I am very sure this blogpost is going to disappoint one community – the residents of e.g. ‘XYZ  Boys Hostel for Engineers’ who started reading this- hoping it to be a violent act of ‘Imagineering’ with pics from the movie as the name of the post.

I am sorry! I am writing this post under utter helplessness at the way our media has morphed especially in the last 6 months or so. My 6 year old boy just called my neighbor’s daughter — ‘Oye ! Junglee Jawani’ . Not his fault — as he just returned from the movie- ‘Rockstar’.

Am I REALLY getting older, boring and paternalistic?

Hmmm ! NO … After a lot of thought about my own Jawaani 🙂

Just some years back- it used to take rain and lightning for accidental sex  to happen in a movie (This sex had 100% pregnancy rate). These days- rain falls after ‘Sex’ . The frequency of sex scenes is the same as the speed / frequency of an advt in KBC. SEX used to be an accident previously; now sex can happen even after a proper road accident with a song playing in the background. Infact these days ,songs are also not required  🙂 .   Hamaari generation ne ‘A lot can happen over a Coffee’ waali baat ko dil se lagaa liyaa hai !! The average age when a child realizes that -‘Babies do not come via Bhagwaan ji to Hospitals to Home ‘ has come down drastically.

The biggest impact on the sociology of a mediumly emotionally competent nation as ours has been Bollywood — for decades now. It used to very silently mutate our thought patterns for many many years. Not now ! The speed now is DHOOM-3. The producers of the movies- it seems have cracked the code recently. They know that the largest India is living under the age 25. Never before did I see a bold display of ‘posteriors of women’ in a kids movie as Ra.One or the leading lady patronizing being ‘Anti-establishment kinds’ so firmly. Katrina’s (in Mere brother ki Dulhan) doing Alcohol / Bidi and smashing the policemen is shown as something regularly chic and something which will get her the love of the most handsome men around. Movies today are full of taboo words and the Vocabulary of school kids needs no dictionary to know the meanings. Maa-Behen is the flavour of the season…

Young minds are the rawest minds. An ‘Art of Living’ course / ISKCON temples / Raja Yoga meditations are never so much going to make an impact on the societal young minds; as a movie as ‘Delhi-Belly’. Mr Ranbir Kapoor in Jim Morrison style shows his middle finger to a packed crowd in a recent movie . No marks for guessing- ‘At how many places of youth- will this get enacted by the youth’; as silently our boys and girls enact the sub surface body language of actors / actresses.  This is because ‘our minds attract negativity more than they attract positivity’. What our movies depict becomes the fashion of times- be it the dialogues, or the dresses (or hardly dresses) or even the audacity to being so carelessly infidel.

What we are proving to the FB generation is that ‘Mind should get what it wants- even if it is non-logical’. We are showing them easy MAGIC in place of LOGIC. A ‘Flirty look’ is almost permanent on the faces of the young people. Most of them; they remain in competition- ‘Who is more COOL and extra CHEAP’. Munnis, Jalebi Bais and Sheilas have confused men so much that they wonder — ‘‘Where to focus- ‘Apni Jawaani ya Sheila ki Jawaani’’. Who wants PORN – its available day in and day out…in bits and pieces , 24 * 7 ..everywhere around…

SEX has breezed out of the FOUR WALL BEDROOMS…Seeing so much ‘SEX’ around on the screens ; will any young person wait till the age 25/26 to get physical ? NO ! especially when the modern means of communication have made depicting myriad emotions so ‘easily possible’. And that sex has taken such weird VIRTUAL and VICARIOUS forms. The ‘parent’ kind of controllers of all this are so much themselves busy and confused in accepting all this that — they end up remaining mute spectators. And if they try to oppose/warn, they become ‘Balwant Rai’s’ for our young aggressive ‘Sunny Deols’.

STDs, Emotional diseases, Relationship cobwebs are just a tip of the volcano of confusion that we are placing our society onto. By showing all this to the people between 12-25 ; imagine how much compressed we make them feel; if they themselves are not able to create for them a point of catharsis. Girls these days look so Adobe Photoshopish while they so much try to copy their role models in cinemas. Boys (who look Bodyguards more)— when they carry such girls with them in Malls / Theatres — both of them look nothing short of a ‘Dusshehra ki Jhanki’.

And after all this; we want our kids to be focused. After ourselves inventing so many aspects of life — which at their locus ooze — ‘Confusion/ Swaad / Chaskas’ — we wish that our children be like us. They cant be.

Why have they stopped making ‘Chak De’ / Lakshya / Taare Zameen Par / Lagaan/ Swades kind of movies in the last few years? They did equal business. Or are we becoming so desperate to meet our ‘instantly gratifying kind of agendas’. Are we heading toward “THE WANNABE COUNTRY ” ?

My work gets me to do Student and Teacher training programs at some of India’s best schools. Just ever closely listen to the kids talking in recess- you’ll know ‘what I am saying’. We are feeling bankrupt — when it is coming to giving our kids some ‘Role Models’. All they have to look upto/down at are MODELS..:)

A Deepika dating 2 men publicly before being accepted by another rich one is being considered a style. A Ranbeer or a Shahid having public break ups is considered as a qualifying sign for being considered hot enough. Almost 365 days of Cricket (some of it as frenzied IPL), 24 hrs of Music Channels, Movie Channels makes me wonder — are we leaving any scope for the young minds to be ever at rest. When was the last time you put on your TV, switched channels and dint see a scantily clothed lady/man or heard a beep – a red bikini lady gets out of the sea to advertise for “cement ” – “vishwas hai, isme kuch khaas hai “- how many of us will actually construct our house with such “cement “. We still have the most beautiful ads showing the eternal mother- child relationship in Cadbury / Raymond’s. Are we giving more value to nudity than emotions ? We have even gone to the extent of allowing Mandira Bedi giving expert cricket comments in her almost lingerie-ful noodle strapped sarees.

Mr Prime Minister — we need reforms in the Media too. For our country has failed to generate idol politicians to capture the imagination of the youth. Corruption was never less that now we are heading to vulgarity. Where is the country going ? At least govern / regulate closely and properly — what is wrongly regulating their minds. Charity begins at home. Can not the moms swap the stupidly melodramatic serials for a good English News Channel?

Our country is the land of Vedas, Yoga and values. Your unbridled and wanton media is interfering with the young minds to get their ‘Haq’ (Right). ). SANSANI KHABAR doesn’t make my Son’s future any Sunny.. Lest we shout — ‘Saada Haq- Aithay Rakh’ ; one day- please do something. Trust me — a right move here — can win any party the next general election. An Idea 🙂

But I know you will not do anything. You are just not influenced by our movies. Else seeing the ‘public declaration of assets’ by our heroines- you politicians shall have also copied and done the same to with your financial assets. Mr Prime Minister please do bail out  someone as Mr Vijay Maalya – who has billions in Liquor, F1, IPL and yachts ; but do not forget to also bail out ‘Our almost nude Media’.

Hmm ! Let us see next how dirty does Vidya Balan get the next Friday in the ‘Dirty Picture’…   and whether my son says to my neighbor’s daughter after that ” ladki tu hai bari bombat ” or it could get the other way round 🙂 with she singing —‘ o la la o la la, tuhaimeriphantasiii!!’

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  • Karishma….

    SUPER DUPER BUMPER LIKE!!!!!!!!!!sleazy nd creepy guys need a hard hitting in every sense of d term…..

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Karishma 🙂

    • Saurabh

      and what about “SLEAZY & CREEPY” girls? huh…. :@

      • Anonymous

        Saurabh – they too 🙂

        Youth comprises both – Guys and girls.. so it pertains to both 🙂

        • Although the intent is moral behind the article but I think at some points you have deviated from the motive or have gone out of scope.

  • Amit Rs999

    QUIET AMAZING…

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Amit 🙂

      nice name u have !

  • Ayush

    aur rahi sahi kasar western T.V series Like F.R.I.E.N.D.S, californication etc ne poori kardi hai…….

    • Anonymous

      True 🙂

  • y2t

    very truly nd rightly said sir
    a double like to it
    bt i personaly feel dat it wont stop till we stop tryin to be super cool(wen we don kno wat it truly means) nd stop aping the westerners nd their culture wen ours is a better dan theirs…

    • Anonymous

      Yashwant … Thanks !

      And yes, u are right … Ek kadam hamara bhi zaroori hai 🙂

  • In Ra.One, SRK uttered ‘condom’ in a very easy way, as if he was saying ‘samosa’. Later in the film, the small boy also joked with his mother about ‘condom’. In one way, parents are feeling good that they are getting closer to the children and its easier to discuss things with the young minds. On the other hand, as you said, they are not waiting for the ‘mystery’ to be unveiled naturally to them. They are hurtling towards it. As a father to one out of University young boy and another grade 12 student boy, I am was a bit confused about such things in the beginning. But now I must say, I feel easier. But not relieved.

