Very few Love stories in this ‘FB generation’ grow old. The infant mortality rate of love stories is the highest these days. People are confusing ‘Relationships’ with ‘Pre-Paid re-charge cards’. Unfortunately — ‘love’ these days serves the purpose of an exterior emulsion paint:  ‘Baahar kee deewar badhiya — andar seelan & deemak’  etc. And the question they ask is -“Bhaiya yeh deewaar TIKTI kyun nahi hai?” In such situations, sometimes when seriousness doesn’t work, humor does. This is my attempt at humorous and funny reasons to move on from a relationship – when you know it has run it’s course. It delves into the unmistakable signs that the end is near, and ways to move on happily. Dig in!

My biggest reason behind writing this post is to assist the beautifully young people who are ‘JUST stuck’ in the web of FMCG Relationships. I get many an email from frantic youngsters who believe their life is falling apart because their supposed partner left them. I want to ask them – to hold their horses. There’s much more to life. This post is a sequel to my previous blog post – ‘LovePal Bill For the Corrupt Dil; Best Relationship Advice Ever’ which was as crazy as this one is.

Sab / saare dost — ‘Relationships mein Vyast hain ; aur Zindagi se trast hain’.

The relationships — which are so confusing, complicated and energy sapping that one wonders —if they are actually worth the ‘Swaad / Chaska’. This blog post is slightly long. Recommend you to read it only when at leisure.

Am I qualified to write a blog as this? Well my CV gives me the confidence. I have had a few break ups. Some of them were ‘INDIA TV’ types. Every year; my work as a Motivational Speaker gets me to meet / motivate some 1.5 + lakh youth from India’s top Corporates, Colleges and Schools; & some of them do confess.  Can say for sure — I am representing 90% of the ‘today’s generation men’. The remaining 10 %( ‘True Love’ waaley Mard   ) can post angry comments at me (in the comments below) as they- I know are very good at pretending to be “committed”. And that’s why I can give you a hundred reasons to move on if your love life is headed nowhere.

Love is a beautiful feeling. His Holiness, Dalai Lama said it so right when he said —

The best relationship is the one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other’.

The following lines from a favorite Hollywood movie say it all:-

“Unless it is mad, passionate, extraordinary love…it is a waste of time. There are so many mediocre things in life….love should not be one of  them…”

So if a relationship starts with such an intense love the breakup chances are very less (close to 1%) and even in that 1% case there’s got to be something really meaningful for them to be separated. So with mutual understanding they can separate for a better life……

Was thinking about the lives of 100’s of people & found that majority of the problems in their lives are- ‘Relationship issues’ which are ego based. The smarter race sorts them out by ‘Talking out’ & by ‘Reducing the EGO’… Maybe this is a smarter & a simpler way of living life…

Ghalib sahib said it well — ‘Jis se mohabbat ki jaaye .. usse muqaabla nahin kiya jaata’.

It is important to understand the CT Scan (Andar ki baat) of —‘How all this ‘LOVE’ develops & where does it go wrong’. Since a man’s perspective is writing this blog— so please pardon the blog with some gender chauvinistic remarks. Women — I am sure should feel glad reading; as – here is presenting the ‘Real Man’s (MARD OF) Today’s world (the inside story).

The Placebo Effect

Dictionary defines the word ‘Placebo’ as ‘a  substance  having  no  medicinal effect  but  given merely  to  satisfy  a  patient  who  supposes  it  to  be  a medicine.

Men use ‘PRAISE’ as a placebo to feed the ego of the lady. Men have realized that ladies act / react to ‘words of praise’; the same way — as sodium catches fire when exposed to air. They the ladies will never admit it but — they just so much want to be praised. Men who are reading this- ‘Just recollect this — that whenever you have praised your lady — ‘Hasn’t she said — what? Say it again’ — because —She wants to hear it again.

Guys- don’t assume that she knows how you feel about her. TELL her. When you ASSUME in relationships — you end up making an ASS of U and ME. Tell her daily — the things which you like about her. Repeat them. Continued praise sets the germs of love inside.

Too much Pampering

But the problem starts when this need ‘to be pampered’ assumes disproportionately large sizes in our minds. Most women and men; I meet — I see them over doing things to :-

-Get LIKED
-Impress people
-Trying to be a ‘Hero / Heroine’ …

The need to feel ‘PAMPERED’ is the root cause of most of our ‘People Issues’, Emotional turmoils & Incompetencies. Remember the MOHRA song-“Mujhe Pyaar Karo..Subah se lekar Shaamtak..Shaam se lekar Raat tak..Raat se phir Subah tak..As if aur koi kaam nahi hai duniya me karne ko..If you keep feeling the need to be PAMPERED, then woh Din kabhi nahi aayega jab tum dono ek hi bachche ko PAMPERS pehnaao.   You are not your ‘FB’ status that people should LIKE you…Trust me – no one is Thinking about you ! Only you are taking yourself over-seriously.

