The most intimate acts that one does for self & which are most gratifying to the core are:
Meditation, Sleeping, Silence, Fitness, Quality Eating, good Bathing, Deep indulgence in your passions, Travel (without displays on Social Media) & most importantly meaningful steps towards one’s Goals in Life.
Not chatting, Not mobile phone, Not TV, Not Over-Ambition, Not friends or relatives, Not alcohol or intoxicants, Not Money Greed (as success here usually gets followed by periods of mediocrity & sometimes even failure), Not even Popularity or Relationship addictions or worrying about Uncertainties of future.
How much do you indulge with depth and regularity in former? And how much is your absorption into latter? Which do you soak in more – Former or latter ?
‘Growing Happiness’ is progressive indulgence in the former. For latter are the traps laid to lure you away from your simple & linear road to real happiness. Took me so many years to understand this simple difference between ‘Intimate Acts’ & ‘Illusory Escapes’ & the fact that former can make my weary mind levitate and latter usually would make it gravitate.
How to be Happy in today’s times ? Like a Drug Dealer- keep on silently and secretly gathering the former while hoodwinking the latter. The sooner you start doing THIS in your Life- the sooner you’ll become a Happy Guy’. And when you are even 25% on this road; you shall know that you ARE becoming a Happy Guy’. On this highway- more than Will-Power, you shall need the Won’t Power i.e. having the guts to say a NO to the latter while keeping on tapping into the former.
As Buddha said- ‘There is no way to Happiness. Happiness is THE WAY’. Become therefore, the drug dealer of happiness. A mafia lord – maybe in time :). Give your people a shock of their life by becoming that. For the best thing that you can bring into any relationship – is your own happiness (Nothing better).