    • Anonymous

      Parikshit … FAB !! 🙂

  • Great post.Our media & film industry has lost its spine & creativity. They don’t have any ingenious idea left, they are mindlessly copying the western movies & media culture.This saves them to think & create their own. I think the whole media is now trying to standardize itself with the world so, that if any hit show is there in any part of world they can easily copy it. No sweat. For the same, it is tried to build a similar culture in India.(I don’t know why but i feel our education system played a vital role in creating such copycat & spineless media personnel)

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Praveen 🙂

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Praveen 🙂 .. right u are !

  • sir with all due respect , what is taboo to u may or may nt b taboo to me or othrs…ours is a country of mre dna billion with ovr 2 dozen languages recognised languages….evry1 hs dr preffered choice of living…also sir what is wrong if a women is potraying herself as a sex symbol…if she is comfortable exposing her body dn what prblm cn we hv?…in addition to put on d onus on bollywood is nt d way to go i guess
    n frankly what u r asking fr is controlling aids by banning sex

    • Anonymous

      Parandeep – yes. u are right too 🙂

      We all have our opinions and right / wrong according to our own beliefs… It is all about how we perceive things 🙂

    • Anonymous

      Parandeep – yes. u are right too 🙂

      We all have our opinions and right / wrong according to our own beliefs… It is all about how we perceive things 🙂

  • n also as a principle u jst cant sit n watch one of d biggest private air carrier to go bankrupt…

  • awww…Sir…..v rspect u so mch 4 takin so pain in written ds…bt it z of no use…..fr so lng sm ppl lyl tryin so hard 2 do atlst 2-3%good fr ds so called INDIA…..bt pl lyk u r jz 5-10 max….(i eman it)…n u yaslf 9 dt 95 goes whr….so the mind set f the youngsters will still go dr ki chl na yarr dekh lete h DIRTy Movie ..ye sb bkws h humare ek do k karne se kch ni hona….n u wont blv it axuly happens evn wd meh….aaj soch lia ki asi ni krna wse ni krna 2 din baad fr wse hi…wohi corrupted h upr se leke niche tk…nahi ho pata jo hum krna chahte h….itz lukz vry attracting n vry inspiring 2 c sch kind f optimistic blogs…..bt pta ni q system hi khrb h yr…..Sir pzl kuch bhala kr do humara…..aap jse to hume zyda quantity me log chaiye wo chnges laane k liye…..(m srie typin in hindi axuly in eng dt feeln mtlb wo aggressive feeln ni aati eng me)…hehee….bt Sir aapke liye to applaud krna wrd hi bot chota h……i seriously heartedly wnt u 2 cm frwrd aapme kch h jo axuly bot attrct krta h…..aap kr skte maine feel kia ……plzzzzzzzzzzzzz jevan sudhar do humara…..hum aapke sth h aap bs aacha sa start kr do……

    Ur biggst evrr biggst well wisher…..

    oopzz zyada hogya…..endin here…..God bless

    i wud luv 2 ctch u in ndr vocab belly session lyk i did lst tym….

    gud heavenz…

    • Anonymous

      Hi Shivani 🙂

      Hindi is not a problem. Hindi is my fav too 🙂

      And thanks for the kind words ! I am trying my best – the efforts have come out of ‘zabardasti’ waala habit. Unless u put zabardasti waala effort in sticking to your resolutions, every 3rd day will be a repetition !

      Rise & shine !

  • Ashish

    Bahut dino baad sir kisi practical insan ki baat sunne ko mili hai. I have same thoughts as your’s. Whenever i express such things in front of others…people mock me especially gals tht u r old fashioned!!!
    Our values are degraded..no doubt in that!!

    • Anonymous

      Ashish 🙂 Modernity in thoughts is far more fashionable than in clothes.

      I am glad you are being yourself !

      cheers 🙂

      • Yeah true sir & its always said that if Exposure would have been the parameter of measuring Modernity than animals are far more modern than humans!!!

  • sir, in my opinion, your best blog yet !!! you stated the exact problem with rockstar – it presented wannabe-ism, infidelity and self destruction as the cool thing to do !!! Guys nowadays start measuring their sexual prowess before they’ve decided what they want to do in life !!! you’re right sir, we need more swades and lakshya kind of movies !!!! the “blockbuster” movies of today are only serving to further the moral degeneration of the country’s youth .

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Anand 🙂

      It is enlightened youth like u who can bring the change ! cheers …

      • ishan

        You should have placed a nice slap on you son’s face
        .I am sorry for behaving rudely but you are father,its your responsibility to teach your children the good, the bad and the ugly .

        Think about this if you had done the same thing at your childhood, your father would have teach you a unforgettable lesson.
        I am not saying to hurt him,but tell him what is wrong with this jawani.

        This is what i think, please ignore if i have hurt you somewhere

        • Ishan — u opened my eyes 🙂

          Between – just a question – ‘Are u a father yourself’

          Cheers !

          Akash

        • Anonymous

          Ishan ,

          You opened my eyes… How cud i forget this idea?

          Between – are u a father ?

          Akash

          • Privy

            sometimes sarcasm is the best tool…… 😉

  • sanyam sindhi

    Katu vachan for those who r against this but satya vachan Sir….
    Just Awesome….

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Sanyam 🙂

      Yes – truth doesn’t easily go down well with people. but that doesn’t change it ! 🙂

  • sourav goel

    ITS FABULOUS!!!! the indication of bad future of children is in front of us but there always need a change….now people don’t prefer same cheap jokes ,they want it in a different vulgar way….u wl see this is why bollywood has also undergone a drastic change..now movie like, delhi belly seems to have rocked because of vulgar jokes n slang words…..

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Sourav 🙂

  • yeah sir, vry true.. one of your best blog.. it really did made me think.. m i really living in this kind of generation..? n the answer came yesss.. We know the only way to resolve problem of corruption is to start from ourself.. the same is applicable to this problem too.. this blog really changed ma mentality, before it was a lill bit westernized.. u know the adverse effects of reading Teen Novels.. :p .. thanx a load fr this blog..

    m definitely sharing it.. 🙂

    • Anonymous

      Glad I could make a connect ! Thanks for the kind words 🙂

      Yes – do tell your friends and help them too !

  • Bikashguru

    sexuality is treated as a thing which should be behind closed doors! open sexuality in movies,ads proves that we get attracted to this type of ad or movies.

    • Anonymous

      Hi Bikash

      Getting attracted and making it a part and parcel of our lives are two different things. The latter is forever harmful; as it takes away the focus on ahead !

  • Pragya saraf

    It is soooo trueee!! I completely agree wid u… Dese days ppl feel dat aping d westeners is cool and happening nd ppl who dnt do it r nt modern instead dey r backward! Bt wat ppl dnt realise is dat dey shud be modern by their thots, beliefs nd values nd nt by all dis…. Wish people cud understand dis and realise that some decorum nd values is necessary in life to maintain stability and peace!! 🙂 🙂 I truly loved dis post! Wish odrs wud also understand dis and follow it…… Loved it!!

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Pragya !

      Right u are 🙂

  • Roshni Tiwari

    very well explained sir , i am strongly with urs view and i want that this view should be explained to those parents who think that there kids are smart by copying the act of today’s actor & actress whereas they are very wrongly motivating by giving eg of today’s actor & actress if the parents are not realising now abt there wrong encouragment then in future definitely they are one who will suffer!!! so i would like to say every parents to share the culture,arts , Vedas, and lot more which we have in this beautiful world.

    • Anonymous

      Thnaks Roshni 🙂

  • awsmmmmmm
    mind blowinggggg……..

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Kanav 🙂

  • Ayush

    No words sir!!! it’s just fantabulous!!!!

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Ayush 🙂

  • Taruna

    Awesome blog sir…a thumbs-up for r words…really encouraging….

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Taruna 🙂

      Sweet it is !

  • janvee

    wow sir…..ur blog is damn true for 99.99% youth….rest are all very much padaku 😛 ….for me u r just sum1 most honest human being in this world…….and m lucky to b a student of urs…sir ,u r the mouth piece of todays youth…hoping that media must now return to simple,moralistic,ltl humourous above all…only that kind of movies/daily soap which can b seen all together with our family with fun and popcorns tooo 😛 …but sir even in today’s era hats off to sab tv…bcoz it doesnt contains any kind of nudity scenes or sort of…<> hale fulke comedy shows… 😛 . now-a-days even the cartoon characters are dressed up in lingerie only…and i feel like todays generation..i mean kids gonna reach their puberty level very soon…. o god,do something,my time is gone,i want that atleast my kids(next gen.) must be far away from all such things…or i will not allow cable connection/dish tv at my home.. 😛 tnx sir..tnx alot!

    • Anonymous

      Janvee 🙂

      Thanks !!

  • Kanika

    hello sir :), very well said. but i also want to know that what we can do on our level??
    i have many friends who cant talk without using *beep* words and they consider it cool….
    if you argue you are uncool…. and dont want to break your shell and come out of it… you dont see the world, they see……..baah!
    i have been thinking about it lately… couldnt figure out what I should do……

    • Anonymous

      Kanika – just believe in your values. Your friends won’t live your life for u; YOU WILL !