 If ‘Tere Mast Mast Do Nain’ — is all it takes to take away ‘Dil ka Chain’ — then the day is not far when you will also sing ‘Main Jhandu Baam hui — Darling Tere liye’. 🙂

Fun or no-fun?

Ladies are more likely to get attracted to men with ‘a Sense of Humor’. Girls do not love SRK for no reason…  Men have realized that to get a woman to love them; they need to get her laughing. I see most men ferrying around women — while keeping on passing their stupid, silly jokes (and trust me — a few of them strike gold also). Someday — the lady begins to feel — ‘Ye mard mujhe khush rakhegaa’. Ya yeh MARD mujhe DARD ke ehsaas nahi hone dega” Amul Macho type feeling! Ye to bada Toing hai !

Girls do get attracted to men with a sense of humor…But I don’t think the relationship with such men would last long, because after a while the girl will start saying things like “Aap kabhi serious kyun nahi hote ho?”…”har time mazaak ni acha lagta”…”tum mere liye serious ho ya main bhi mazaak me hi hu?”

Sustained non-serious & foolish acts / jokes will never impress women. Try and strike a proper balance between seriousness and fun; only then the relation will last long — very long.

Judging by the Cover

Well, I find people to be confused in their own minds- at the outset of the relationship. They want too much e.g. usually girls want that the guy should be the ‘Macho’ of ‘Rab ne bana de Jodi’ or Rahul (Khuch Khuch Hota Hai) or Akash (Dil Chahta Hai) — but Dil se they need Mister Surinder Sahni of Punjab Power (Rab ne banaa di Jodi). Aur agar — package deal mein — ‘Caring nature, Possessive attitude, 4-6 Packs, Money, Car, Good Family, Sense of Humor, Dressing sense — aa jaayein to ‘Yo Baby!’ ho jaayegaa. Isko var maala daala to life jhingalala !!   

Girls packing pe mat jao ; andar ka gift important hai. So — girls apni ‘eye candies’ ke liye movies ka sahara lein; aur final decision mein ‘Brain ka bhi ishhara lein’. Women expect too much. Your man can not look into your eyes daily — the same way — he did — when he did for the first time.

Men — trust me; desire 10 times more than this out of their lady.

Gentlemen – When the lady is saying (usually she says) — ‘You just do not have time for me’. She is not asking for your 1 hour. All she needs is your 100% of the ten mins; when you are fully with her. Do not ‘Think else thoughts’ while you speak with her. And do not G-Chat/ FB Chat with other women — when yours is on the phone. TAMEEZ SE DHYAAN DO…  Gentleman:- You can make an IMPACT of 2 hrs with your 100% ten minutes’

If you’re after him — chasing him; trust me -he doesn’t want to get caught. . If he is yours, no one can take him from you. And if he is not, nothing can make it stay.

Cheater Cheater!

As I look around — I pitifully see that ‘Relationships ka spiderweb bana huaa hai’. I hear stories about one person dating 3, Relationships between cousins, extra marital, etc etc. Trust me- in sab fasaad mein

 ‘Swaad hoga ; par junoon nahin hoga’, ‘Chaska hoga ; par sukoon nahin hoga’

Love-Triangle-reasons-to-move-on
(Image courtesy: Livelongwellness.com)

There is no point settling for a secretly inferior relationship. Your standards should be too high for “something; as low as this”. No relationship/friendship is worth hiding. And if you still have to keep it a secret- to be happy, it is NOT worth having that relationship. It is fraught with so much ‘mental peace risks’.

Trust me — loving your own ‘old, boring, stale partner’ is much exciting & characterful in the long run than to lust / love that ‘exciting piece of furniture’. You will have shown so much character and divinity by being loyal with — ‘the one you have chosen to be with forever’.   Your secret relationship will never treat you like a ‘Priority’; but just like an OPTION .It is much better to be single than to be someone’s dirty and miscellaneous secret. Value the ‘KISS’ approach. Emran Haashmi waali nahin — Ranbir Kapoor waali (Keep it Simple silly).

Dessert in a Relationship

Emraan Haasmi se yaad aaya — ‘Post complete sex’ ; most relationships begin to dwindle’ . Trust me. That’s why — you must treat sex in any relationship as a sweet dish and not the main food. Ab tum sweet dish khaane ke baad- khana yaad nahin karte naa ?’

