Have you ever asked yourself, “Am I Wasting my youth”? If not, then you are probably not asking yourself the right questions. It is actually quite easy to know. Ask yourself – ‘Are you doing the MOST important things; that you could be doing or are you wallowing in moods, temptations and distractions’? 

There are distractions galore in this ever advancing world. Some are obvious while most are cleverly concealed for the understanding of a brain which is 15 to 35 yrs old. Most of us give in to those distractions & temptations just as easily as they come into our lives.

Stop. Take a moment. And think about what I am writing next:-

“If what you are doing is not taking you TOWARDS your Life Goals, it is taking you AWAY from them.”
Give this statement a hard thought and find out 5 things you do on a regular basis that are taking you nowhere. And with the limited time we have in our lives, to work on our purposes, wouldn’t it be a shame – to have wasted away most of it, gambled it away for pleasures that are momentary, ephemeral and addictive too? Social Media, Mobile Phone, Selfie addcition, Friends & their issues, Relationship issues & addictions, laziness, day dreaming, TV addiction to irregular sleep habits – the habit traps are many. How to get rid of bad habits- the practical way?

People of my age and beyond know the tremendous power youthfulness has. Having lived through it, we realize in retrospect – what amazing things we could have achieved, if only we had rerouted our focus locus to a more disciplined path. And that’s why I write this blog post. Don’t do the mistakes that your fathers repent. Youth is a wonderful time to be alive, to kill yourself working out of your comfort zone, to achieve your most huge-ass dreams. Sitting and whiling away your life won’t do it. Getting up and taking action would.

Youth is that time when you are mostly attachment free, there are not many family & money responsibilities, and you can afford to fall and learn. It is that time where you can get lost, lose yourself and then find yourself back too. But most of the youth I meet / talk to as a Motivational Speaker and Trainer, haven’t even stepped out of their comfort zones, they haven’t even started walking. All they do is – give in to the pseudo pleasures they have found by aping the western culture to the hilt. Reminds me of those lines –

“Manzil mil hi jayegi, bhatakkar hi sahi
Gumraahtoh who hainjoghar se nikle hi nahi”

(You will find your way eventually, even if you make a few detours. The truly lost are those who haven’t left the confines of their homes)

I want to tell everyone who is reading – BE AFRAID !!

Yes. I am asking you to be afraid. But of falling into the wrong traps, of wasting away this one shot at achieving your dreams. But never of failure. Every failed attempt will be a feedback. But you won’t be making those attempts if you are being too addicted to GOTs, BBs, GAs, F.R.I.E.N.D.S and hundreds of other sitcoms. And if you have to really watch them, take back inspiration, not addiction. Whatever you do, whichever habits you pick, move towards becoming invincible, unbeatable and just super-duper amazing. Strive to be the top of your field, be the expert in your area of expertise – not in partying away till wee hours of the morning and then going to work too hungover to feel the beauty of life lived in full senses.

I see so many young people – simply waiting for the weekend to drink and party away their exhaustion. How does that even work? You are not treating your sorrows. You are just handling them by keeping them at bay so that they come back more forcefully to you – next Monday. It is like numbing the pain, not treating it. Painkillers don’t make your pain disappear. They just make you forget there is pain. Don’t live your youth like you are constantly high on pain meds. They will make you an addict. Not successful, not brilliant – just an addict. To a lifestyle that is not doing justice to your being human.

The realm of the physical is not the only battleground where youngsters end up losing the time of their lives. The emotional plane is a battlefield of its own kind. Which is much more difficult to be fought. The country is currently trying to start the debate of depression, we are trying to get people to open up and speak about their never-ending grief.

But the question is – why do you have this grief? Sadhguru Vasudev Jaggi says, “If you are depressed, it means that you are generating a large amount of emotions and energy but in the negative direction.” Why would you want to live with that? That’s why this debate is important. If you find that you are grief-struck (not just sad) constantly and for smallest of reasons – please speak up. More often than not, a little support will help. But please don’t let the most precious days of your lives go up in smoke because you cannot manage your brain signals – especially when managing them isn’t that difficult.