      Waise bhi – har ek friend zaroori nahi hota hai 🙂

  • wow sir…..ur blog is damn true for 99.99% youth….rest are all very much padaku 😛 ….for me u r just sum1 most honest human being in this world…….and m lucky to b a student of urs…sir ,u r the mouth piece of todays youth…hoping that media must now return to simple,moralistic,ltl humourous above all…only that kind of movies/daily soap which can b seen all together with our family with fun and popcorns tooo 😛 …but sir even in today’s era hats off to sab tv…bcoz it doesnt contains any kind of nudity scenes or sort of..aski mza sab k saath…. halke fulke comedy shows… 😛 . now-a-days even the cartoon characters are dressed up in lingerie only…and i feel like todays generation..i mean kids gonna reach their puberty level very soon…. o god,do something,my time is gone,i want that atleast my kids(next gen.) must be far away from all such things…or i will not allow cable connection/dish tv at my home.. 😛 tnx sir..tnx alot!

    • Anonymous

      Cheers ! Janvee …

  • Aashish Anand

    I always feel amazed by the way u connect the Title with “The Bitter Truth”…..
    Awesome read !!!

    Thumbs Up

    • Anonymous

      thanks Aashish 🙂

      The truth is ugly and bitter; yet TRUE !

  • Nice write-up! I empathise with your concerns. But, knowledge near instincts shall always have better chances to outdo the knowledge that comes from the erudition.
    Don’t want to go deeper in sub-conscious mind theory; but it catches anything which has emotions or feel, like anything. And whatever immoral is- as called by the civilized society whether ‘Delhi belly’ dialogues or sutta song, is very swiftly inculcated by the masses, as subconscious mind is much stronger than the conscious one.

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Avdhoot !

  • Sahilkhurmi

    Sir it was pragmatic….and one kind request to you – CAN YOU PLEASE WRITE ON ADDICTION TO FACEBOOK….and wt to do regarding it….the YOUTH really need on it….please sir please do write on it…:-)

    • Anonymous

      Hi Sahil

      thanks for the kind words. Please keep watching this space. The post u are talking about is WIP 🙂

      • First of all Sir it was a nice experience reading your blog as it always is. The way you openly get to the bitter truth without even taking trouble to sweet-coat it is what I like most about you. It was a perfect satire launched at every one & those who will read this will surely have a much serious thing to think about.
        And of course what Sahil has demanded you, I was also going to demand the same thing, because I wanted you to share some opinions about the growing tendency of youngsters to live more & more in this virtual world known as Planet Facebook. Personally many of my friends are so deeply involved with this Facebook addiction that I believe except some places such as washroom etc, they are always logged in. So please do save this new generation by posting an eye-opener for them.

        • Kshitiz — coming soon 🙂

          and thanks for ur kind words…

        • Anonymous

          Thanks Kshitiz ,

          Coming soon 🙂

  • Somya

    Hello Sir!
    Very nicely put…gr8 sense of humor and a profound message! Loved the ‘Dusshehra ki Jhanki’ wala remark! Fab! Great work! Cheers!! I wish someday I could write like you too.. 🙂

    • Anonymous

      Somya 🙂

      thanks for the kind words !!

    • Anonymous

      And, I am more of a speaker 🙂 … so write like u do. M sure u are v good !

  • Preetikhattri

    i dont know wat values society follow and wat are right and wrong actions n how r they even determined. why sex is wrong, or unacceptable , why has it always been a tabboo matter in the society and how come now, it has suddenly become part of being rebellious, open and hip!!! any socially gregarious and frank woman faces ques of “hav u had sex, lets get laid” as if there s nothing else in this world more social!! the biggest “kami” n insecurities in guys seems to be their dick size!!!! things are not certainly well…. n i still dont have logical answer to “sex- is evil or gud” ,why has there been so mch taboo, why brahmacharya was big virtue back in the days!!!! why !! and just becoz society formed it wont work.
    i personally dont have good feeling towards infidelity and sex hypes being shown around. yet i dont have reasonable answers!

    • Anonymous

      Bold 🙂

  • Kajal Kapur

    I don’t agree.

    There is still a lot of meaningful creativity in Indian cinema…me being a huge movie buff can vouch for that!! Also, why only blame movies. I guess movies are just a mirror image of how the society has emerged over time. Even in the yesteryears, there were movies which were not liked/appreciated by the people back then because of their bold content, however some of them became stalwarts for India cinema. What is taboo for one may not be taboo for the other. Its is the way people perceive things.

    Also, if we focus too much on negativity, the positivity automatically diminishes… I guess if we all together will start appreciating movies like “Dhobi Ghaat”, “Dor”, “Peepli Live” etc., people will automatically find meaning in things said through this medium, however, what sells now is the raunchy numbers and vulgarity, hence that is all being churned out…wonder why do we have to blame the cinema…I make the cinema I want to watch….I betcha, zillions of people will go to see “The Dirty movie” only because of its title and the teasers…no one will really go to see the life, drama and trauma, Silk Smitha went through in her lifetime, which possibly will be depicted…cuz no one is interested….So there!!

    • Anonymous

      Hi ! Kajal … 🙂

      ur perspective is a good one! But how many kajal kapoors are there today? I know of only one. The youth today gets influenced by what trickles down on them

      And v few of them are using a ‘bolder selective / eclectic ‘ appraoch. But agree with u… Even I liked the movies u mentioned. But v few are seen to be using them as example setters.

      But again – u are right as always 🙂

    • Hi Kajal,

      Your reply was quite fine for where you perceive things from is very right and appreciated. But do you think someone as adolescent as a 13 year old would cherish the sex scene for his/her newborn, so called, Jawani ka chaska; or would (s)he indulge more into exploring out the message underlying in the movie?

      Sorry for somewhere I disagree with you. But yes, you’re quite right from where you see it.

  • shailendra Jain

    really very true…we should consider about this..

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Shailendra 🙂

  • Jeet Sandhu

    Akash this is appreciable blog on the topic…..Whenever i talk to my younger friends….either girls or boys. they know nothing about the country..they are not able to count 10 major problems of the nation..they don’t know how poor people are in many parts of India…even i nicknamed them as BRANDED GENERATION…they can count 28 brands name without hurting their fingers..but not name of 20 states…even while they push their brain beyond limits.(i appreciate all those who know even name of all states of India) i realized that they just want to show each other…how cool they are?? even i have gud amount of colleging..still a student…never touched alcohol….no abusing(atleast not to show coolness)….but i still enjoyed my life a lot….i enjoyed every bit of life…i love travel…i love my work..n i have friends more then these soo called cool people(n believe me they are real and good friends). my point is..most of the youth is living VISIONLESS life…and..u r ryt that we have to create an environment…moulding is always a gud way to give something a shape..rather than..destroying it and restructuring.

    • Anonymous

      Jeet

      I absolutely agree with u !! After many years of alcohol and other addictions, life of a teetotaler since the last 6 years has been great 🙂

      Keep doing what u are doing. Your life is yours; your own journey which no one will walk for u !

      Rise & shine !

  • Aditi

    sir this blogpost is clearly depicting ur feelings as a concerned parent……..bcuz its ur own experience

    • Anonymous

      Aditi 😀

      Haha !! Right u are 🙂

  • sir, m becomin quite a fan of d way u creatively nd wittingly express d things..
    here,though i likd it n d msg, bt its jst d anoder piece of philosophical page dat will fall flat on the sex-obsessed or jawani-adrenalin-charged minds..

    A. u voiced for more stringent censoring of our ‘nude’ media..bt tell me sir: wat gud will it do in 2days ‘internet age’ wen evry dam vulgarest stuff is easily accessible nd can be watched at at ny time of d day n nite??

    B. sir,i dont think bollywood is d sole reason for dis pre-maturing of a child’s brain..coz in dis day wen we are advocating for free-mind-open-thinking nd independent approach towards things(like west),dese things are just d sad corollaries of it..d more u suppress their sense of freedom d more strongly dey will find way for it by hook or by crook! nd bollywood is jst d manifestation,d ‘bellwether’ of dis changing time!!..even u wud agree dat its not in our will neither is in manmohan singh’s will to turn over a new leaf..we can jst be d, as u said,’mute spectators’..sad bt true!

    • Anonymous

      Hi amit 🙂

      thanks !

      Your point is also valid. But it is what influences most that counts most isn’t it ? 🙂

      • yaa rite.. bt den d onus must again go to d cliched “western culture” for its d most dominant thin dat profoundly influences our life from head to toe from talking to walking…. nd dis culture is fraught with d types of values u protest..(though it do hav more of d gud ones.or atleast d attractive ones as evident by d whole world which is runnin towards it…u nd me included!)..
        sometym somethings need to go with the flow….nd we r required jst to adjust accordingly..!

    • Agree with u Amet … u r bang on ..

  • Jugal Lathia

    Sir you missed out on very important thing , IPL cheerleaders ,, kids going with their family to see the matches and not appreciating Sachin cover drives but watching Cheerleaders Dance on ” Tonight Going To Be A Good Good Night ” . Gone are those days were people used to come and watch test matches and ODI ,, t20 ka zamana hai !! Sir people like u can only bring changes and hope this blog would have helped people in some way or the other to think logically what their mind ACTUALLY wants 🙂 !!

