There is nothing sexier than an inspired & intimate conversation. Isn’t it? There is a lot of seductive appeal about people who COMMUNICATE it right in their lives.
Most people have a Vinegar approach to communication. They just do it ‘just like that’. Default mode. Chalta hai ! Khuch bhi ! They do not realize that ‘One can attract more flies with Honey than with Vinegar’.
Majority relationships (personal & professional) in our lives can get diseased & look less inspired because of the ‘lack of quality of Communication’.
What is that one thing which top achievers usually do very right in their lives?
My Answer: – They know the secrets of Communicating right with people around. The keyword here is ‘richness & craft in modulating your communication to get it right’. Also read:- ‘7 Habits of highly ineffective Communicators’.
And it could be with anyone. It could also be with your own self – truthful and unadulterated e.g. how often do you allow people’s non-sense affect your moods? One ability which can really set you apart from others is ‘your ability to avoid controversies in your life’. Some people just ATTRACT controversies especially small, petty people issues. Is not your life much bigger and more worth than that?
E.g. If you do not like someone’s face, IQ, maturity, personality etc — then please keep your opinions with YOU only. When you publicize someone’s oddities or make faces at them or prove to them that they are inferior- it is then that you attract social controversies.
I know it is very attracting to do gossip, to discuss people but it comes with a COST: your own mental peace will get lost in the barter.
When you are centred & not feverish in your communication with people who irritate you- your charm becomes manifold. Isn’t it? Personally I have realized a very profound thing:- ‘the more quiet you remain; the more dangerously powerful you appear to others’. Confidence is silent. Insecurity is kind of loud. If you are really confident; you will not need to prove yourself to people around.
Communication is like Smooching. Imagine if the other person is not interested? Holy shit! You’ll be doing an abuse of him/ her. So get your charms right … This is how you can do it:
So, these are the 9 mistakes that good communicators always avoid. You may call it 9 tips for improving communication or 9 things fantastic communicators do or 9 ways you can improve your communication skills. But for me, these are my learnings during my journeyings as a Motivational Speaker & Communication Trainer in India. I have canned them into 9 ideas for fantastic communication. Download, share, use, reuse, overuse. But USE. And learn. Because, that’s the only thing that I aim for ..