Another aspect is that of relationship addiction. Sitcoms, movies, philosophies from people who should ideally be not allowed to talk at all – have led young people into believing that being in love with someone is an integral part of life. They couldn’t be more wrong. Why would you feel complete when you find a better (or bitter) half only? If you want love to be the guiding force of your life, don’t look for it in just one relationship. Make it the lens with which you view the world. Make it the most important philosophy of your world view. Be loving to everyone in your family and friends. Be loving to yourself, your goals, your dreams. And love with abandon, without care. But not carelessly. Love your life enough to do the right things, not give into the temptations of wrong things.

Have a massive love affair with your own life. And make that the best of your relationship. Love is a beautiful foundation. Why look for it in just one type of relationship?

In the trance of youth, people give so much time into these relationships, there isn’t much time left to make this world a better place by their unique contribution. Don’t be an addict. If you have found someone, awesome. Do not centre your life on that relationship but. The two of you look at a third thing together and create wonders out of it. If you haven’t found someone, that’s absolutely fine too. You continue being the breeze of awesomeness and the right kind of love will find you. 10 ways to Screwing your life between 20s & 30s.

Point is – never lose sight of your purpose, no matter what trials and tribulations life puts you through. It is your job to learn from them and move on. Don’t insult your human intelligence by wasting your life moping over your sorrows. People argue that it is one life only. Why not have fun and enjoy. Exactly my bargain! This is one life. Now that you have tried waywardness and indiscipline, why not try discipline and see – which works better for you. 

When I ask someone what they are doing and they say, “Time Pass”, I cringe. 24 hours – same 24 hours every genius got and every loser got. The difference – the world knows those geniuses. And we all know a few losers as well ( … don’t become one of those losers. Time pass = time fail !!!

Discipline may not be the rosiest of things. But it is your word, your promise to yourself. And what kind of a person are you, if you can’t keep a promise you made to your own self? I deeply admire those young people who are committed to their passions. It needs discipline and a Himalayan will power to be laser sharp focused about – fitness, skills, intellect, achievements. Among the millions of snobbish, vain youngsters who know nothing but whiling away time in shallow pursuits, when I see a young boy / girl putting in all their heart and soul for becoming fitter, acquiring admirable skill sets by working hard and non-stop on their follies, or just changing the world with one act of kindness every day – I feel like there is still hope.

And I want to share that hope with the rest of you – who find it easy enough to just sit in front of the laptop, binge watch or go on sitcom marathons and devote all their time to the Internet. Please don’t do the easy. There is swaad in it. But not fruits. Instead choose the right. The pride that you are looking to see in the eyes of your loved ones will come when there is ferocity in your run towards your goals. To become the cheetah who outruns the lamb, you first need to stop being the lamb.

You are right. It is just one life. And at the end of the day, it is your choice as to how you want to spend your limited, crucial time here. But then – do learn to live with the consequences of those choices as well. If you choose temptations, learn to live with failure. If you choose right action, enjoy the exhilaration of 100% attempt, if not success!

In your heart; you know it well that your life is meant for something much more. Something much bigger than the mundane trivialities which are hijacking your neural framework & engineering it towards mediocrity and eventually failure. Isn’t it scary that –‘Your whole life could turn out to be mediocre or waste’?

Darling ! Stop day dreaming or chasing the latest toys. Live Well. One Life. And it is YOURS only, not someone else’s.

Akash Gautam

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Akash Gautam is a Motivational Speaker & Corporate Trainer in India. Hundreds of Top Corporates like Google, CIPLA, Vodafone, McKinsey & Co., Maruti, HDFC, RIL, M&M & premier colleges like IIMs, IITs, SRCC etc go to him whenever they need a refreshing, big bang impact. Write to usWrite to us to know how he can transform your Team.

  • kamal preet

    good post sir

  • ALOK RANJAN

    Awsm stuff.

