will definitely experience something unusual in their routine life(am i missing something, i’ve headache, oho Sunita might have commented on my last status, email from Sam an what else?). Guys, i bet, follow the tips by Akash sir for just 1 whole week and let me know , ‘are you okay?’. We are humans and cigarette is an addictive drug, same is with internet. (We’ll pretend a lot, ‘yes! i’ve finally got new life no Facebook and tension free life! but what about your BlackBerry Torch? will you throw it away? Certainly, NO! you’ll log on from it, the cool BBM will compel you to send emails and the world’s most innovative browser will poke you, ‘aha mister/miss, common search Google, tag photos and do everything.) You’ll become hypocrite and nonetheless liars aw well.
    So just switch on your laptop/desktop and calmly relax yourself down and feel the ‘NASHA’.
    -Ashutosh

    • Anonymous

      A saint is a sinner who NEVER gave up 🙂

      • Anshuman

        sir .. iska kya matlab haii.. ??

        A saint is a sinner who NEVER gave up 🙂

    • Anshuman

      nice bet with stats .. and som how u t correct if u r a doper.. 🙂 enjoy NASHA..

  • Varinder

    Most of your blogs are very near to my as well as every ones life,Good going……..Great

  • Awesome post Akash. The things u tell are very practical but very hard to follow. MY productivity at office automatically increases if I log out of my fb account. Its really an addiction which ppl shud avoid. As u said fb shud be used in a constructive manner.

    Nd also the line u said that “you shud have a quiet kind of a confidence” is absolutely true. Pretentious person is never confident…then how can he impress others!!! Ur posts are to the point…keep writing nd motivating 🙂

  • himanshu Khurana

    you truly act as an eye opener for yougistaan…. thanks to your previous blog which said ” first upgrade your life’s status then ur fb” i am more focussed on my real life now…. n ya your relationship management articles too are a great help…. m very much sure that in a few weeks my fb account will be active for ur vocab dhaaba n ur blogs..
    it’s great that you are using your experiences for the greater good…. may god bless you sir 🙂

  • sandy internet MACHO’S…rofl..:P

  • Labborocks

    Awesum and really something very sensible…hats off..:)

    Though hard 2 follow yet most of d teen will think abt it naturally…and will definately think bfr commenting r likin dos stupid status r pics…lol!

    Really enjyd it reading a lot..:P:P

  • This blog is on public demand no.? And as expected it’s full of facts and humor.. Love the way you write sir.. It seems as if you are talking to us in personal.. Thanx a load sir!!
    And yeah those are seriously vish kanya type side effects.. Sometimes it’s fun reading crazy status people share..But of course in the end it’s nothing but waste of time..
    Sharing it.. 🙂

    P.S. I “awww” less than 25 times.. :p but more than 15 times for sure.. 😉

  • vicky

    You are the man 🙂

  • Chandan444ever

    after reading this blog..i stoped posting in facebook…so not sharing your blog… 😛

    • Jaswani Preeti21

      i think u shud read carefully… sirr asked not 2 share stupid status or things like that…..
      but only relevent posts…..

  • a wonderful blog sir…. …..my exams are going on bt i took out tym to read this …..now i will do my xms well without any addiction…..coz dere is” One Life – so many good things to do / achieve– Rise & Shine !”….:)

  • Ankush

    you are like those few people who make sense with a good sense of humour( like raju hirani’s movies ;))

    asusual really good article sir

    thnx for such great words 🙂

  • Abhishek Alok9

    ek dum sahi hai sir ji…

  • Netibhanot

    this is the best tip especially for me ……. 😛 what i feel Use internet in slots e.g. three / four slots of 30 mins each spread across the 24 hrs (This is what I do). I have to do this much – because this world is my office

    and girls dont do awwwwwwwwww 25 times …. disagreement to it… rest is gud

  • Sonisonali

    Fabulous…but this works only for people your and my age group…..
    Thank U.
    sonali

  • Nishanjali Nisha

    Fantabulous blog sir…….
    Your blogs are kind of FB skul………

  • Alps_razdaan

    very well said Akash… meaningful without being a wee bit pretentious .. good read..