    • Anonymous

      Jugal .. Thanks for reminding ! How can i miss out on the ‘apples of the eye’ 🙂

      Thanks for the kind words. Individuals like u can do your bit ; the world shall be a better place !

      • Jugal Lathia

        Exactly Right Sir ,, after attending some of the motivational seminars like yours ,, and maturing through age i have realized one thing in life that no matter what work i do ( though not identified at this stage ) it will be intended towards making a world a better place !!

  • yaa rite.. bt den d onus must again go to d cliched “western culture” for its d most dominant thin dat profoundly influences our life from head to toe from talking to walking…. nd dis culture is fraught with d types of values u protest..(though it do hav more of d gud ones.or atleast d attractive ones as evident by d whole world which is runnin towards it…u nd me included!)..
    sometym somethings need to go with the flow….nd we r required jst to adjust accordingly..!

    • agree with u

    • Anonymous

      Hi ! Amet ,

      Agree with u …

  • Ashwini Yelne

    Sir I agree with you , partially though !!
    There are a bunch of ppl who totally imitate just to enter the COOL GANG… but there are still a meaningful lot who have their brains and follow what their heart says.

    Cinema is the mirror of the society.. Showing the middle finger , abusing in public etc are common amongst the Gen Y. “Delhi belly potrayed a very raw and ground kind of thing dat usually happens. but as every coin has two sides (except the Sholey wala coin) it is a disadvantage dat even school going kids get influenced by all the abusive words and “COOL ACTS” and use ’em. And its hard to avoid such things frm them.

    Your blog is really grt for many students who go astray and waste their precious time in wannabe activities..

    Thank u !! 😀

    • Thanks ! Liked ur sholay coin waala comment 🙂

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Ashwini …

  • A mirror image of a Topsy-turvy society, who doesn’t know what to accept and what not to. Just like a herd of sheep, we are desperate to show how cool we are just by adopting some weird styles. Now – a -days we love to stay blind and happily drag ourselves to CATCH -22. These days use of slang in hostels and with friends plays a parameter, how close we are to the contemporary world.

    Guys!!! that pure soul is still inside us.Can;t we try to flourish ourselves by accepting positiveness? Don’t we want to see ourselves in front of the mirror one day, and saying “My wonderful smile makes me happy”. Common we need to change how we look at things and then everything will change accordingly.

    • Thanks Surya

    • Anonymous

      Nice view point Surya …

  • Aseem

    How much is too much ? The question is that. What should be censored and what not ? I too remember i was singing “Meri pant bhi sexy meri shirt bhi sexy” from the Govinda movie when i was highly discouraged by my parents , I didn’t understand then. What is find that locked door always seems mystifying, what is really there that the whole generations of parents in a way hint as a wrong doing(most of the times they say it blatantly). What or how is the indian mindset that have problem in the way they perceive sex and surprisingly when we shy away from it we do it more than our western counterparts( we are still 2nd largest in terms of population) . I haven’t got the answer yet”Does sex take ur mind astray/ it is a hindrance to concentrate on something”.As if i am the vishwamitra and every semi nude or nude i see is the menaka .Sex i think is like any other addiction whether it is video games for instance or bad drinking habits . I am not pro or against it i wonder even if we suppress it …say do some media reforms , I strong believe it will be replaced by something else which will hold back the youth generation from what it can be. And the other thought is the only thing that can help onself here is the teachings of GEETA which at times seem like to upright to live upto and that determination goes down the drain and we stand there where we started from , back to ground zero .

    • Aseem,

      You have brought out a v practical and fresh perspective that the ‘receiver of all this information flood is quagmire d in ‘what to select’ 🙂

      Brilliant !!

      Thanks for writing …

    • Anonymous

      Aseem,

      You have brought out a v practical and fresh perspective that the ‘receiver of all this information flood is quagmire d in ‘what to select’

      Brilliant !!

      Thanks for writing …

  • Rockstar… the movie should go by the name… and have u ever heard or went thru life story of nirvana, Jim morrisson?? or any other guitar Gods?? if u dont know, then dont write these bullshits.. people like u only take their kids to watch A rated movie, where before booking a ticket at multiplex it will be strictly mentioned not suitable this to this much age people..
    – so go n get a life.. dont drive indian cinema backward… when there is creativity in directors and producers..

    and yeah “”– the residents of e.g. ‘XYZ Boys Hostel for Engineers’ who started reading this- hoping it to be a violent act of ‘Imagineering’ with pics from the movie as the name of the post.”” we r not any hostel guys.. I work for world’s one of the biggest IT industry and i shud say to ya, u r indeed missing your “jawani”. and where the hell on the earth, 6 years old kid will go to watch this movie??? that means, parents are not responsible for their kids whatever they do? ryt?

    and dude, i think u need to change your vision the way u r watching the world.. Go n get a life… u may be living inside 4 walls, but not everyone.. people work, people prays, people enjoys and people also do fb n all.. so this article is a fuckin piece of shit.. sorry for my language, but thing is that people like u never think outside the box.. and u proved that u r a true indian who never wants anyone to think anything better in lifestyle…

    — my advice, GO AND EXPLORE THE WORLD.. GOOGLE EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO NOT KNOW.. AND STUDY AGAIN AND DO YOUR GRADUATION AGAIN… AND GET YOUR LIFE BACK… GOT IT?? and dare u post any bad comments regarding the soul of a Rock music.. u do not know what is Rock and whats music and wats passion.. shut ur mouth and do not write this kinda WANNA BE POPULAR stuffs.. u r just ruining the society by this.. take care..

    • Hi Ambarish ,

      U sound ballistic bhai …; as if you are playing a video game and i am one of the enemies you have to surmount en-route.

      What u have written ; i respect. Agree with your thinking / perspectives. I am sure — a big part of me – has gotten old and boring ..(many people say so !)

      I am sure – you’ll agree to this at least that in a 1000 word blogpost – it becomes v difficult to make everyone HAPPY. There would remain sets of people ; whose lineraity in thought process might come at loggerheads with the thought proposed…

      If i could make everyone happy ; I would be God !

      No defense !

      Cheers !

      Akash

      P.S.:- Rockstar dint have a A Label. and I personally am a big fan of Jim morrison, Janis Joplin and Jimmi Hendrix.

    • Anonymous

      Hi Ambarish ,

      U sound ballistic bhai …; as if you are playing a video game and i am one of the enemies you have to surmount en-route.

      What u have written ; i respect. Agree with your thinking / perspectives. I am sure — a big part of me – has gotten old and boring ..(many people say so !)

      I am sure – you’ll agree to this at least that in a 1000 word blogpost – it becomes v difficult to make everyone HAPPY. There would remain sets of people ; whose lineraity in thought process might come at loggerheads with the thought proposed…

      If i could make everyone happy ; I would be God !

      No defense !

      Cheers !

      Akash

      P.S.:- Rockstar dint have a A Label. and I personally am a big fan of Jim morrison, Janis Joplin and Jimmi Hendrix.

    • Ambarish Kar –

      Bade confused insaan ho yaar aap …. ya fir angrezi nahi aati ?? Where in this blog post has rock music been insulted !!

      And log aajkal doosron ke baare mein likhne aise lagein hain jaise unhe sadiyon se jaante hon …How do u know what kinda life the writer of this post has lived !!

      My advice – u go get a LIFE and learn some HUMILITY first … a self staged ESSAY about the BIG IT company won’t get u the life people will remember u for ….

  • Abhitkhurana

    Dear Akash,
    I really loved the way you have written about the most touching scenarios of India. The discussion on this topic has no end. There are lots of positives and negatives involved in this discussion. And the fact is that this country is running through some super natural power. This country is involved in lots of dreadful issues which includes acceptance of drug to huge extent by youth, the so called adaptation of Western Culture which has highly affected the youth and they are deprived towards physical intimacy. No doubt cinema, television and media has great influence on youth but then all this information can be used for learning also. I mean these things should be taught to youth just to keep them aware of the facts of life.

    If we compare our past generations no doubt they were never exposed towards such facts that easily but then everyone knows that the strength of adapting something was also not there to this much extent. Today a young child of 5-6 years can explain you which car to buy and which not to with the facts behind his decision, whereas in earlier generations even a 15 year boy was unaware about features of a car. The major problem according to me lies is a generation gap between parent and child of today. Parents are always the first teachers of its child hence its their responsibility to get their child aware about anything and everything and also make their child wise enough to differentiate between right and wrong. Its a new generation where a child would get exposed to everything in short span of time, then y not to teach it what is right for it.

    Rest about such movies, its a public demand now. There was a time when public needed romance in movies and during those times hero and heroine used to put hands into hands and sing songs and then usually do a cheek kiss and rest was censored. But now the demand is hardcore hence cinema is acting accordingly. If Indian cinema would not adapt it then youth would go for hollywood or porn on net.

    In short I am neither a supporter of such cinema nor a criticizer of it. But ya i am definitely in favor of teaching the youth to differentiate between wrong and right. I believe a bad company can never affect you if you do not want to get affected.

    I guess instead of getting disappointed if you would have tried explaining your six year old son that Junglee jawani is not meant for him at this age and all about its rights and wrongs, it would have been really a great job.