  • Akanksha Gupta

    Thank you for writing this. Just what we needed to read! 🙂

  • VISHAL GROVER

    As like always Akash Good & passionate writing, confirms you are awesome motivator, skillful writer and on top of it a clear perspective human being…but are their many people with that clarity, are these words not good enough for those few who have direction or atleast sense of direction, the ones who are stuck in general rat race where and more then that HOW would they find direction?
    Direction a perspective which many would say easy to find but few have found it themselves or have right knowledge to help others find it with ease, whats visible today becomes gloomy or virtually non existent tomorrow.
    Kindly put some light on the above mentioned HOW as well.
    Thanks
    P.S: Apology if my words are found to be in negative light but thats how life has become, negativity all around with very little positivity, your article does that so feel like writing and asking where and HOW!

    • Vijay Chacha

      Abbe tu iss larger than life chutiye ka sajja tatta hai ya khabba? Life mein agar ye naubat aa hi gai hai ki motivation ki zarurat hai, toh apne Papa se ek bar baat karke dekho beta, aisi chutiyon ke muh kyun lag rhe ho? Tum jaise bevkufon se hi toh inka kharcha paani chalta hai. Otherwise koi isse dus hazaar ki naukri de de toh mera naam Middhi (squished under the feet) Hui Tatti rakh dena. Agar mujhe isse kaam dena ho toh max main isse apne bache k birthday pe as an entertainer bulaunga, jismein isse joker ki dress pehan kar, chalaangay lgani hogi woh bhi 3 wannabe gaano pe – I would be willing to pay 500-1000 to him for that cheap act as per NREGA. As a matter of fact, if you google his name on google images, you would see a picture of him as a clown – I would want him to dance wearing exactly the same clown dress. Looks better on him than his own skin. Haha..bahaut hassi aati hai behn k lode pe.

      Sun bro, agar tere mein thoda sa bhi dimaag hai, toh ek baar neutral ho kar iss article ko padh, tujhe tatti ki bu aaegi. Bhai, internet ko itna mediocre content nahi chahiye.

      Samajh Bro, SELF-motivation se badi motivation kuch nahi hoti, agar tu self-start hoga life mein tujhe dhakke ki zarurat padegi hi kyun? Ab, agar willpower doob hi gai aur yeh naubat aa gai ki bahar se help ya motivation ki zarurat hai, toh zaruri iss dangar aur daffar ke blogs se dose leni hai. There are superb TED & INK talks, intelligent & educated people blogging, great movies & documentaries being released and exhilarating travel places to super charge you up. Abbe, choot k baal, ek baat samajh, ye nepali aasam ram bapu, jo iss dharti pe prakat hue hain, inko akal kisne di? Isse puch yeh kahan ka padha likha hai? Tum jaise iss-say chutiya ban bi rhe ho. Hassi aati hai jab tum jaise Akash Sir-Akash Sir keh k isse hawa dete ho.

      Dost, agar yeh duniya normal hai toh iske profession ki duniya ko zarurat nahi. pranayam kar, 1km bhaag, sports khel, khao piyo, aish maro – iss dangar k blog padh k apna dimaag pollute kyun kar rhe ho. Main isse 1 baar 10 min k liye Mumbai mein mila tha, muje itne plastic bande se mil k ghinn aa gai thi. Iska bas chalta yeh bees rupe ke liye mujra bhi karta wahan logon ko impress krne k liye. Main 3 sawaal puch k iski zindagi bhar k liye gaand mar skta hun. Apne bacchon ko shakal nahi dikha paaega uske baad ye. Isse puch agar yeh apne aap ko IIM se passout bolta hai, toh apni linkedin profile mein kyun nahi mention kiya? Main daawe k saath keh skta hun ki yeh IIM se passout nahi hai aur mere paas iske Mumbai k stand up show ki recording hai jismein isne IIM wali bakwaas mari hai. Bola na, impress kne k liye yeh publically autofelatio bhi kar skta hai. Gannd faila rha hai internet pe saala.

      bevkoof mat bano!

  • Anish Mahapatra

    Enlightened. Thank you so much for your passionate article. 🙂

  • Vijay Chacha

    Kardi tatti fir se internet pe, badbu mumbai tak aa rahi hai nepaliyon ke aasa ram bapu dwara likhe iss article ki!