  • Ritika Tiwari

    I have never awwwww’ed and honestly after reading this I can never ever awwww 😛
    I almost died laughing reading this ! Its just so true..facebook has become more of a ‘flauntbook’ now :/

  • Tycoonamit2020

    i read ur blog…and like it too… and i wanna tell u one thing that i have stopped myself completely for FB…nd m completely agree with ur thoughts……great job boss…………nice……

  • Ankush

    ThankYou 🙂

  • most like blogged Akash
    Akash u miss some special point like use of yipeee, aapiee, and some unknown slang vch google didn’t find
    use of 2 or more fb account
    fantastic akash

  • Anshuman

    ‘Shankar bhagwaan khud aake Friend request bhejengay’. … nice lines sir.. well aapne boht sahi kaha is FB ke baare and internet ke baare me.. ki itna time nahi bitana chahea.. nd creative work me time lagane ki koshish karni chahea.. .. aapne apne article “kitna deti hai ” me disiplin ke baare me sai kaha tha .. aur agar life me disiplin naamak chidia aajaye to life bab jaye 🙂
    .. mujhe aapki wo baate sab se jyada aachi lagee jab aapne kaha ki hume apne “parents” ke saath wakt bitana chahea.. and agar is baat ko aapka har ek reader or i can say student maane to har kisi ki lefe.. ” feels like heaven ” ho jaye coz unhi ke charno me swarg hai.. and thats a real truth 🙂
    .. baaki rahi baat ladkio ke AAAAWWW karne ki .. ye to mai bhe maanta hu… well kuch BHAkkk bhe kehti hai 🙂
    ..
    well meri typing styl se pata to chal he gaya hoga that m also a chatter.. but ha .. i left that habit .. coz bhakkk kehne wali chali gai..

    jo bhe ho.. !!
    its feel good to read u.. coz aap boht sahi likhte hai..
    nd haa nazar bhe rakhte hai 😛 WALL par
    u have lot of experience.. 🙂
    ..

  • your article proves that to be rocking on social media… you need to come up with creative & original content that tickles some fundamental human emotion (preferably positive) which cuts across cultural boundaries….

    Well written.. your article is an inspiration.
    http://www.profmanishparihar.blogspot.com

  • Dear Akash,

    equation for your article:

    very creative + original + simple + ticklish = social media hit!

    well written..!
    http://www.profmanishparihar.blogspot.com

  • Arnab Basu

    Sir, after reading your article I realise I have am one of these people who have become addicted to the net, especially FB. Thank you for such a wonderful piece. It really puts things into perspective. I think now, I ought to try and make this work – what you advise that is. 🙂

  • Ketaki27

    m glad my parents dont use internet.. varna kehte ” kam se kam isse padhke toh sudhar jao..hum toh keh keh ke thak gaye ” 😀 But with all due respect.. it isnt any of the bitter kind of truths to accept.

    “The quantum of time that we spend on FB- if we were to do even :- ‘25% of that with our parents poking them with our love – ‘Gazab ho jaayegaa’ . If we put even 1/3rd of our FB passion in trying to reach God – trust me – ‘Shankar bhagwaan khud aake Friend request bhejengay’.”

    This was the best part of the blog bcz I totally fall into the above category! 🙂

  • T P Shweta

    Bahut hi sateek comment Facebook par kiya hai….

  • shikha pathak

    awwwwww…lol!On this historical day ,I pledge not to say “awwwwww” ever again 😉

  • Shahnawaz Akhtar07

    gud one Akash………I liked it a lot..I will try 2 implement it.thnx

  • siddhant jain

    Awesome article

  • MansiRawal

    well written being a regular reader of your blogs i must say ..that every month i read something Very PRODUCTIVE… and i m feeling good that i don’t fall into the above category..;) Tym kiske paas hai…:p

    and believe me every girl dont awwwiiee.. 😀

    P.S: Rising and Shining..!!

  • Sonia sabharwal

    very well written…

  • Julie_alagh

    awesomee sir hats off

  • bad image

    sir,i passed my 12th from bio ,dropped a year for medical entrance exam ,i didnt qualify i then did BBA den dropped for mba entrance exams since i didnt get gud percentile in my 1st attempt…..my parents keep telling me” i m gud fr nthngg n wasted their hard earned money wen i m nt capable ,” they think i m gud fr nthng bcoz i dont attend religious gatherings n pravachan……i spend most of time online bcoz i get to learn new things,read gud stuff,talk to my frnds…..i need ur opinion,how can i impove msyelf….wht shd i do? i love my parents a lot they r my life….i can do anything for dem n deir happiness..

  • Pradattgautam

    wah.. sir maja aa gaya readke ,,,
    mane apke sare blog read liye hain

  • Vipulm124

    though i m not addicted to FB……………..but certainly i m impressed wth d FORCE in ur words…………

  • i realized the wrong in my lifestyle……….thanx a lot sir………really grateful to you….!!!!!!!!!!!