    Rest our country is getting into deep trouble day by day being in hands of such dirty politicians who are supposed to run the country neat and clean but they themselves are involved with drug mafias, extortion, killings, and looting the money of country by one or other way. No doubt that all developing countries had faced many such problems across world but India is setting example for the worst scenario among all of them. Again the problem here is that many people talks but no one takes initiative and if by mistake someone takes initiative he/she gets harsh treatment. And again here youth needs their brain to get along together to think and act against all this but then that will also happen if the youth would know the differentiation of right and wrong.

    I really appreciate your point of view for such healthy discussions but I would really appreciate if many of us would spread the awareness about the ideas to get the youth on right track.

    • Hi ! Abhit ,

      Thanks for taking out time to write ur views…. Very healthy, pragmatic and full of ‘onus’…

      Happy to read that there are people who feel responsible …

      Thanks again ,

      Akash

    • Hi ! Abhit ,

      Thanks for taking out time to write ur views…. Very healthy, pragmatic and full of ‘onus’…

      Happy to read that there are people who feel responsible …

      Thanks again ,

      Akash

  • Dear Akash,
    I really loved the way you have written about the most touching scenarios of India. The discussion on this topic has no end. There are lots of positives and negatives involved in this discussion. And the fact is that this country is running through some super natural power. This country is involved in lots of dreadful issues which includes acceptance of drug to huge extent by youth, the so called adaptation of Western Culture which has highly affected the youth and they are deprived towards physical intimacy. No doubt cinema, television and media has great influence on youth but then all this information can be used for learning also. I mean these things should be taught to youth just to keep them aware of the facts of life.

    If we compare our past generations no doubt they were never exposed towards such facts that easily but then everyone knows that the strength of adapting something was also not there to this much extent. Today a young child of 5-6 years can explain you which car to buy and which not to with the facts behind his decision, whereas in earlier generations even a 15 year boy was unaware about features of a car. The major problem according to me lies is a generation gap between parent and child of today. Parents are always the first teachers of its child hence its their responsibility to get their child aware about anything and everything and also make their child wise enough to differentiate between right and wrong. Its a new generation where a child would get exposed to everything in short span of time, then y not to teach it what is right for it.

    Rest about such movies, its a public demand now. There was a time when public needed romance in movies and during those times hero and heroine used to put hands into hands and sing songs and then usually do a cheek kiss and rest was censored. But now the demand is hardcore hence cinema is acting accordingly. If Indian cinema would not adapt it then youth would go for hollywood or porn on net.

    In short I am neither a supporter of such cinema nor a criticizer of it. But ya i am definitely in favor of teaching the youth to differentiate between wrong and right. I believe a bad company can never affect you if you do not want to get affected.

    I guess instead of getting disappointed if you would have tried explaining your six year old son that Junglee jawani is not meant for him at this age and all about its rights and wrongs, it would have been really a great job.

    Rest our country is getting into deep trouble day by day being in hands of such dirty politicians who are supposed to run the country neat and clean but they themselves are involved with drug mafias, extortion, killings, and looting the money of country by one or other way. No doubt that all developing countries had faced many such problems across world but India is setting example for the worst scenario among all of them. Again the problem here is that many people talks but no one takes initiative and if by mistake someone takes initiative he/she gets harsh treatment. And again here youth needs their brain to get along together to think and act against all this but then that will also happen if the youth would know the differentiation of right and wrong.

    I really appreciate your point of view for such healthy discussions but I would really appreciate if many of us would spread the awareness about the ideas to get the youth on right track

    • Anonymous

      Hi ! Abhit ,

      Thanks for taking out time to write ur views…. Very healthy, pragmatic and full of ‘onus’…

      Happy to read that there are people who feel responsible …

      Thanks again ,

      Akash

  • Sbk 1337

    Your articles manages to get your point across, which is the most important thing, but that hardly makes for professional writing. You seriously need to do something about your English language skills. Grammatical errors apart, the faulty diction is very annoying. Your writing is full of these ‘Indianisms’. e.g. “or the dresses (or hardly dresses)”. In this sentence “or the lack thereof” is the correct usage. I’m no expert in the English language, but I regularly read articles from NYT, The Guardian, The Economist and other international publications. Compared to them, your writings seem very amateurish. You might consider getting the help of some professional writer to edit your articles.

    • Sbk 1337

      *article manages

    • Anonymous

      Dear Sarabdeep kaur Kochhar ji,

      Please allow me to explain my inferior English Skills. I agree I am very bad at the language…

      It all started in class 5 ; when my English Teacher ran away with the peon and there started the decline in my English.

      Will route thru u the next time ; when I do. Since u are USA return – I am sure — you will hygiene it out…

      Between howz Life ?

      Cheers !

      Akash
      An unprofessional amateurish writer (desperately seeking a mentor in English who originally comes from Punjab)

    • Aseem

      Dude there is something called target audience i hoped a Guardian or NYT or The Economist reader would have that common sense.

  • Rajat

    sir i respect u as a person,and uve always been inspiring,,,,,,but I really didn’t understand what r u trying to say via dis blog,,,,,,its like crabbing about the system and being part of it at the same time,,,,,, if one fine day our government bans or impose censorship on things we consider profane den may be the next day huge section of society might have problems with such impositions,,,,,,its would be an infringement on the freedom of expression,,,,,,
    okk sir lets do it ur way,,,,,,one fine day the movies you r talking about and and all the profanity surrounding us gets regulated,,,,,,do u think ppl of this generation cld be contained by doing this,,,? with 24 access to net and its growing numbers der wont be any significant improvement,,ppl will find way to do things they want,,,,,,,only difference wld be dat it wont be as open and as legal as it is getting these days,,,,,,,and der will be constant dissent among ppl….
    I think its a positive development dat instead of running away from things we’ve started accepted things and making ourselves more aware of things and giving ourselves the freedom to choose and accept things which we want to and learning by experience,,,,,,rather den running away from truth and inside having secret desires and tendencies to do things,,,,there is no evidence dat ppl of previous generation were less interested in porn,,,or wer less given to profanity,,,,,,

    i think human mind is ever evolving thing, and it gets better with experience ,and wen we hav choices to make and choose for ourselves wat is right and wat is not.Make a mistake ,learn from mistake and evolve again,,,its about making conscious decisions,,,,,,,,rather den imposing things on it on subjective basis and define dem as wrong or right,,,,,,,and as uve said we r more inclines to learing bad things,,,,,,and combine it with outright denial of things…….it becomes more attractive,,,,,,i use to waste more time and fantasize abt sex wen i didnt have proper access to net,in comparison to now wen i can watch porn any time i want but choose to watch it only wen i really feel like watching it,,,,,

    and about the 6 yrs old ur telling abt,,,,,,,,u wont be there always to hold their hands,,,,,,one fine day dey’ll learn abt things u r planning to hide from them,,,den u wont be able to stop them from making wrong choices,,,,,,
    atleast now wen the 6 yr olds r getting smarter abt lesser known things by earlier generations,,,,,,as parents u have the opportunity to mould their thinking ,show them the right path ,,,,,,to discuss things with them,,,,,instead of isolating them from things which r evident and later giving them the chance to make wrong choices,,,,,,,,,,

    and i do not support vulgarity on tv and the cheapness that is being exploited, but i insist dat atleast we have the choice to change the channel, wen we find something against our beliefs,,,,,,,and even if our children are exposed to everything around ,its not dat our Indian children r so despo dat dey r gonna indulge in wrong things all life wrong,,,,,,gradually the’ll understand things and move on,,,,,dey wont give up profanity even if u ban all those movies,,,,,dey’ll give up only by awareness and self realisation…

    • Anonymous

      Dear Rajat ,

      Very practically written by you … Agree with most of it..

      I am sure – you’ll agree to this at least that in a 1000 word blogpost – it becomes v difficult to make everyone HAPPY. There would remain sets of people ; whose lineraity in thought process might come at loggerheads with the thought proposed…

      If i could make everyone happy ; I would be God !

      This post is just to initiate a need in the minds of the youth about reforms in Media ; as there seems to a vacuum when it comes to identifying a recognizable regulatory authority here…

      The wantonness with which the movies have come in the recent past is a little abominable… Th beep sounds / nudity on even TV etc… ; hasnt it got a little over board. The producers are doing everything to make a kill…

      Of course u r right – when u say that ‘if one were to find it- one will anywhere’…. But then arent we reducing the average age of this thirst of finding. An age where a childhood and a proper spirit of inquiry could get developed is being clogged with sensuousness overly…

      Kids are the most malleable… A movie like ROCKSTAR shud have had an A+ label to it … A movie like MBKD shud have had also by that standard…

      I am not a moral police man …

      Just tried to bring out a perspective to the youth ; which i thought – they might have got too busy in to percieve…

      Cheers !

      Akash

  • Rr_9829138286

    please stop writing blogs.

    • Anonymous

      Just bear with me for a few years more… u r already bearing me …

      Thanks for ur patience 🙂

      At least identify urself ji … Nar ho yaa Maada ho ?