All relationships become boring after some time. They say — the real relationship / marriage starts after one year— ‘when — all the good talks are done,all the nice clothes have been flaunted, all the fab songs have been dedicated and all the sex has been had’. So, if your relationship is boring / is a drag —do not worry. It is normal. The problem comes when there appear some unnecessary & over stretched feathers in the relationships cap. 

What are those? Check for the ‘Current status’ below :-

Reasons to Move on from a Relationship; Signs you Need to Identify!

Don’t let it reach a point where your relationship becomes a ticking time bomb, that could explode your life to pieces. When to walk away –

–   When your FB  life status says — ‘It is Complicated’ — Break up. Move on, if despite all your efforts it hasn’t sorted out. There is more to life.

–  When there is more seriousness in your conversations than laughter and lightheadedness — when throughout your meeting/ late night telephonic conversation – you maintain a stupid, constipated look.

–   When you have to think before speaking your mind i.e. when you cease being yourself

–  Daily fights, one gets angry and the other consoles and vice-versa.

–  When talks like these start “main pehle tumse milke bahut khush rehti thi , but ab to tum bas ladte rehte ho”…

Strict no-nos: Absolute Reasons to Move on

Adultery

– Disloyalty / Infidelity is not allowed in relationships. Number portability and dual SIM cards — whenever discovered — should be used to ban the outgoing / incoming of any kind. Usually people in such relationships say that the ‘spark is missing in their relationships- that’s why they went out’. Ab bhai — spark kahaan se aayegaa ; tumhara spark plug to kissi aur engine ko spark de raha hai 🙂  

Remember, adultery is a CONSCIOUS choice you make. It is not something that just happens.

Abusive Relationships

Be it mental or physical, abusive relationships should be stopped immediately. When a man is in a abusive relationship; the whole relationship is threatened.(mostly happens in Punjab after 2 pegs–   teri bhen di -tu us munde naal kiwe gal kiti etc. ) There are major consequences that can come from an abusive relationship.  If you are in an abusive relationship, it is time for you to walk away from that relationship. It doesn’t matter if you still love your boyfriend or not, this is a good reason to breakup.

I would want to say men suffer equally but sadly, in India major majority of victims are women, and men – stupid idiots. Girls — you deserve a better man — if your man treats you just like ‘Nothing’. It is your problem then — ‘If you call him your everything’. Move on! DARR ke AAGE Dusra PREET hai  ..You deserve someone better. If you cannot love yourself — no one else will ever be able to complete you.

If someone starts backing away, the worst thing you can do is to chase them. Give them space & let them figure it out.

The biggest reason to move on – If it is not helping you ‘Rise and be better’ ; if it is not inspiring you — WALK away… if you find yourself getting worse, day dreaming more, working less, being less passionate about your dreams — IT IS NOT LOVE.

Love as an emotion, is meant to inspire — if it is not inspiring you to be better — it is a waste of time. Quit the person; as you would quit your Job — as the person is always demoralizing you. Adjustment jaroori hai ; par do not compromise your dignity and self-esteem(tedha hai par mera hai; har jagah applicable nahi hota). See if there is a repeat pattern about this thing. If it is — Cut the crap! You are beautiful — remember this. There are many beautiful concepts waiting for you. Go and claim.

chain se sona hai to jag jao…..aur us gadhe ko chhod ke; kisi aur ke sath bhaag jao

Whoever told you love never ends; made you grow up with crap! I would squarely blame Bollywood for feeding this hogwash into many heads. Like ‘AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER…’

Don’t always keep doing Ctrl S (Saving) for everything in life- especially a relationship that you most certainly need to Ctrl + Alt + DELETE. Jab kuch galat hum likh dete hain, usko delete karna chahiye, save karke apne dimag ka hardware crash nahi karna chahiye. (DIMAG KA DAHI NA KARE aur lassi to bilkul hi na banaye )

It is fallacy that you will be alone & lonely if your relationship is over. You will be the most emotional person around and that emotion will be happiness — if you have just let go the WRONG person from your life!! Try it.

The moment you truly believe — “I was happy being single” – is the moment you should be one. If you believe there is a reason why you met the person, you should also believe that there should be a reason why you must break up. Take the learning and ‘Move Ahead’; while you prepare for the right one. That’s it.  Do not visit their FB Profiles time and again. Kyunki khuch daag achay NAHIN hotey. Dho Daalo !

Don’t waste your tears on some stupid loser who wasn’t worthy enough — build a bridge over that river and walk over it! Here, 8 Great TED talks on Love that will open your eyes!

Be ‘Classy’; not ‘Messy’. And if you meet your ex-lover again; at a party /market / else — maintain your dignity. Walk like ‘Class’. Melodrama / Anger / Emotional Crap will sink you more down then. All ex-lovers must be given a second chance; but with someone else. I have found Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev’s ideas on love pretty rational and identifiable. Do check it out!