  • jaya

    awesome blog specially a lesson to those people who are updating status which carry no meaning

  • Ankit bishnoi

    JAANDAR

  • Premkishor007

    after reading ur blog, one thing i m gonna do for sure that reading 3-4 books per month & not spending too much time on fb..thanx

  • shruti

    Amazing Akash……… u made us relies WHT STUPIDITY WE DO ON fb……..

  • amit

    IN sab ne comment to bhut achey kiye “mager kya aap ki baat mani akash goutam sir”………………?

  • True words!!! really, your every sentence is stuck to my mind. Hopefully, I am already trying to decrease my FB addiction. 🙂

  • jeet sandhu

    i more..like fb as a business and..to contact those people..whom are not possible to be contacted..on phone..or in another words..u do not want to spend bucks on phone call..to manage them as friends…..but..one thing is sure…now-a-days..that..2 dimensional life is really hurting..the values…the time. we spend..offline..or face to face is get counted…here when..we are not even sure..that..the person talking to us..is really talking truth..or just..experimenting. with emotions….so..i really like to enjoy my real life….coz..ur time will be counted by those ..with whom ur spending it..

  • AFTAB SAMA (fb-Aftab Sama)

    no comments…m speechless… Main tumhe kuch dena chahta hun …aey le… grand salute…

  • Kopal agarwal

    sir ur words are very powerful……….n will create miracles 4 those…………who hv understood ur intention 2 write dis article………..bt those who r unable cud harly make a difference……….

  • Cute Me1857

    really helpful…n osumly written

  • brilliantly articulated sir and all this are so true with humor in it that it never makes us feel low while going through your posts….

  • Roopam kelley

    i somehow felt the same for fb and u put it in words..!
    n second this aim thing is still not clear in my life..so that s the only part undigested as yet..
    thank you
    and i am a girl who does not use awwwww and the worst of all muah at all..

  • Chhavi

    Akash Sir,
    I know I am quite late in writing a comment.. and I wont be surprised if this goes unread.
    But I felt like dropping in a few words!!

    JUST WANTED TO SHARE MY THOUGHTS TOO 🙂

    <>

    *****
    sabse pehle to thodi taarif, so that I get the attention <>
    *****

    The flow of the post was very nicely set and it delivered,at apt intervals, exactly what was required!
    Be it grabbing the attention of the teenagers by talking to them in their language, or be it flooding the lines with real-time examples! And then, when you had successfully arrested your readers, you provided THE-GYAAN!

    Frankly telling, even I keep on saying similar things to my friends, that C’mmon ppl!! There is a life beyond this world too!

    “Clicking a picture” is no more done with an intention to preserve the sweet memories for the future times when we’ll become mummy’s or papa’s!
    >> :p Waise! with the pictures that people click nowadays. ..they cant even imagine their children having a look at them, in the future! Lest the children should be allowed to do similar things! <> multiple puns intended :p <<
    ******
    Chhavi

  • Chhavi

    OOPS!!
    Perhaps the hyper text protocols garbled up a para! just coz I used the signs!
    😛
    Here is the sensible version of that para!

    (waise, sir …i feel,people have lost the patience to read the stuff that is written in correctly spelled words, that follows the correct protocols of a language and that is without unnecessary capitalized alphabets! perhaps the very sight of it makes it look BORING to them!)

    PS: Ignore the ” ” at the end of the previous post! :p
    PPS: this is just for those who could manage to take out time to read my previous post!

  • Chhavi

    NICE

  • Arch

    I’m not on fb.And no….I’m not a Martian 😀

  • deepali dixit

    its an awsome blog…

  • i m speechless.. the ultimate story!

  • Sumitjha89

    i really agree with you.
    it was a nice reading.

  • Mauli

    very true sir…the fact which worries me the most is how do people get so much of time?? I mean at times I feel that I’ve been cheated and given only 24 hours a day to do so much of work!! How do they get time to update every insignificant thing they do when there is a lot more to do than just telling the whole world that u played farm ville..

  • dhriti

    fabulous stuff sir ! Have been your fan since I attended the jab we cat session in Ranchi.

    P.S. But haven’t AWWWED till date… ! not even once !

  • Gautam Sharma

    Wooaahh…. I liked it..Akash sir is a master of his art…..

    I wnna have an academy of my own sir 1 day…

    Gautam Sharma

  • Pavneet Singh

    That is absolutely correct I mean one of my friend’s grandfather got expired and just after 2 days he posted it on FB and he is getting 15 likes and 10 awwwwww matlab kuch time baad if there would b saas bahu wrestling in family doo nahi hai wo din jab vo sab bhi post hongey with videos

  • Rahulbajaj

    really nice

  • Jhony Deep89

    Really a great article sir,Inspired till yesterday I haven’t update anything.