      Akash

  • RICK

    The ripe fact is that films, music channel and advertisements are not meant for preaching or delivering good thoughts . They mean business and I think there’s nothing bad in it. When in a country like INDIA people at 18 can choose their leader , they can choose their TV shows and films too. There’s a different basket of channels where they can get AASTHA, POGO, DOORDARSHAN and stuffs like that. Yes, the below 18 guys can claim somewhat different but then again TV sets are provided with a child lock facility. We cannot expect a pop or rock music sung by a saari clad lady. The choice is , i think, individualistic. We cannot just blame the Visual media.

    • Anonymous

      You too are right Rick ! Th e media means business but it has a responsibility as well; given it reaches out to people more than anything else …

      Cheers !

    • Anonymous

      Rick — u are also right …

      But would’nt the world become a ‘brownian motion’ without any efforts by anyone (esp the regulators) to make an attempt for it to not become one …

      Akash

  • Anamika Jain

    Sir.. you are a fabulous writer..
    sirji .. keep writing ….. 🙂 this blog is amazing..!! 🙂

    • Anonymous

      Thanks for the nice words 🙂

  • Awesome 🙂

  • Awesome.. 🙂

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Anamika !

  • Privy

    y do u think that the age of 25-26 is right for getting physical ???? i think, as people of this age are getting higher exposure, they are getting even mature, that’s why we don’t have songs like ‘Mubarak ho tumko ye shadi tumhari or main khush hun mere aansuon pe na jana or what ever… despite we MOVE ON in FASTRACK’S way. About focus, we marry in late 20’s i.e. 28-29, where the emphasis is on standing on your own is more and are not distracted by physical desires which could be fulfilled only by getting married earlier. so, in a way we have found a way to stay focused and help ourselves evolve b4 getting the burden of supporting a family.

    • RICK

      I second u on this privy…I think Its a fashion nowadays for older people to blame the youngsters. Even at the back of the mind this blog was named so (oye! junglee jawani) keeping the salable factor in mind. Had the Blog been named so so that people cud understand that this is not about “JUNGLEE JAWANI” people wud not have read this. blog is also a visual media and so its not harmful to attract people like this. this is analogous to what sultry promos do for a film and the audience discover later that the film contained nothing sultry!

      • Anonymous

        Point !!

    • Anonymous

      🙂

  • Shashank

    If we look at the flip side of the coin, its just a business that the film-makers are primarily concerned with…SEX sells easily…so its demand-supply ratio is not what we studied in economics…here if the demand is more the supply is even plentiful. Moreover, they also have a sound logic- its the viewer consent to watch these, they do not force..

    • Anonymous

      you are right ; but then if the world begins to give in to everything on the basis of the ‘laws of Economics’ — then ‘what will happen of our philistinism – which makes us ‘whatever we are today’… An old thought ; but just a thought for u 🙂

  • Akanksha

    superlyk sir….apke aur mere khayal kitne milete hai……….i agree on all d lines u hv wriiten…superbbbbb ..and veryyyyyy true ….

    • Anonymous

      Thanx Akanksha 🙂

  • Akanksha

    i mean firsl younsters tdy go and wtch mvs lyk delhi belly & rockstar .and den strt actng lyk d stars did in d mv …& will lgh on odres who do nt lyk mvs lyk tat….. sir u will nt blv me but d last mv i saw was bollywud-3 idiots & holly- harryp8.. my frnds lagh at me and de thght dat by waching dese ghatia mvs de r doing a g8 job…and oders who do nt lyk dem r fools… even i want mvs lyk chak de and lakshya……

    • Anonymous

      🙂

  • Dhananjay Mishra ICBM-SBE

    Dear Sir,

    It was really nice reading your blog.. Brilliant in understanding the issues and reasons as always.

    But sir Nowadays also we see so many movies are being made on some good stories and some motivational points. We can just take the examples of – I am Kalam ( The child actor won the National Award) and Cycle Kick and many more( produced By Mukta Arts). And more ever I dont think that movies are the sole reason which is slowly dragging us away from our values and the great Indian Culture. We see that so many of us prefer to be away from their family immediately after marriage. We try to teach our children English ( Its necessary to survive in today;s world) but we never tell them about our veru own Language Sanskrit ( Which has power to keep us Pavitra and Paawan).
    One more important thing- On the weekend if any movie is releasing whether its Delhi Belly or Julie we surely go for movie with our innocent kids. Cant we have some plans where we can entertain our self In Indian Style .

    I am not good at writing bt still i think that i have made my point .

    Waiting for many more blogs from u…
    Thanks and lot…

    • Anonymous

      Who says — u r not good at writing…

      You points hold a lot of water …

      Brilliant !

  • ajay

    good one sir…:)
    the best thing about your writing is that u hit exactly at the nail.. everyone while reading your blogs start visualising the events that happened in their lives and automatically before they realize, they start feeling as if its an article about them… really nice..
    i totally agree with u, media is definitely a problem… but there are other things to look at too…
    earlier we used to have a joint family system, where often our cousins used to be our best friends.. i myself being brought up in a joint family, never knew the words “getting bored’ bcoz there was always something or the other to do… but now things have changed.. now both the parents work, leaving their kids with maid or servant in most cases… now they are totally independent.. to do whatever, atleast till their parents are back… and the most important thing they do is ofcourse “the internet”… google being their guardian.. whether its porn or porsche…(the former leading the charts)… and this ofcoursed being hyped by the media… i personally even after attaining the age of majority feel shy watching intimate scenes with my parents… but today u dont have any option unless u decide not to go movies at all with your parents… nudity, intimate scenes and violence has become such an essential part of every movie… people can understand that the actors love each other even if the director wishes not to show those scenes… but then thats the flavour in demand being started in a sense by “murder” and its success…. thanks to emran and mallika…
    also a child in class 6 or 7 wants a mobile in his/her hand and the worst part is that the wishes are being fulfilled by their parents…
    hence i feel it depends a lot on how important parents play a role in their chidren’s life… the way they exercise control over them goes a long way…
    and obviously not to forget media….!!!!

    • Anonymous

      Brilliant perspective … happy to read !

      • ajay

        thank u sir 🙂
        wish to write like u someday…:)

  • Aashay Tcs

    Not good enough I think you uses bits and pieces only from the movie you mentioned to disqualify them.
    ‘ZMND’ releases this year only I think that will qualify your bill.

  • vishal moonka

    great thot sir…a new way of thinking u gave to the youth….hats off

    • Anonymous

      thanx Vishal !

  • Anshuman

    Its was a brilliant and a humble view of you and several other readers of u sir..after this i have a faith that there are few young minds in our nation who r focusing our culture for its righteousness.. and for its security and future.. its true that our young generation is moving towards the perk of vulgarity and negativity .. as in this when we have to focus in shaping our future . we r moving towards relationship and commitment.. as in u know 🙂 .. but whole thing is that all this has a fake sparkle which attracts all of us.. so what should we … as a old saying of bizz.. ” jo dikhta hai wai bikta hai ” and even in our society.. all this goes on. what we need is a better way of socialization our thoughts. as all we need is to speak up and share our thoughts .. and for that we always need a medium. .. and a way of advertising our culture in an attractive way.. with more sparkle and perks..

    • Anonymous

      rightly put Anshuman …

      • Anshuman

        sorry sir i ddnt understood.. !!

        • Anonymous

          Aaray ! Anshuman — i said — i liked ‘what u wrote’ …

          and am glad to have good people as u – reading the blog …

          Thanks for ur kind words …

          Akash

          • Anshuman

            i am more glad to have you words sir.. and thanks for appreciating me.. but somewhere i know i was not lucid in my words .. but i will learn it from u.. 🙂

            it was the first time when i had written my views on a blog.. and getting your “the blog star’s ” reply was a nice motivation for me to read and write more.. thank u sir.. 🙂

      • Anshuman

        i think my views were not clear..!

  • Anuj Gupta

    eXcEllEnT sIr… i Wonder the people who are the idols of today’s generation like politicians and film stars should be the fist one to think the issue that you talked about because they are the one whom we are watching and listening to in our every day life… what the generations are doing today is just the copycat of what these people are doing in their life….. but uNfOrTunaTeLy its not like that…

    • Anonymous

      Good point Anuj !!

  • Veenu Gabra

    sir your blog is gaining so much popularity dese days.and i really get deeply enlightened and inspired wen i read dese posts.i am pretty much sure your posts will leave a profound impact on d youngsters.nice post sir ji

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Veenu …

      Hope u are doing fine !!

      Will connect soon …

      Akash

  • awsum:)

  • Saikatboral19

    awesome blog sir….innovative thought…. 🙂

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !

  • Manasa Parakala

    Hello Sir,

    I really appreciate the way you look at things.

    You are not getting older, boring and paternalistic! I am a 25 year old who shares the same views. I’ve travelled to different countries and all I could conclude by looking at the way India is evolving (in terms of a modern / forward society) is by adapting all that is unessential and unnecessary- becoming a “WANNABE COUNTRY”!

    I try spreading good views from people like you. However, the good old saying holds its stand everywhere; “You can lead a horse to water, but cannot make it drink”.

    Nevertheless, we keep trying 🙂
    Keep up the excellent work sir!