A break-up should not change you. It should just change the name of your weekend date. Your story cannot finish / should not become tragic with someone’s leaving. It should go on. (interval ke baad usually picture achhi hoti hai ) so brace yourself; for the coming part. It may be the best.

As Oprah Winfrey said it so finely — ‘Some people are going to leave. But that’s not the end of YOUR story. It’s the end of THEIR part in your story’.

Almost everyone in his / her life faces break ups. It is how you carry yourself in those situations — will count! Sometimes- you need to abandon ‘MAGIC’ for ‘LOGIC’. There is no point watering your weeds. Your life can never move forward; until YOU DO.

I cried every time; when I broke up with my favorite lady. I thought — the world has fallen apart. I loved those ‘Judaai’ songs then. ‘ISHQ AB KARIYO NA type ke gaane sunta tha…’ But — read carefully next — ‘I do not even know — where those ladies are these days and they have mothered whose child?’ Faaltu mein senti huaa 🙂  / Apna time barbaad kiyaa. Aaj jab wo kissi aur ke ghar ki bijli banni huin hain — it wasn’t worth naa then??

Remember — ‘Jawaani ke bahut kum rishtey aapkey pati / patni bantay hain’. Sab pe menti-sental nahin huaa karte’. Apni bijli khud bachao

If you cannot ‘Love’ yourself — trust me — ‘there are many more break ups waiting to happen in your life’. Counting start kar do. Sansani 🙂

Ladies & Gentlemen – If you’re worrying about your love life and your   ‘marks in board exams’   at the same time; trust me — you are too young for the former. Saari zindagi yahi to karnaa hai. Abhi zyada zaruri padhna hai … DIL TOH BACHCHA hi RAHEGA JI  (Personally experienced)

I love writing about love. Sadly, it is a recurring need among many youth. And there are so many brilliant perspectives about love and its many faces. For e.g. here’s what Warren Buffet would have said if he were to give you relationship advice. I know it is easy to give you reasons to move on but difficult to do so. Here are a few Motivational Ways of Moving on.

And in case you want to invite me over to talk to your team members / fellow students about life and relationships, I have a talk called Lovepal Bill. I try to debunk myths about life and love, and my aim is to provide people with more fool proof ways to sort their heads and hearts so that they can enhance their personal and professional lives fully!

Shine on !

Akash Gautam

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Akash Gautam is a Motivational Speaker & Corporate Trainer in India. Hundreds of Top Corporates like Google, CIPLA, Vodafone, McKinsey & Co., Maruti, HDFC, RIL, M&M & premier colleges like IIMs, IITs, SRCC etc go to him whenever they need a refreshing, big bang impact. Write to usWrite to us to know how he can transform your Team.

  • This is a bloody long post Gautam. I guess the primary reason for relationships getting screwed these days is the increased expectations that both partners have from each other and the highly inflated sense of self forth that they have of themselves. Relationships are bound to be stressed. Women are the worst hit as a result of this. But this is not a recent thing anyway. How many people are happy in marriages in India? Just because they are not getting divorces does not mean their marriages are successful. The Supreme Court recently observed in a divorce case that if marriages are made in heaven there must be something seriously wrong up there because they are just not working out. I personally do not believe that marriage serves any purpose in the society except legitimizing children and fixing legal responsibility on the parents. The cultures where this requirement is absent, marriage is also absent or at least has a very fluid design. Does that mean people should not get married? No. But does that mean marriage as an institution is desirable? No it is not. We have several institutions that are not desirable. But we still have them. Parliament for example! In the end, life just goes on, the eternal journey of pain and suffering which it is (words of Buddha, not mine)

    • Anonymous

      Hi Khagesh ,

      You’ll always have a new , fresh perspective. Keep writing ! It makes the ‘thinking rich’. Thanks

      Akash

      • Saurabh

        yaar,,first time met someone like you who is so positive,so cool,so calm. and yeah,it was not long at all. bht mazza aaya padke.

  • Manish

    fantastic!!!!!

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !!

  • Nidhi

    nice one sir…i desperately needed a post lyk dis…

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !! Happy to Help …

      • Guest

        we don’t need others post to know what love is 2day….and how to deal with it ….:)

      • Ossum post n realyyy mind blowng
        keep rockng 🙂

  • Amit Upadhyay

    Interesting read, and with much to learn. Thanks Akash..!!

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !! Happy to Help …

  • Abhisheksingh

    sir thanks for guiding us

  • Agaraja

    stupendous !!! a fantastic work ..

    • Anonymous

      thanks !!

  • shirsh

    fantastic article..
    am jus’ lovin’ it…………

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !! Happy to Help …

  • Titikshatiwari

    supercalifraglistxpaliadocious 🙂

    • Anonymous

      ? 🙂

  • Apoorva

    wow sir !!! another fantastic and motivational blog……..