  • Nikita G

    i myself was a fb addict but then with time I got bored of it and now i dnt like fb much. May be 5 or 6 days a month i go to fb. So I feel at some point of time the ‘ fb addicts’ will get fed up of their ‘show-off’. The sad thing is for many teens fb is their internet, i doubt they use internet for purpose other than fb..

  • shweta

    Thanks allot!!! it include all the things that i want to tell my friends…….

  • sandesh

    thankyou sir for such a life changing advices……….

  • Surbhi

    teenagers ko samjhaana is not an easy task…
    but u do n did it so well…:)
    *respect* 🙂 🙂 🙂

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Surbhi!

      glad I could connect 🙂

  • Vaishali Agarwal

    wonderful article sir…

    • AkashGautam

      Thanks Vaishali !!

  • Ved

    It’s 7.18 in the morning. I went for a walk immediately after reading this. I am actually commenting after coming back from the walk. Thanks 🙂

  • diwas

    too gud… it worth reading

  • Really appreciative….This make me crossed. thanks

  • alisha arora

    awsome article akash sir ………… i hv become a fan of urs ……

  • Rohan J

    Dejavu feel, I got off social media sites 2 yrs back and believe me you really get a long time every day to reflect on your life , do activities which you wont otherwise, living for real people, dosti ke fundey badlenge, for better, koi compulsion nahi, raat raat time waste nahi hota, not taking faaltu tensions, jaldi sojao aur refreshed utho, aur haan hero banna hai to filmon me jao, stop living that hollow life. Still use the internet for various needs & research which never drains me. Hero ya Zero, Life still moves on.Thank you for your wonderful post Sir.

  • The request in d end, to share the post… Didnt it make the post sound a lot ironic :/
    I quite often see ur pics and statuses on fb, sir! Irony!

    • AkashGautam

      Hi Vinnie !

      Ironical as it seems, I’m talking about ‘not getting addicted’ and using internet for ‘constructive use’ .. Maybe I couldn’t explain myself very clearly.

      As for the irony of my pictures and statuses being visible on fb, I can’t help it really 🙂 … I still abide by what I have written above. One can’t really make everyone happy. Irony!

      Surely, you are not the addicted one. Else, you wouldn’t have found so much irony in this post. I’m glad 🙂

      Best Wishes

      Akash

  • Sonam

    VERY INTERESTING TO READ AND REALISE THE SAME…AS VIRTUAL WORD HAS DWELL IN PEOPLE”S HEART FADING AWAY THE REAL EMOTIONS AND EXPRESSION

  • totally true sir….
    sir i attended only one seminar of u….
    please let me know if u come gwalior or delhi …
    please sir….

  • Aasim Abbasi

    grrr8 work sir… it seems like this blog is specifically for me… u knw wot sir I have jot down aol d suggestion of urs (bade bade achcharon me) nd paste it in my bedroom (it hurts me qk bechari babes peeche chup gayi hai)…bt it rly works sir… the best part is “Hv a goal in dat u can die for…” !!!…keep sharing ur grrrr8 veiws… u r actuly making a new world…

  • Amit

    Akash if you think over it you would realise your fan-list is full of such BOYS/GIRLS who belong to one of categories you have described/complained in your blog.

    Ask them to unlike or delete comments(as they don’t mean it) they have done on your person or non-social work like ….”is now a fan of the movie – ‘Fukrey’! ”

    If it’s Fukrey for you… it can be somebody’s pakora, hair-style, bua’s gift bike and so on…

    If people go by your formula, anything else won’t be left there other than AAKASHVANIES, SOCIAL-WORK and etc etc…

    I guess your blog is specific; otherwise advises are nice and welcomed.

  • Aman

    Sir…Where can i find more videos of Bolly-cabulary?..I find them really very helpful

  • Priyanka

    Just 1 Thing …Why There Is So Much Debate On Girls “Aww” ….Jahaan Dekho Chayaa Hua H…:P

  • Nikita

    its an amazing article sir. Its so relevant in today’s times as you see internet addicts everywhere.

  • Akash

    Dear Akash sir,
    It was a very good blog post as it is the burning issue in the recent times. People specially youth today is wasting a lot of time for maintaining its online virtual image. People today are more interested in creeping into the life of others. Although it may be a good source for being social in today`s fast track life but excessive use is very dangerous. It is a wastage of time..
    Thank you for enlightening us.
    Looking forward for more motivational Posts…

  • navjot singh

    interesting and humurous article aakash sir…

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