    Manasa

    • Anonymous

      I am not getting older, boring and paternalistic! Glad to read it from someone almost 10 yrs younger … gives me a self assurance that i can avoid anti-wrinkle creams for a few more years now 🙂

      Cheers !

      Akash

  • A revolutionary blog.. I have recently started reading your posts and to tell you am all hooked to it..Thank you very much indeed..
    After reading this post, i am just amazed and amused at the same time..
    To add smthg more.. i’d like to share this:
    “It was super man, batman, spiderman etc. who used to be the role model heros for most of the 6-12 year kids and whose toy was a carry on luggage everywhere. Their toy used to be their sleeping partner alongside which they felt safe n all but now its john abrahim and akshay kumar singing “subah hone na de” and the lady singing “tu mera hero” “ek dusre ko hum sone na de”.. Man! What a disaster this movie wud do to kids.. the anger and agony parents would go through wen their tiny tots would sing these songs.. The world is sure changing but without effective censorship. Its a Shame!

    Seriousness apart, Its fun reading your blog.. 😉
    Keep up the good work, sir.
    All the good wishes.

    • Anonymous

      Nice example of ‘super heroes’ Abha …

  • no one cud hav seen d true aspect of d augmenting vulgarity d way u see sir..!!
    brill one!! i must say..earlier, youth used to go ga-ga over “rock” that is signalled by raisin three fingers excpt the mid and d ring one..but now, ppl love to raise their mid-finger only..apart from movies even if v watch youth programmes lyk ROADIES, v cannot watch nethng xcpt “blurred images” and “beeped tones”…!!
    in fact youth love to watch d uncensored one in youtube!!
    it simply reminds me of that “chappal xchange” ad “kitna badal gaya insaan”..!!

    • Anonymous

      Thanx ji …

  • Now this is what I’ll call a Class Apart blog!! Just love those humorous lines where a lady in bikini comes out for advertising about what – CEMENT. hahaha! extremely brilliant post Akash (u asked us not to call u ‘SIR’ 😛 ). A must read, each and every post is!!
    Sharing on all platforms, I am upon!! :->

    • Anonymous

      Gratitude 🙂

  • ishita chakraborty

    Kattil… keher.. gajab.. as alws. 🙂

    advertisements on tv have always been a spoilsport.
    hair gel ka ad aata hai toh – verryy verryy sexy.
    this has led d gen-x,y,z (pata nahi kya hai) to scream on streets “wat sexy panipuri dt guy makes yaar..”
    deo ka ad ata hai toh grls to all gaga ovr a guy, itna k bed tak pohuch jaati hain !! even Angels would fall bhaiya.. toh ghar ki bhabhi kya badi cheez hai.

    useless movies with slangs attachd to evry dialogue like chutney attachd to dosa.. evrything looks OTT and unnecessary.
    i appreciate ur effort to pen down the facts whch a common man often feels when he switches on the idiot box.

    rise and shine.. ab media, movies itni gandi ho gayi hai.. thoda effort lagane se hi kachrey mein se shine karna easy ho jayega..

    • Anonymous

      Glad u enjoyed … Thanks 🙂

      • ishita chakraborty

        do u leave us with any other option??? 😛
        there is no way dat a persn cannot like n enjoy ur views.. written or voiced 🙂

        • Anonymous

          🙂 thanks Ishita

          • ishita chakraborty

            ur welcome !!

  • Swastika Panda

    so nice,…

    • Anonymous

      Thanks Swastika ,

      AKASH

      • Shahnawaz Akhtar07

        Hi Akash

        As u told maa-behen n all dis vulgarity is d flavour of d season….its true i agree wid u..But everything has its saturation point.These all r d new promotion agendas for d movies……..But I assure u it will get diminshed after it reach its saturation point.

  • Sana khan

    gud eve sir …!!!
    i totally agree with u sir …..In INDIA particulary ,the producers of films hav their eyes merely on the box-officers success;they nvr care 2 enquire abt d effect their films produce on d feelngs or d morals of d masses …they try to make their films more n more snappy by importing into thm ideas frm foreign countries,evn though they make not fit in with indian conditions…yet film producers import these themes into indian films jus to mak thm more sensational n attractive………….

    • Anonymous

      Hi ! Sana,

      Agree with u !

  • with the youth taking INSPIRATION from the wrong sources, our land has bcum a land for KAMA instead of ART OF LIVING COURSES, VEDAS or VALUES.. sad to say, but KAMA is the new VEDA for the SADDA HAQ,AITHE RAKH genNext!

    • Anonymous

      Mayur 🙂

      Good one !

  • awesomly_weird

    arey boss logon ko entertainment chahiye bass!
    its the duty of censor board to pass movies with an ” A” certificate …and strictly prohibit underaged kids to enter cinemas fr watching such movies(i suppose i saw atleast 9-10 kids watching DELHI BELLY in my hall 😛 )

    now if u blame AMIR KHAN fr making such a movie i shall remind u that he did his job to entertain the audience and made serious efforts to instill it in adults to stop their underaged kids in watching it!! Ab bache movie dekhne jaa rhe hain to parents ko pakdo…bechare aamir ki kyun bajate ho? 😛

    bollywood is still far away frm wat HOLLYWOOD produces…i guess indian kids have full access to TORRENT fr downloading “AMERICAN PIE”….or shall the govt. limit access to such sites too!? 😀

    • Anonymous

      Dear Awesomely weird ,

      If the world were to hinge on sheer ‘entertainment’ only and nothing else- ‘what wud become of us’ ?

      Cheers !

      Akash

  • I appreciate ur motives behind writting this blog but i think we all need to see other dimension of media as well.
    I would like you to go in ur childhood for a while and think at what age you found that kids dont come via Bhagwaan ji via hospital via home. And when you found it out how much were u interested in it. Certainly we all found out these facts earlier than our parents and our parents earlier than grand parents. This unawareness till long age caused our population to grow over 1 billion. But now we see people more aware of population growth than before. we all ride the same cycle of time but the difference is new generations are quick…. at certain point of age we find the things that were being hidden by our guardian and like every single individual very soon we know about our favourite genre on porn websites. after engrossing our self in these activities we grow up and come to the age when these kind of blogs can be understood and liked. for understanding this blog u must have to go through the phase from which we want to keep our kids away. But media has been playing a role of catalyst and pushing youngers in this phase a bit fast.

    I really feel very happy when i hear my friends say that use protection even if you know other person for years. I dont think if the previous generation has thought same thing at their, this point of age. I remember an article from Hindustan Times saying that openness in media has brought openness in people minds. Now parents dont wait for their kids to find out certain things by themselves while they tend to talk about these things at right age. Girls who used to think that they have got some sickness with their puberty now well aware of their menstrual cycle.

    The fact that kids at the very little age are singing sheila ki jawani or calling someone Jungli Jawani is kind of our fault. as far as i have observed people want their kids to dance on or sing sheila ki jawani (evidence see youtube). why people tag their kids with them when they go to watch movie like Rockstar? or if kids learn to say jungli jawani at the age of six then i think this is the time that kid needed to be tell to not use that world again. and if kids really understand the meaning of jungli jawani at the age of six then let them learn things at their pace coz that kid might be the youngest CEO in the world.

    • Anonymous

      A fresh perspective and good perspective too Sneh …

      Keep on posting…

      Thanks !

  • Sak Princess28

    dis z super awesm…its d reality u hv discusd vd oll…..i like tidd…blog…n m fully in favour of ur blog too…

  • Mohakpachisia

    you do not know how happy i am to read all this.sex is so overrated in india. . .these days all crime etc is an output of mental disbalance created because peace of mind is lost.nobody knows of sexual transmutaion.when i talk about this to my friends they laugh it off,the wise lot gets it. .if we can control this negative feeling of lust we can control almost everything,every feeling of impatience and sloth.people,please control your lust and feel the difference.super hot girls are the most available trust me but when negativity of only lustful indulgence without love brindles negativity in your life,you would never be able to achieve the value happiness.pornography has polluted guys of my age.clarity of thought is lost.do not go to bankok idiots,take a trip to haridwar,stay in an ashram. .make yourself magnetic and not wasted.i felt puffed with postivity since whan i applied all this.try it,believe it.feel like a super hero,a real rockstar.success is a mind game!….love and regards

  • Abhey Sharma

    Mr. Gautam thanks for writing all these true statements….

  • Arnab Choudhury

    Very well thought Sir. I have felt exactly the same way after seeing that cement ad. Can’t agree more with anything else! But sir why are we so vulnerable? we are accusing the media..but don’t you the think the media shows what we want to see? the desires/phantasies are dormant within us..there is a controversy about whether advertisements can create needs or not..it can only create those needs which are silently residing within us and just needs to be provoked(otherwise we could sell condoms to childless fathers)..similarly the media shows those things that we long to see..that’s how God has designed us..Now if all the TV channels start telcasting bhaktigeeti 24*7 for 5 long years, do u really think we will be accepting them as gladly and will the trps be as high as of now?media controls the mind or is it the other way round?..It’s not the media who imposing such stuff on us..actually we have given them the cue to do so! But i completely agree with your perspective..the media has grabbed the cue with firm hands and is squeezing the juice out of it to death..exploitation comes from greed..and greed comes from need..we are both needy and greedy!