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !! Happy to Help …

  • Awesome… Mindblowing … fantastic… speechless… Fantabulous…

    I think this blog would definitely help me later in my life…:)

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !! Happy to Help …

  • Karishma

    it was wicked and very true but i also agree with Khagesh… just coz they aren’t getting divorced doesn’t mean they r happy together.
    I don’t know….. u must have noticed, more then adjustments it’s abt right kind of adjustments…. i see so many ppl who just altogether stopped doing some things coz their partner don’t like it or commented on it (as normal as painting or watching some particular show ) and later they ply in on as bigggg EHSAAN…. “mene itna kuch kiya tumne kya kiya????”
    And so many long term unhappy marriages where the partners are not even talking now but they r still married.
    Love or arrange… doesn’t appear much different

    • Anonymous

      u have a point ! Thanks

  • Sudhir

    “Love as an emotion, is meant to inspire – if it is not inspiring you to be better – it is a waste of time.”

    this line is the most realistic, i felt because in my relationship i also saw that there was a time when i was at pinnacle in my studies and in all other activities,with her and i believe that it was just because of her but after sometime our relation gone to its worst stage and i went down and down in 2 months then i decided to move ahead and i am feeling that i am again on my track.

    • Anonymous

      OK …Hmmmm !!

  • Nikita

    U rock.. U actually do..:) awesome post..

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !!for ur nice words

  • Priyanshis7

    its very very nice sir,,!! specially d way u write…!!
    you r truly motivator… as i was remember..,, u took d session of vocab. in gwl. nd here again..!!
    BEST OF LUCK..

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !!

  • Ankita

    An eye opening blog for those who had ” tazza taaza” break up….:P

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !! Happy to Help …

  • Shubahngi

    tws suprbly n unbiasdly pendwnd..

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !! Happy to Help …

  • Akanksha Ahuja25

    it was just awesome post sir!
    i realised at the end of it that it was so long…i was so glued into the intricacies of expresssions u have used that i wanted to read more n more n more…
    amazing!

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !! Happy to Help …

  • Anonymous

    Thankyou B’ful people for all your nice words …

    Happy to ‘write’ … more n more …

    Akash

  • Sdhanawat6

    Just one word– AWESOME

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !! Happy to Help …

  • Abhishek Bhattacharya

    Hilarious one liners all over the post!! Had a lot of fun reading it

    • Anonymous

      Glad u liked !

  • Abhishek Bhattacharya

    Hilarious one liners all over the post!! Had a lot of fun reading it

  • Love as an emotion is overrated. In reality there is no such thing as love as it is projected to be in movies and romantic novels and what not. See, the person whom you love can fall out of your favors by doing something that can snap the ‘love bond’. What people do not realize is that they don’t love anyone, what they love is the idea of love. It is like religion – believing in god and believing in the idea of believing in god are two separate things often confused with each other causing much problems.

    The authority to support my point can be found in Mahabharata itself – undoubtedly one of the biggest epic stories ever written. It has all sorts of characters, situations, moral dilemmas, emotions and what not. Mahabharata says that the only pure emotion is revenge. I find that to be true. Similar point is made by Homer in Oddessy as well. He describes various types of angers – the most authentic being the wolf’s rage – which is actually revenge as described in Mahabharata.

    We don’t love anyone, except ourselves. True Love is a myth found only is stories. We get caught up in the hype and start demanding the same out of life. In true life, nobody loves anyone but everybody loves the idea of being in love. And thus the life goes on. A whole big bubble of a big myth that we live in.

    • suruchi

      i totally disagree…… love is the emotion described infinite times in many hindu epics….but u seemed to have learnt fro mahabharata only….. jisne kabhi kisiko ( read parents ko, friends ko, sisters ko not only spouse ko ) kisiko bhi pyaar kiya hi nahi , vo pyaar ko kya samjhega…

  • rahul ranjan

    I am changing d way I use to think…..!! thnk you so much

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !! Happy to Help …

  • Gunnerforlyf

    hahahaha…a bit long,,bt vry meaningful…n d best part ws dat”aftr 2 pegs wat happens in punjab”…i wd lyk to ask u sir…u hv actually seen it urself,,or jus heard abt it,,,cz m a punjabi,,,n i hv seen it,,dne it,,,n i knw,,,its wrng..bt it 100% happens…..

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !! Happy to Help …

      Yup !! I saw /heard people doing that

  • SR

    Post is as if every girl should have or havnt yet should start thinking about it and break up as soon as possible, atleast they should be able to find a reason for break-up! you are the only stud and they should come running for you! anyways I liked the humor, so may be the humor-paragraph is very much apt for you! good luck!