    Bas karo bapu ab aap; aapke din gaye. ab padhe likho ka zamaana hai chichoron ka nahi. akal wali batein karo, samjho iss baat ko ki aap paanchvi class se tez hai (par chatti aur saatvi class se nahi 😀 ) aur aapke readers bhi paanchvi class se tez hain, yeh elementary gyan kis kay kaam ka hai yar! aisi baatein aaj kal log maa kay pet se sikh kay aate hain. Hatt chutiye

    Abbe ek kaam kar na – tere paas isse acche articles likhne ka dimaag toh hai nahi, kaafi freelancers available hain jo articles likh dete hain, aache colleges se hotay hain vo, IIM jaise, naam suna hai na IIM ka? Suna toh hoga hi, duniya ka tu chutiya jo kaat-ta hi IIM se hai!! Saale sharam nahi aati IIM ka passout bolte hue? Tere Mumbai wale stand up ki video hai jismein tune IIM passout bola hai, viral karun youtube pe?? Agar IIM passout hai tu toh linkedin profile mein kyun nahi likhta! Saalay vaise tu padha likha bhi hai? Apni qualification toh bata!!? Jahan tak maine abhi research ki, tu duffer hi nikla, public records mein tera koi mention nahi. Main digress kar gya—main keh raha tha ki bahar se articles likhwa liya kar, dufferon ki baaton se aage nikal bakri chod.

    Aur han, yeh logon ke laude choos ke jo comments likhwa raha hai na zabardasti, woh pata chal jaatay hain, at least ek natural comment khud likh k apne chamchon ko bol de post karne k liye, authenticity toh aaegi.

    Waiting for a chutiya reply on this comment, esp. by Nepali aasa ram bapu…

    P.S: Yar tu sahi mein chutiya hai, ab toh hassi aati hai teri writing pe 😀 😀 😀 Rofl!!! Ek toh zabardasti wali baat ho gai ki main tere blogs pe gande comments krun, ek hai ki dil se ganday comments nikalte hain..teri writing padh k ruka nahi jaata. Tu proof read bhi karta hai apne articles??, aur most importantly apni thoughts.?? kitni tatti thoughts hain teri..kamal r khan jaise bnde bhi hasse tere pe toh mujhe hairani nahi hogi. mera pakka vishwaas hai ki jaldi duniya ko pata chlega ki tu kaise bevkoof bna k unko paise loot-ta hai..humari company ka hi tune tel laga ke chutiya kaata. Sun ab ek baat, chahe main yahan anyn. likh raha hun, tu mumbai aa main tujhe face to face milna chahta hun aur yeh ek mard ka promise hai ki tujhe milunga,,nahi toh main teri shakal pe thukunga kaise!! 😀 Peace!

    P.S tujhe bhi apni shakal dekh k hassi toh aati hogi yaar, sach sach bata! bhai tu dickface gaali ka perfect example hai…lol..thappad padne hain tere kisi din tere..

    And publicly I want to ask you a question which Biswa also asked a guy who sat in the front row during one of his shows:

    “Ae TATTI tera naam kya hai?” – 😀 😀 😀 Credits – Biswa

    You would not get any comment from my end ab, on any article, ja khush reh, aish mar jaake, biwi bache toh tujhe bhi paalne hain, maine tere jaiso ki bund marne ka theka thodi liya hua hai

    par kabhi mumbai aaya toh iske neeche comment karna, airport pe tera vijay chacha aaega tujhe receive karne..you know why?? Because people are different!

    pyar,
    vijay chacha

  • Pritha Banerjee

    Akash Gautam Sir, Is there any way to connect with you personally and not through your agents or secretary?

    • Arijit Chakraborty

      😀 Phone Number?

      • Pritha Banerjee

        What is this? :/

  • Jack

    A dose of wisdom from a wise sage.

  • Nishant

    very powerful motivational thoughts sir … today i open first time your site i learnt a lot thanks want to stay connected with u sir

  • Prikshit Verma

    Well Well….nicely awake…….alarm…..very good stuff….and straight forward…..thanks for sharing .

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