My biggest learning about people is that ‘People are very different from each other and need to be handled differently & accordingly’. This statement is so simple and pure common sense but its low implementation is the only reason why so many of us have people issues with friends, relatives, colleagues, neighbors or even spouses.
People have been born and brought up in different circumstances / value systems – the reason why they are different. I travel a lot and meet all kinds of extremes. Some are over organized to a level that they might do sex while following the instructions from a manual. Others are so casual that they might not even consider who they are having sex with.
Some are extroverts & expressive and might just announce to the world when they fart. Others are silent kinds (& the extreme silent ones do not let even the unease of constipation show up on their faces). Some people express through words. Others through their writing. Many others do not express at all and expect the world to still understand.
Some are relationship addicts. They need ONE everytime. Very few remaining are loyal, dedicated & loving to ONE. Some outpour & over-express their love to their GFs/ wives even on FB & Instagram (Happy Wedding Anniversary to my Jaanu kinds; even if she is sitting on the adjacent bed). Others do not even express at all. Some love secretive relationships & private lives.
Some are bindaas & love having fun or jokes at themselves. And then there is this over sensitive breed of people in front of whom if I call a dog a kutta – they will still object and react as if I just became guilty of ‘human rights violation’. I understand that even doggies have self respect but why do u want to make me feel like from a more inferior to them race; if I did not have a sensitivity as cute as yours.
Some are poor listeners. They just have to keep on talking and giving unnecessary advices. They just so love snatching from your mouth- the glory of speaking. If your views differ from theirs- they will speak double to prove their points. Others are bindaas listeners. They usually go on to become awesome husbands.
Some behave like Sodium or Potassium (when exposed to air). Others are so inert that on some day they can confuse a Sunny Leonne with a Sunny Deol & react accordingly. A sense of humour today is as rare in people as finding an Imran Haashmi being cast in a religious movie. A genuinely funny remark might get a genuinely serious feedback about ‘How can you be so cheap’.
Some people need attention at any cost. Others can do anything to avoid meeting people. A lot of people love partying whereas some definitely enjoy their solitude. Some are usually always found online on whatsapp & some hate taking phone calls even.
So, people are different. None category of people is a wrong one. They are simply different. The problem comes that we want them to behave according to the way we like. How can they? The day we understood that ‘People are different’ – our people issues shall begin to decrease. Just because you love cricket; you cannot play Table Tennis like how you play cricket. Ditto with people.
Accept it! People ARE very different. You accept it but the question is when it comes to practical implementation – ‘On a scale of zero to ten; how well do you implement your acceptance’. Usually we fret, fume, and get angrier, disappointed or even shout at people. This shows our poor acceptance.
The earlier you begin implementing this lesson; the earlier will you will become a rockstar in people management. Or else, live the Star Plus Zindagi.