    • Anonymous

      Hello Ji ,

      U r right ! I agree with u. Rather there will be sufficient number of people in the world who shall agree with you …

      ‘If I look to make everyone happy ; I’ll be so unhappy & boring ‘ ; JUST A THOUGHT…

      No one in the history could make ALL happy.

      Lakhs who visit and read this blog every month ; I am sure – if 90% of them find value – we have done our job. Results say – 99% DO.

      1% WILL EVER BE complaining / unhappy …

      But a feedback is a feedback.

      Sorry but – I will keep on writing more ‘BAKWAAS STUFF’ ; as I write for the 99% ; not for 1%…

      Thanks

      Akash
      Moderate

  • Erhimanshuee

    bakwass ekdam

    • Anonymous

      Hello Ji ,

      U r right ! I agree with u. Rather there will be sufficient number of people in the world who shall agree with you …

      ‘If I look to make everyone happy ; I’ll be so unhappy & boring ‘ ; JUST A THOUGHT…

      No one in the history could make ALL happy.

      Lakhs who visit and read this blog every month ; I am sure – if 90% of them find value – we have done our job. Results say – 99% DO.

      1% WILL EVER BE complaining / unhappy …

      But a feedback is a feedback.

      Sorry but – I will keep on writing more ‘BAKWAAS STUFF’ ; as I write for the 99% ; not for 1%…

      Thanks

      Akash

  • Anonymous

    Hello Ji ,

    Thanks for you kind words of appreciation for the write up…

    ‘If I look to make everyone happy ; I’ll be so unhappy & boring ‘ ; JUST A THOUGHT…

    No one in the history could make ALL happy.

    Lakhs who visit and read this blog every month ; I am sure – if 90% of them find value – we have done our job. Results say – 99% DO.

    1% WILL EVER BE complaining / unhappy …

    I will keep on writing more ‘SUCH – My kindaa STUFF’ ; as I write for the 99% ; not for 1%…

    Thanks

    Akash

    • avi

      well said sir..

      • Anonymous

        Thanks Avi 🙂

    • Sujaya Sharma

      Thanks….sir, I read it all!!!! Its really worth reading.”I WRITE FOR THE 99%; NOT FOR 1%…..”
      so true.

  • Priyanka

    a bit long…….. but seriously its awesome nd more helpful 4 those who had brkup recntly……sir wana read more abt relantionship nd love…….

    waitng 4 another blog…………

    • Anonymous

      Thanks !! Happy to Help … The next blogpost on relationships shud come around Diwali …

  • varinder chaudhary

    I have past n u too (ALL)have the same .Lot of encounters mostly successful and unsuccessful.This topic reminded me of all my girlfriends I ever had ………….Nice feeling. Keep writing Akash but make it bit shot………

  • awsm posts! hillarious!

  • Deepikasethis15

    nice write up and its applicable in not just relationship of love but i guess smtyms in frndship btween gal n boy

  • V Angel09

    This is really Nice..:))

  • riddhi kumra

    i d likes it :)..intrstin 2 read

  • jevita

    This is the first post of urs,which i hav read….nd after reading it feeling gud,bcoz it is so simple to understand…

  • Gourav

    really nice one

  • Anamika Jain

    sir … I am a big big big big big fan of yours.. 🙂 .. just love this post .. You are just awesome ..

  • simply fantastic sir!! 🙂

    m proud 2 b single…. :))

    but dis post may help me later… ^_^

    thanq.. 😉

  • love reading ur posts …This one is Fab tooo …. did’nt realize when it ended .. wanted to read more …. teaches a lottttt … thanksss !! Regards

  • The best part of the blog!!
    Girls packing pe mat jao ; andar ka gift important hai. So – girls apni ‘eye candies’ ke liye movies ka sahara lein; aur final decision mein ‘Brain ka bhi ishhara lein’. Women expect too much. Your man can not look into your eyes daily – the same way – he did – when he did for the first time…

  • apoorva

    hahaha..!!! For me the best part was, “If you were eagerly waiting for this blog post, you are in dire need to break up” , as I was EAGERLY awaiting this !! 😛 😛
    Fantabulous and sooooo true to real…
    Akash sir, aaj aap bhagwan ho gaye..!! KEEP RITING ALWAYS 😀 😀

  • Rajendra Latwal

    Good one akash , it will definitely help those who has got minimum .001 % sense of humor & hope fully will get some benifit.

  • Ayush

    Hi Akash! That was certainly an eye opener Post from you. kaahe ka burden daalna apne uper jbki woh kisi aur k ghar k bijli bani hui hai 😀 :D. Also, I feel that marriges specially love marriges do not work after some time because both the partners showed only their better part before marrige and the bitter part becomes visible when they live together. If both become honest right from the starting of their relationship the bitter part would be visible and then there will b no situation like divorces etc.