  • Shantanu.dd

    Mr author for delivering such a laborious still emphatic essay i congratulate you………..

  • Somya_42004

    each and every line is jus soo true.! awesome..!!!!!

  • Mayank Saxena

    SIR,
    y cant any one start a movement to change people through art! like by playing music! paintings! singing inspirational songs! giving messages online, sms, and so on…… y can’t we highlight our own role models!
    tell good things about grate people and inspire grate minds? please answer me sir… i am really confused and frustrated……….
    mayank saxena
    mayank.s31@gmail.com

  • I completely agree Akash. For just the lack of Marihuana I see some Bob Marleys around me (just attempting to adapt his style, not the revolutionary thought). And for the wannabe country, YES! We’re looking up to the most libertine nation of all times, a country that never had a culture of it’s own (leave apart the native Red Indians)- AMERICA, or as they call it- AMRIKA. Why so? Reason- According to a survey the average age of one losing his/her virginity in the USA is 16 years! And now I see my cousin sister who just turned 14 exclaim about her brand new boyfriend to me. Aren’t the margins turning noisy/dull?

    Here goes another example! When was the last time anyone saw a Hollywood movie with zero sex (or free smooches for that matter)? None? Damn! Yet they know to better regulate/rate their movies. A PG-13 does at least enough of work (at least they ensure that the “babies from heaven” scenario till the kids turn 13 if the parents wish). Here in Bollywood we have either a U (Senseless lower limit) or an A (Extreme upper limit). Now this is where the movie makers find their scapegoats in the sensor board and let the blames of cultural blasphemy fell upon them. We really need to look into the situation.

    Somewhere sex scenes have also followed an inverse scenario when compared with cricket. When it used to be a t-20 sex in the movies from the 80s & 90s, now the sex scenes have the longevity of a test match that begin with the movie and continue till the end (and not to mention porn as the ultimate match of all).

    But yes! There is good in movies that one shouldn’t neglect too. I tend to accept that part as well for I’ve seen movies like Rang de Basanti and Taare Zameen Par and have felt their impression upon me too.

    Cheers for the nice post. Felt like listening to you. m/ And for your kid, I hope he stays away from, at least, the dirty picture. Or else I can imaging the “bombat” scene happening. 😉

  • Rkpushkar

    i am totally agree with akash gautam sir , its doesnot matter what i take from the movie matter is today i am not able to watch the TV with my parent . after sometime you are also dad and poor childern ask you some question what i answer to them . this is the problem of today nobody are going to do something on this of course you can say you have a remote also with TV . but the main question is that what you watch on the tv if you are watchng a news channel you must have to watch advertisment and some rape news , advertisment of docomo ( four wheeler wali , cement esmain kuch khas hai ) of course i am agree with you people hum dekhte hai es liye banta hai , dekhne ke liye bhi ye media jimedar hai etna publishished karege ki aapko dekhna hi parega .

    RECENT NEWS MAHESH BHATT GOING TO MAKE JISM-2 WITH SUNNY LEON PORN STAR

    now a lots of news channel going to organised debate show wheather this is going to work or not . at this time movie is not realesed or shooting is not start but that is a news for ZOOM , E24 , etc

    how can you forget UTV BINDAS , all serial by this news should be ban immideately in india

    for example 1. meri to lag gayi … naukri
    2. emmotional atyaachar ,
    3 superstad
    if i am in review team i ban this channel immideately

    one question for you aaj se das saal pahle chaild yesa hi tha nahi to phir aaj kyo

    even if you are going to watch a cartoon tv waha par bhi ek larki dusre se kah rahi thi agar tum sart haar gayi to main tere boyfriend ko le lugi agar kal meri beti college jayegi to hum kaise kahege betu boyfriend mat bana ………………..mujburi hai hamko kahna parega betu koi pasand aaye to hamse bhi milwana kam se kam hamko to malum hoga meri beti ka dost kaun hai

  • Rkpushkar

    and one more thing very important what is against my culture you must have to avoid it if we donot follow relationship between ram sita and lakshman then what is the benifit of worshiping them . we must have to made progress in technology , economicy , but never forget our culture . today girls forget karwa choth and celebrate valentines day . even my father wish me on 1st jan but yaer first day according to my culture is holi . aap sab padhe likhe log hai aap parh kar dekhiye mir ko parhiye kabir ko parhiye tulsi ko parhiye pyar darshan ka subject hai pardarshan ka nahi . whatever is against my culture i am against that thing . it is not possible to teach every subject in hindi ……………

    it is not possible to tech medical science . engineering in hindi but it is possible to inculde hindi as a passing subject in every semester . if you want to study you must have to study hindi in every semester as a passing subject wheathe you are in class 1 or in M.SC. you must have to learn hindi as a passing subject in every subject . we must have to save my culture ……………..MUST

  • Anonymous

    To be very honest..I had to literally think twice before posting a comment here:
    Reason no.1: I share the same feeling many a times…
    Reason no.2: My user ID may sound a typical wannabe…but that’s what I wanted it to be so I have deal with both the pros and cons that come along…

    Now, this blog does give a nice view of how the things are happening in our everyday life today…
    But I would really appreciate if you could help me get over with some of my queries:
    1.Don’t you think this view is just like saying “The glass is half empty” and not the otherwise?
    2.Is this “SEX” and “Finger showing to crowd” a very new phenomenon…actually I felt that in earlier days people showed enough patience towards society’s baseless norms but today the attitude is like “Damn you ! I have had enough”…just read the lines of “Amar Prem” song “Kuch to log kahenge…” the lyrics show same level of frustration and a detached view of society..today we have same “views” but different way of presentation”

    Actually the list of queries may get pretty boring if I put them in one go…Let us deal with this lot first…
    (Hope I didn’t spoil the flow of comments-blog-reply … ) 🙂
    Thanks…

  • Aayush_lakhotia

    wish more and more people read this blog and understand what you are trying to tell
    i can relate to it even though i m only 25
    wherever one looks…kids are maturing so fast …..
    14-15 year olds are found in hooka centers , cafes…spending their tuition money trying to act cool
    wats worse in many cases parents support and feel proud of their kid s lifestyles!!!!!!!!!!!!
    the whole notion of friendship/relationship(boyfriend/girlfriend ) has broken down to just show off
    we are breaking a lot of relationship structures…copying what our movies and specially tv serials and news channels/papers show
    it seems today no one has faith((or respect for that matter) in anyone else(bitching is our new national time pass)…thanks to our serials
    and all absurdity is cool …thanks to the news channels, papers and general media………
    at a time when this nation should be working overtime to ensure that we fight over problems
    and that we grab the opportunity the current world situation presents us to be world leaders
    at a time when we should be busy working building our nation

    we are busy doing unproductive things
    the youth specially has come to believe that this is the way of life
    there is a serious lack of planning(one s own life, finances etc…)…in fact there s no planning …..
    we have already started living as if all that matters is scraping through this day…so why not enjoy it while it lasts…..as if there s no tomorrow
    what we as Indians are not realizing that as a nation of 125 cr ppl(approx) we will have to ensure ourselves that our basic needs,rights ,sovereignty are protected
    that we only will have to work to ensure that we are not abused in various forms by other people nations—-china related issues… being examples…latest in line being the bhagwat gita issue in Russia…show how lightly all nations take India and what is our real worth in the eyes of the world….
    all this makes one sad
    a drastic wave of nation building has to take place
    who s interested?????
    just an after thought
    china today contributes to more than 25 % of our gross DOMESTIC production(official figures,GOI)
    our major revenue generator is services…mainly catering to someone else s needs
    are we even assessing what our economy is based on??
    are we being robbed naked in full world view????
    when will we start building things by ourselves for ourselves???
    when??

  • Amar Ashish

    Usually i don’t read blogs but till date this is the most amazing and the best blog that i have ever read.. Those were the days when we used to watch serials UDAAN, NEEM KAA PED, and CHANAKYA on DD-1. The best thing was that the life was much easier and happier at that time… and now the reality shows like “Roadies” etc. these are not only making people violent but also making us fool, since these reality shows aren’t real…. contestants are forced to curse and act violent!!

  • Jaya Wahi

    JESUS!! Only you can write such amazing blogs Akash… Unbelievable… Love the metaphors, the contrasts, the anomalies, the parallels… One of your BEST for sure. Keep Inspiring. <3

  • Laveena Behl

    Amazing piece of writing.. Hats off to you sir for discussing about the most important chaos caused in social media today… movie makers in name of presenting darker shades of society, serve too much adult stuff… i even oppose the advertisements.. advertisements which actually do not tell what is the benefit and safety in usage of condoms, rather create curiosity among the little ones when such ads flash on tv while family having dinner, and at that instant the channel is switched.. why item songs have become like flavors of Indian cinema?? its not being bold n modern, we are turning cheap.. i just hope media remembers its duty.. entertainment along with awareness.. not destruction of moral ethics.. good job sir 🙂

  • Bharat Bhushan

    Great Job Sir Ji !

  • influnced.

  • prerna

    gud one sir….
    the same content i was discussing few days back with my friends and every one agreed upon that…

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