  • awesome like your previous blog..:)

  • sir when u r writing blogs for single/ individual….
    and also gv them to tips….whetehr to go 4 love or not.. if go for love… then hw to start…

    After tat u surely… motivator, trainer, and LOVE GURU ATB 🙂

  • Varsha727

    It means if a lady after marriage starts thinking that I was happy being single, then she should take divorce from her husband ??? Did akash mean to convey this kind of message for the persons who are in a relationship ????

    • Saurabh

      haha 😛

  • roy george

    soooooo…. true 🙂

  • jyoti singh

    awesome sir ji……………..

    • Anonymous

      thanks Jyoti 🙂

  • Soumavadas1

    A very long session with some drama with unnecessary suggestion to break up. Break up is like an express train of happiness which vanishes too fast and Goods train of sadness enters as we start feeling the void of the loved one.

    Nice but short and crispy will be much better. Big gyans must come compressed and get decompressed in our head. Negative suggestion to achieve positive result is not encouraging rather positive suggestion to make life positive is much nearer to perfect. Don’t suggest to break up but preach the ways to make everything OK in relationship.

    Liked your spirit. I wish you bring a change for good. 🙂

    • Hi Soumva

      Criticism taken … I will try my level best to do better in the coming posts 🙂

      Thanks

  • Dlsfjdk

    this is full of crap…

    • Mohak Pachisia

      Meet me outside this web world. .

  • Arunima

    Mr ‘This is full of crap’ … (sorry u didn’t tell us your name) before criticizing can u pls have the GUTS to tell us who u are …

    Or u are just like those anonymous criticizers who are too confused to FACE THE TRUTH even if it dances naked on your face …

    Learn to accept the truth / at least be brave enough to show your face and stand by what u think is crap !

  • Saurabh

    first of all, try to understand what he wants to convey before doing anything for publicity :P.
    The crux of the above post is that we hardly have the time to invest in relationships. There are many other things to be done,many goals to be achieved and many destinies to be created. But from your reply, it seems you have done nothing in your life(no offence) except from switching over from one relationship to another 😛 . So, Ms.Priyanka (Love GURU :P) , kindly come out of your “SUPERFICIAL” world and kindly invest yourself in doing something constructive.

    • Anonymous

      Saurabh … yes. that is what I wished to convey. Glad u got it right ! 🙂

  • Anonymous

    Hi Priyanka

    I am sure I couldn’t communicate myself properly; given communication is all about how we perceive it.

    what I wish to convey from the blog is – u can be ‘not morose’ and live a normal life even after u break up rather than dragging that relationship. the most fantastic relationships of my life have never given me a hangover 🙂

    the blog certainly doesn’t talk about quitting / zabardasti breaking up as- the next on this blog itself is ‘building fantastic relationships’.

    Being a motivator, I certainly do not propound quitting. But, I believe we all need to understand when to stop. and that is what this blog is all about.

    Yet, these are (as u rightly put) my opinions & experiences. One can always choose to differ 🙂

    Cheers !!

    Akash

  • Vivekjamwal

    awesome post bro……….

  • Mohakpachisia

    God bless you sir,this is amazing how you selflessly light candles of value righteousness in lives of people who read your posts.let people say what they say,sooner or later the’ll realise that only dead fish swim with the stream.keep inspiring us…love and regards…

  • Prabhat

    Haha this was the first post i read on this blog. And you must have done a lot of hard work to arrange so many versatile thoughts at one place. Nice effort, i like it. It was very good with some special “Tadka”. In short swaad aa gya 😉 Keep writing such good stuff, i really wanted to read more but it ended…. 🙁 but it should be ” gagar me sagar” and not “sagar me gagar”. Really nice. Well done Ji 🙂

  • Prateek !!

    Hey Akash ,
    Indeed a long blog ;)but worth it although it was more from a feminist (want to read our part of story too :0) i feel the core issue is “Expectation” !! The moment the pyramid of expectation start building i feel like a MUMMY trapped inside its vicious circle every time and i try to run away !! Found the solution – will make her read ur post , a hope for a possitive impact 😉
    Keep Bloggging –
    Cheer’s !!

  • Vijeta

    Gudevening Sir,

    Ur this post has done wonders in my life, i was struggling through same phase from past 4yrs n dint knw wat to do …this post has compltly changed my mind set . I m feeling so confident , rejuvenated n full of life nw.Thnku so much .No words can explain my gratitude twrds u .

  • This blog has done wonders in my life sir.

    Thank u so much

  • Abhijit mahato

    lakh lakh thank you sir for motivatiing…

  • Abhijit mahato

    sir, i have lots of problem in english (speaking and also listenig,understanding)…sir i’m tring but after six month i am at the same place where i was started, i don’t know i can i improve. i cant speak in front of our classmate, teacher…even in front of mirror…darr jata hoon apna enlish bolna dekh ke…please do some thing sir. i just hate myself..

  • Menkadalal

    awesomly written AG.. i recently broke up from my 3 year relationship. i use to say the same things to him. par wo samajhta hi nahi… i wish ki wo ye blog padhe or use thodi samajhdaari aae,,.
    BTW thanks for such an awesome blog..

  • Arman

    Thanks for this…… It is really helpful….. 🙂

  • Anu

    after reading ur blog m feeling to move on to get the after interval wala part.

  • Gayatri Birla

    Loved it! After a long time enjoyed reading something as much as this…it covers all aspects of a relationships and reasons for break ups!…You have absolutely delved deep into the subject and explained it in a spectacular manner….
    Looking forward to more wonderful articles!

  • Anamahmed05

    super amazing blog feed..today i attendd d lovepal bill sessn n luvd evry bit f it.:)

  • Mansikapuria008

    nyc p0st…n sum lines were just AWES0ME 🙂

  • zoya

    U TALK SENSE SIR..THANK U! 🙂

  • Pavneet Singh

    Kya baat hai bhai maza aa gaya pad ke

  • Abhijitroy837

    vry corrct sir…….

  • Dhruv

    MAN!!! YOU ARE JUST AWESOME :-)))

  • Snehaa34

    But what if you have lost the love of your life due to some mistakes and want him to be back??

  • Divyajagdeep

    belated reading on this blog gave me an extreme sense about our life the way we overgrow our own thoughts and emotions
    break ups are never easy and it is easier said than done to move on
    i dunno about kids these days its more of facebook relationships perhaps it is in fashion to write relationship status “complicated ”
    but in a way it is good its easier for them to cope up with breakups and move on…..

  • Mahapatra Anjan

    shoddy writing

  • AKASH SHARMA

    Maja aa gaya……Now i m frilicking

  • hi akash…
    ur blog is really refreshing to read…
    okk, lets take a situation…..wen 2 ppl are almost bst frnds
    d guy is flirty….bt nyc and genuine… he normally uses the phrases while talking to his frnd…like.. “tje mujh se better koi nai milna” or ” apne dad ko kehde tere lie ladka na dekhe..3 saal ruk ja fir tje ghr se utha k le jaunga..”

    wht wud u say to dis? is it real or jst fun…
    can boys go to dat extent to jst go 4 tym pass and dat too 4 their closest frnd whr d chances of turning to relationship are max…
    the major part of the scene is dat dey are far 4m each other…in separate countries, so conversation frequency is really poor…

    and suddenly d guy says he is liking his classmate dre… things are confusing as wht was earlier and whts now?

    how ever d guy doesnot knw dat d girl has become serious 4 him based on such sentences…

    wht do u suggest next?

  • facebook

    u simply rock SIR JI…awesome awesome n awesome !!!!!

  • rhythm

    this z d best advic sir i cn ever get,,,thanku so mch…

  • anurag

    what do you think about feelings????
    i mean we are humans not machines k han yes ye ho gya ab tum change ho jao …..move on!!!! koi or solution nhi hai its not london its India yaar

  • nency

    jst awesome!!! I hd a break up recently n ws nt at all able to concentrate on studies…bt aftr reading ths- ‘no more dimag ka dahi aur lassi to bilkul bhi nahi’…he he he!!!

  • ritika

    This is something for i was looking up to..:-) u write really good..
    Keep goin!!!

  • Radhika

    Akash, this post has been an eye opener, what u said about abusive men, it really affects a women’s pschology, i couldn’t agree more ! Thank you. God bless you 🙂

  • aditi

    An eye opening blog for people like me who is going through this post breakup trauma. . It will be very helpful to me..thanks akash. . And I m really looking forward for ur more posts…

  • Manisha Arora

    too good post…loved it !!

  • sangeeta khanna

    hahaha…hilarious but refreshing!!!!!

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  • Anushka

    Very well written. However just want to add one more point. You cannot replace magic over logic instantly post break up. It’s ok to be sad, to cry over and take everything inside that is bothering you. But you gotta know that it’s all gonna be fine after sometime. It will take sometime when you will see the logic behind that bad realationship. The worst thing you can do to yourself is to always carry that sadness and regret with you forever and never seeing the bigger picture. Accept it that every one is here in your life for a reason. To help you grow and make you the person you are meant to be. Its so liberating then. But for now you can cry your heart out for that recent break up of yours. 🙂

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